The GREAT SEX GLOSSARY

Bleach Blonde
      An inaccurate label, usually for a woman but can be applied to a man, who artificially lightens their hair. The error is in the name of the chemical used because one would not use household 'bleach' (NaClO as sodium hypochlorite) to lighten their hair. To do so would most likely end in unfortunate results, namely, chemical burns to the scalp and possibly at least temporary baldness. But using the phrase 'hydrogen peroxide blonde' while more accurate, doesn't have the same ring to it. See: "Carpet Matches the Drapes", Bimbo, "Blondes Have More Fun", Bombshell

"Blondes Have More Fun"
      Title of an album by British rock star Rod Stewart released in 1978, released by Warner Records. The album included Stewarts iconic hit da ya think I'm sexy which does not need to be quoted here. It is, however, worth noting that the rocker himself was a Bleach Blonde (which see).
      Of course the title of the album, and a song on its second side, was taken from the old truism that women, and evidently English rock stars, with that color of hair did have more fun, or at least Sex, which may amount to the same thing in certain circles.
      The issue was taken to the next level by another Bleach Blonde- Marilyn Monroe, in the movie Gentlemen Prefer Blondes with another iconic Sex Symbol, Jane Russell, see quote from her at Chaperone.

Blow A Kiss
      The original "Air Kiss" (which see). The practice is to Kiss the palm of ones hands with a closed mouth Pucker and suitable noise indicating that it is an Affectionate activity, then one extends ones hand horizontally with the palm up "so the kiss doesn't fall off" then one blows the imaginary token toward the receiver with a large breath similar to extinguishing candles on a cake. Usually the entire process is done with exaggerated and almost theatrical gestures and expressions to convey the most meaning possible.
      As is said elsewhere, this entire ritual is best left to children and those leaving port on a cruise ship or departing from an airport concourse. Compare: Air Kiss. Also see: Emotions, Kiss, Affection, Love, Pucker Up, and so on.

"Blow Up Doll"
      Somewhat derogatory term used for an inflatable Sex Doll, which see. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Blows
      Two primary uses.
      When used to describe something like a TV show or a sports team's season, it means the object being so described is really lousy.
      Fellatio.

Blue Balls
      Fictional condition related to Sexual Frustration, which see. There is no medical evidence that a lack of Sexual Activity results in any changes to the Testicles. Also see: Married Man.

Blue Laws
      Outdated and, most of the time, unenforceable laws, often still on the books, which prohibit certain activities which were often labeled Societal Evils (which see), at certain times, or by certain people. In many cases violation was a 'status offense' or misdemeanor which carried little if any penalty, but was more of an annoyance fine. Historically, under Jewish law almost everything was prohibited on the Sabbath. We can thank everybody from Constantine to the Quakers and Puritans (who reportedly posted their laws on blue paper, and which see in this Glossary!) for banning certain things on Sunday or in a particular location, such as an Adult Bookstore near a school, church, or cemetery. Also see: Sharia.
      A good example is the local regulation, found in many small towns, that prohibited the sale of things like Pantyhose on Sunday mornings as somehow Immoral (which see). As is the case in parts of New Jersey. In this case, the town of Bergen:

"On Sunday, the law says, it is unlawful to sell clothing, linen, lawn mowers, lumber, pantyhose and just about anything else except food, fuel and pharmaceuticals. Work may be done only for "charity or necessity." In Paramus, which has its own local blue law, the lawyer for the Borough Council goes to his office at the risk of a summons."
-Originally posted on nytimes.com

Blue Movie
      Obsolete term for an Adult Movie which usually appealed to a male audience and was usually shown in Art Houses (which see) or in other 'special venues'. Said movies usually featured long scenes of young women undressing and getting ready for bed and other non-sexual behavior. The term is directly related to Blue Laws which attempted (unsuccessfully) to regulate such content. Some of these appear to be tapes of Casting Couch (which see) sessions. Also see: Stag Film, Eight Millimeter.

Blush, Blushing
      Physical response to emotional state such as Embarrassment, anger, or Sexual Arousal, and even Climax and Orgasm, see said highlighted terms. The most obvious outward sign of such a condition occurring is redness of the face, usually around the eyes and cheeks, but may involve the entire face, neck, and further as the capillaries near the skin dilate and more blood flows near the surface causing the change of color and temperature associated with the act. Some young women have been known to become flushed (which means the same thing) from their foreheads to halfway down their chests, such a display can be very Attractive indeed.
      It is a myth that those of the darker skin tones do not blush. They do, and in the right light, or with a thermal imager, it can be seen. The phenomenon is part of the human condition and not an aspect of race.

Bodily Function(s)
      Such processes as required by the human corpse (and other animals) to maintain life, and more particularly, the end result of said processes including Defecation, Urination, Respiration, and so on. In some cases, particularly in some science fiction stories, Procreation and the act thereof, Fucking, is included in the list.

Bodily Orifice/ Opening, Body Cavity
      Any of the several naturally occurring, or surgically installed, access points into the body such as the Mouth, nose, Anus, urethra, Vagina, and others not usually thought of such as the ear canal and tear ducts. See highlighted terms.
      Said anatomical features are also subject to search by law enforcement as they also make for good hiding places for small valuable contraband such as drugs and jewelry. In most instances, specific language in a search warrant or extreme probable cause is needed before such a search can be conducted legally, even by the TSA. See: Strip Search.

Body Art
      Alterations to and decorative work done on a person's skin. See: Tattoo, Piercing, and Branding for permanent alterations. See: Body Painting for temporary alterations. Also see: Body Modification.

Body Building/ Builder
      An exercise regime, and related practitioner, with the express goal of increasing muscle mass, often to extreme proportions. Professionals will often use high protein diets and may take natural or artificial hormones such as Testosterone, which see, to enhance their performance, sometimes at extreme risk to their own health. See: Hard Body, Fitness.

Body Double
      Actress, or on occasion an actor, hired to appear Nude on camera instead of a Celebrity who is either too shy, or who feels they are above having to do such a thing as Gratuitous Nudity (which see). Rumor has it that several of the best known names in Hollywood have hired doubles to do their nude scenes, then lied about it to the press and their fans by claiming that it was them. If this is indeed true, said celeb should have to refund everybody that saw their movie what they paid for their ticket. See: Full Frontal Nudity, and related topics. Also see: Simulated Sex Act.

Body Language
      Nonverbal Communication (which see) based on facial expressions, gestures, tone of voice, overall body carriage, and maybe even pheromones. Could even involve some level of telepathy if you read the right articles.
      For our present purposes. This is how you can best tell if a woman is interested in Having Sex as it is very difficult to Lie with your body (unless you are in Congress). See: Arousal, Sexual Excitement, Coy, Lie.
"I speak two languages, Body and English." - Mae West (1893-1980)

Body Mass Index, BMI
      Fictional and seriously misleading number developed by political activists who believe that everybody else is overweight. The number is calculated solely from a person's height versus their weight. The 'index' does not take into account factors such as the percentage of fat to muscle, so a body builder's number may be higher than a 'couch potato' and indicate that they are obese. The 'index' has been discredited in most medical clinics but is still cited in busybody media reports and state schools. See such topics as Big Beautiful Woman, Chubby Chaser, Fluffy, Plump, Personal Ad, Statuesque, Substantial Figure, and related.

Body Modification
      Intentional permanent alteration of the form or function of the human body through various techniques including Tattoo, Piercing and Branding, or through surgical processes such as Circumcision, Subincision or Female Genital Mutilation. Often done as part of an Initiation ritual. See said topics.

Body Painting
      Covering all or part of the body with non-toxic paint or stage makeup for a limited amount of time. Said images may include paint which resembles swimsuits or sports uniforms, fanciful designs, or even animal skin patterns such as zebra stripes. Also Softcore and Hardcore images of people with said artwork on them, most of whom usually happen to be pretty young women, sometimes appearing in public so painted. Most paints so applied can be removed with a good long shower. Such painting is also done on men, especially at the large yearly festival devoted to the art in Austria, but nobody cares. See: Nude Model, Tattoo, Exhibitionism.

Body Piercing
      Most usually: the perforation of superficial bodily tissue for the installation of jewelry or other artwork. Traditionally limited to the earlobes, but increasingly seen in the nostrils, lips, cheeks, eyebrows, the nipples, the navel, and Genitals. See Piercing for more.
      Also used, somewhat incorrectly, as a synonym for Penetration during Sexual Activity. Also see: Fucking.

Boink, Boinked, Boinking, Bonk, Bonking
      From various cartoons and comic strips, may refer to a sound effect, an indescribably complex series of events, an accident, or... Fucking. See: Slang.

Bolero
      Multiple uses, all somewhat related as follows.
      A musical cadence or beat, and related dance with a distinct rhythm usually described as very Sexy. Most usually associated with Cuba and a few other Central American countries and often danced in traditional costumes with obvious Passion and quite a bit of Suggestive moves and flourishes.
      The common name for Maurice Ravel's (1875 - 1937) most famous work which was originally titled Fandango which has become the flagship for the above referenced dance style and most usually thought of when the term is used even though there is an entire genre of music behind the word.
      A movie from 1984 written and directed by John Derek (1926 - 1998) which starred a Sex Symbol, his then wife Bo Derek (born 1956), which featured Ravel's music. The movies theme of a young woman's sexual awakening and some moderately explicit sex scenes forced Derek to release the movie without a rating as the M.P.A.A. had threatened it with an X-rating unless Derek cut most of the 'good stuff'. Because it did not have a rating, most theater chains refused to show it. In spite of this movie's title (the film was lousy, not widely viewed, and barely made any money) it was a previous use in another sex scene in the very popular Blake Edwards movie "10" also with Bo Derek, that so totally connected the rhythmatic syncopation of Ravel's music with the Sex Act.
      See various references such as: Dance, M.P.A.A., X-rated, Sex Symbol, Sexy Music, Ten, and so on.

Bombshell
      A woman whose beauty, sexual desirability, attitude, ?talent?, and overall presence cannot be ignored or disregarded by even the most staid and self-righteous of people, men and women alike. One of the best examples is Marilyn Monroe (1926 - 1962). See: Babe, Bleach Blonde (MM was not a natural), Sex Symbol (quote), Stacked- reference, Breathy Voice- Monroe as example, Voluptuous- quote by one of her co-stars.

Bondage
      Restraining a subject for the Sexual Gratification of either or both. If the subject did not volunteer with Informed Consent there could be legal repercussions from the act. See: B&D, WAM, Breath Play, Safe Word, and related.

Bonding
      An emotional connection. In infant animals, it is better expressed with the term 'imprinting'.
      When discussing adult women's friendships, the bond is predominately an emotional response evoked by women's tendency to Confide in each other various secrets and feelings. In this case, the bonding can be done almost spontaneously with a total stranger in a public restroom as they talk to each other, or take a period of decades doing, pretty much the same thing. With adult men, a 'bond' of that nature may never occur even though they have known each other for many years and consider each other a friend.
      In general with humans it is usually seen as the period where a friendship or other personal connection is made. It is used incorrectly, and somewhat stupidly, during 'team building' exercises where people stand around and sing songs or dress up in paper hats and clown-ish bow ties. Also, it has NOTHING to do with adult men sitting around a campfire Lying to each other about what they did in high school, nevermind TV shows to the contrary.

Bone, Boner
      Yet another term for the Penis, and the Erection thereof.

Boobs, Boobies, Bosom
      Three of an innumerable list of terms for the female Breasts, which see. The word 'bosom' is somewhat archaic but is often still used in more formal situations.

Booth Girl
      Essentially, Spokesmodels (which see). Otherwise: Pretty young women hired to smile and pose in sometimes quite revealing costumes for a vendor or sponsor at a convention, product show, or other occasion. In most cases, they are 'showing' a device or highlighting a service that they cannot, and may never, use themselves. All serious questions about the item will be directed to the vendor's professional staff which usually are not 'pretty young women in swimsuits'. Said girls are iconic fixtures at car and technology shows in Japan and many vendors there keep several dozen such girls on their payrolls year round to use at these shows. Otherwise, said girls can be hired through Modeling and Talent Agencies. Also see: Podium Girl.

Booty, "Bootylicious"
      Spellings vary. Most usually refers to the Buttocks of a woman who is energetically Dancing, as in "shake your booty". Also term for Getting Laid as in "get some booty". Compare: Bubble Butt, "Junk In The Trunk", Moneymaker. Also see: Caboose.
      The second term is a made up term from a rap song that has been adopted by society at large to describe one of the above that is, in some way, exceptional. The word may be idiotic, but the general idea is quite agreeable.

Bordello
      A Whorehouse, which see. The term is generally regarded as obsolete except for period novels.

Boston Pancake / Steamer
      One person defecating on another person, and then smashing the feces onto the Passive Partner. Usually done as a form of Humiliation in a Dom / Sub relationship or during some form Fetish or Extreme Sex play. See: Coprophilia, Scat Play, Shit, and related. added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Bottom - Top
      Most often refers to the roles practiced in male Homosexual Anal Intercourse and is not usually used in Heterosexual relationships. The 'bottom' or Receiver is the one being Penetrated by the Top or Active Partner. Other terms used include: 'pitcher - catcher', 'driver', and even 'boy - girl'. Most usually the participants will reverse roles and today's 'top' will be tomorrows 'bottom'. The terms 'Top' and 'Bottom' and related are used no matter which physical position (side by side, standing, receiver on top, etc) is used for the sex as it refers to the Anal Penetration. See: example at John Holmes.
      It is the bottom who would make the "A-OK" gesture in a Gay Bar (which see).

Boudoir, Boudoir Photography / Book / Furniture / In The..., Etc.
      The French word originally indicated the private chambers of an aristocratic lady where she could rest without being disturbed by her husband, dress, and, if certain translations are to be believed, be depressed or 'sulk'. Since then the definition has expanded to include the other listed terms, but all with the general frame of reference of the Bedroom.
      Of the list, we'll discuss two aspects in somewhat more depth here. 'Boudoir photography' has become something of a trend in recent years, especially in the realm of Wedding photography where the Bride To Be sets up a Glamour Photography session to be photographed in her Trousseau and Honeymoon Lingerie, supposedly as a gift for her Groom on their Wedding Night. But, most likely, serves only to polish the Vanity of the 'Princess', especially when the woman in question is Fluffy or a BBW. In most cases, said photographs contain very little Nudity, are hardly ever explicit in any way, and most usually would be classified as Cheesecake or at best, Softcore. An offshoot of the trend, pardon the pun, is Day After Photographs, which are usually even worse. See highlighted terms.
      The 'book' variation refers almost exclusively to novels ranging from light Erotica to full on high heat works such as Lady Chatterley's Lover (which see), all of which were aimed at a female audience. Also see: Pillow Book, Romance Novel, Formula Romance, and other topics.

Box
      Re-closable container. Most usually one that is made of cardboard or plastic that is square or rectangular, may have a removable or hinged lid for access to the interior. Also, anything which resembles same such as a computer, TV, or a container van "box truck".
      Slang term for the Vagina, which see. Is often generalized to mean the woman herself, especially if her 'box' is regarded as 'hot' as in a "Hot Mom" which see. Compare: Moneymaker, Babymaker.

Boyfriend
      Male friend, implies but does not implicitly state that the relationship is physical, as in, that the couple is Fucking. Relationship may be Heterosexual or Homosexual or some other variation. For a nearly obsolete term see: Going Steady, and also: Steady Girlfriend. Also see: Dating, Courting.
      The text messaging abbreviation 'BF' has other meanings in common usage, see BF.

Bra, Brassiere
      Women's intimate apparel, specifically the undergarment designed to support the Breasts and conceal the Nipples. Devised from the older and larger Corset, which see. In most cases composed of nylon, cotton, elastic bands, and perhaps some lace, fastened with hook and eye or other means. Athletic versions may include team colors or special padding. Prosthetic versions are available for medical needs. Several varieties of bras exist which enhance a woman's Cleavage, in some cases to comical levels, often through use of extra material or padding (which is a separate entry).
      Contrary to the 'Old Wives Tale' (which see), there is little therapeutic value to wearing a bra. The sagging of a woman's breasts as she ages, and resultant stretch marks, will occur naturally regardless of her choice of undergarment, and have more to do with the size of the breast, her fitness level, time, and her genetic makeup than it does anything else.
      The source of lowbrow humor on laugh track TV shows for years beyond count. Also an object of fascination and obsession for some men including Transsexuals and Cross Dressers. Entire catalogs of women's garments in men's sizes, including some very large sizes, are available, often with large price tags to match.
      See: Breast, DD, Lingerie, Padded Bra, and related terms as highlighted.

Bracelets, Trophies, Tokens, etc
      Items earned or given as a result of sexual activity. May include cheap bracelets, charms, or other jewelry often of different colors or with specific shapes or markings indicating what was done or with whom it was done. Applies mainly to girls, but is has also been seen among gay and straight boys. According to urban lore, one color of bracelet or other token would indicate that the wearer performs Oral Sex, another for Anal, and so on. Regardless of 'parenting' websites to the contrary, there is no standardization of colors, so if a red item in Boston means the teen gives Head, in Chicago it might mean the wearer was Gay, while in another area it could mean they were a Virgin (or maybe on the PTA!). However, wearing said items Does Not Mean the person has done anything at all, they could simply be making a tacky fashion statement or that the person likes Lance Armstrong.
      Occasionally one or the other party, or both, will keep a 'trophy' of their Sexual Conquest such as their underwear, a photo of the person, or other item. This is quite common among groups of young men, such as in a fraternity or other club, and even among women in similar environments. Along the US - Mexico border, some human smugglers keep trophy trees which are decorated with the undergarments of the women that have paid them with sex for the trip into the US.
      The practice is loosely based on the Native American practice of "Counting Coup" where a warrior would sneak into an enemy's camp and either leave an item, steal something of the enemies, or even touch or mark the enemy himself, thus earning a 'coup' without violence. Once the coup was earned, the warrior would display a feather or other item indicating their accomplishments. Much the same as today's soldiers wear ribbons indicating bravery or special service.

Branding
      Marketing and advertising technique where a particular product name is attached to something, such as a stadium or team. Thusly you end up with "the Skumbag Bowl presented by the National Political Committee".
      Traditionally, the actual permanent scarring of the skin with a hot iron, see Tattoo- body art reference. Most usually the iron is configured into a letter or symbol. Often used by fraternities to permanently mark their members. Also used in Dom/Sub relationships to indicate the willing Submission and subservience of the branded partner. In other circumstances a purposely designed branding iron is not used and instead the device used is a red hot wire coat-hanger, a coin, or other item, which raises the risk factor even more. Branding is inherently dangerous, risking serious deep tissue damage, infection, necrosis, and other complications as human skin is much thinner than bovine skin, which is where it originated.

Brassy, Brazen
      Somewhat obsolete term most usually used to describe a woman, particularly a young woman who has an abundance, perhaps maybe an over-abundance of self confidence and no small bit of Sass to her. Especially in matters of her own Sexuality, which would make her somewhat Flamboyant, see said terms. The derogatory term for essentially the same attitude and personality would be Shameless Hussy, which see, the terms are sometimes combined, usually in period novels and movies. The opposite would be Demure, Humble, and Submissive, which see.
      The root of the phrase is the gleam one gets off highly polished brass metal such as with a marine or shipboard application or a graven image or idol.

Breast Enlargement / Enhancement / Augmentation / Surgery
      Surgical or other artificial means used to increase the relative dimensions, including chest measurement, cup size, nipple size and location, and other attributes of a woman's, and indeed, sometimes a man's, breast area. Most notably seen with models and Adult Actresses who believe that huge tits will make them more marketable, see quote below, Breast Obsession and Tit Man for how that probably happens. May result in significant Stretch Marks, which see. The surgical aspect may also be to reduce the size of the subject matter as well, including in a male to female sex change.
      Also includes Sex Change Surgery for Transsexuals, see said terms. Also see: "Store Bought Tits" (pun intended), and the non-surgical option: Padded Bra.
"Big Tits Sell." - Harrison Marks (1926 - 1997)

Breast Milk, Breast Feeding
      The fluid produced by the Female Mammary gland for the nourishment of an infant. The suckling of an infant at the Breast of a Lactating woman. See: La Leche League and related topics.
      Also, niche and Fetish related material to Adults behaving as nursing Infants with a woman who is producing milk. See: Infantile Fetish, Mixed Drink.

Breast Obsession
      Fixation with the Female Secondary Sexual Characteristics to the near exclusion of all other factors regarding female Sexuality. Some men, and to be fair, women as well, ogle said organs whether surgically enhanced, part of a morbidly obese woman, or even computer generated as if they were a woman's first best feature. Also, said fixation has been the source for lowbrow humor on TV and in movies since the mediums were invented.
      See: Topless, Obsession, Partialism, Sexual Obsession, Tit Man, Fetish. Also see topics such as Lingerie, Breast Enlargement, Bra, and related.

Breast Self-Exam
      Breast Self-Examination is recommended to all women and girls who have begun Menstruating to detect lumps or masses that may be breast cancer. The usual practice involves the woman gently manipulating one, then the other breast with the opposite hand while in the shower or laying in bed and then examining the surface of the breast in the mirror. The method is remarkably effective when done on a regular basis in the detection of irregularities. Several excellent 'do it yourself' guides are available online from reputable medical establishments. See: Vulvar Self-Exam

Breasts
      Secondary female sexual characteristic, milk producing organ as in "Mammary Glands" (which see), the designed function of which is to feed an infant. See: Tits, Boobs, Bust, Breast Milk, and so on.
      Objects of considerable attention, fascination, mythology, and even Obsession by a large number of men whom may not have been properly weaned given their expressions of ravenous hunger when they see a large pair of the organs, even if said objects have been surgically enhanced to near comical proportions. Said obsession is not limited to men but is also seen among women who take extreme measures to increase their own bust size, even when there is no male in their life who wishes them to do so. See: Cleavage.
      The source of Hugh Hefner's fortune. For other uses, see related topics such as Décolletage, Tit Fucking, Lactation, Nipple, Breast Feeding, Fun Bags, Etc.

Breath(ing) Games / Play /Control
      Also known as Erotic Asphyxiation or Asphyxiaphilia. The practice is by its very nature dangerous and some individuals have died or have suffered permanent brain and/or heart - lung damage from it. Further note, it is damned difficult if not impossible to use a Safe Word (which see) when you cannot breathe, and if your hands are bound it might be impossible to use a sign as a warning of real distress as well, which in some circumstances, can occur in less than a minute of being unable to breathe. The level of trust between the participants must be unquestioned and a non-participating third party 'safety officer' is highly recommended. That being said, we'll continue...
      An aspect of Bondage, Domination, and other Extreme and intense Sex Play which is truly dangerous, which is part of the lure and attraction to it. The central idea is to heighten Sexual Pleasure through the combination of danger, oxygen deprivation, the associated adrenalin rush, and the idea that they are not even in control of their own breathing. The Subs breathing is restricted through a variety of devices beyond just being ordered to hold their breath by the Dom. They may have their mouth and nose or even their head or whole body dunked under water, their face could be covered with plastic or leather, or they may even have something like a snorkel or diving regulator in their mouth while wearing nose plugs to limit the air they get even if they are not submerged. See: Water Bondage, Aquaphilia, and other highlighted terms.
      The person, or persons, who is having their breathing restricted usually does so voluntarily, but there have been instances during extreme B&D and S&M encounters where the Submissive was so restricted without their prior consent. Which, if pressed, would be a Felony.

Breathy Voice
      Most often associated with Obscene Phone Calls, this is when the normal speaking voice is overshadowed by deeper than usual audible breaths. Most famous example is Marilyn Monroe's rendition of "Happy Birthday" to JFK in 1962, her singing was punctuated by deep breathing, which is generally regarded as Sexy and Sultry, see said terms.

Bridal Party
      A group of people consisting of the woman who is being (has just been, will be) married, and... well, she is all that matters. Just ask the Mother Of The Bride, she'll explain it to you. See said term. Also see: Wedding, Bride, and related.

Bride, Bride To Be, New Bride
      The Woman who: is getting Married, will be getting married, has just been married. And that's enough on that subject.
      See: Wedding (various listings), Trousseau, Bride's Maids, Honeymoon, Newlyweds, "Advice to the young bride", Virginity Test, Boudoir Photography, and so on. See reference at Princess. Compare: "Mother of the Bride".
      Also, 'wedding porn' where the women are dressed up as brides. Very little of said material is authentic unless it is the occasional candid Upskirt or other type of accidental shot. See: Hot Mom, Housewife, Fetish, and related.

Bride's Maids, Maid/ Matron of Honor
      The female members of the Bridal Party who accompany the Bride and stand with her at the ceremony.
      The maid/matron of honor is the female equivalent to the Best Man and will usually hold the bride's bouquet and attend to her other needs before and during the ceremony, and possibly at the reception. Lifelong friendships between young women have ended over who was chosen to be whose maid of honor at whose wedding. She is often also the second official witness on the marriage license. The 'maid' title means she is either unmarried or is younger than the Bride herself. An older woman, or one who is married, are usually given the title of 'matron of honor'.
      The other bride's maids serve no significant purpose at modern weddings and their numbers are usually nothing other than a status symbol, especially when there are more than four or five. (At one 2009 ceremony to which Your Good Brutha was invited, there was one Maid of Honor and seven additional bridesmaids!)
      Rumors that bride's maids are 'easy pickings' at receptions for Casual Sexual encounters are somewhat based in reality and do have some truth to them. This is especially true when there is a large number of them and some may feel slighted over some triviality. Plying an offended bridesmaid with booze and compliments may indeed be all it takes to get her out of her pastel dress. (trust your brutha on this one)

Broad
      Somewhat disrespectful and outdated slang term for a Woman. Less rude than calling her a Cunt (which see). Compare: Skirt, Doll, Dame, and so on.

Broken Heart
      The profound, indescribable sadness and indeed period of mourning felt when something irreversible has occurred, such as the Death of a Loved One. The casual usage as when somebody says they are experiencing this emotion over the cancelation of a TV show is incorrect and trivializes its true nature which, in fact means grief so deep and so overwhelming that it can kill. See: Heartbreak, Lovesick.

"Bromance" / Man Crush
      Asinine media terms for a close friendship between Heterosexual men which indirectly implies Homosexual desire between them. If you Ever use either of the terms in reference to Your Good Brutha, you should also be prepared for 'multiple spontaneous non-consensual dental extractions'.

Brown Eye
      The human Anus, which see. Often used as a Euphemism for such in Porn when discussing Anal Sex.

Brown Sugar
      Most usually refers to attractive young black woman, especially those of a skin tone akin to 'brown sugar' or (more correctly) Chocolate. May or may not refer directly to committing a Sex Act with said woman. See: Dark Meat
      Most famous reference is in the 1971 song by the Rolling Stones. The lyrics to the song include unmistakable reference to Cunnilingus in the chorus... (not that there is anything wrong with that)

"Ah brown sugar how come you taste so good
(a-ha) brown sugar, just like a young girl should."
- Album: Sticky Fingers lyrics by Mick Jagger and Keith Richards. From Rolling Stones Records.

Bubble Butt
      Most usually, the female Tush which has smooth round cheeks that are slightly protruding yet firm and lack obvious cellulite. Term is entirely subjective as depending on the pose, most women who are not obese can achieve something of a 'bubble butt'. See: Booty, Ass Cheeks, and related.

"Buckle Bunny"
      "... and now for the nomination of 'strangest entry in the Great Sex Glossary we have: 'buckle bunny'." No, we're not kidding!
      Essentially, attractive young women who act as Podium Girls (which see), contestant escorts, promotional Spokesmodels, and general Eye Candy at rodeos. Known costumes for said girls include Daisy Duke shorts and Mini Skirts with various midriff baring shirts and blouses, and, of course cowboy boots and hats. They are so named because the prize for the winner of the various competitions at the rodeo often include a large heavily gilded belt buckle that is often all but unwearable due to its weight and size. Said individuals can often be hired for the weekend through various Talent and Modeling Agencies (which see).
      This term was all but dismissed as a silly media phrase until it was seen in print some time ago, and then used in conversation by somebody who had attended one of these events.

Bug Chaser/Hunter, Bug Party
      [Your Good Brutha had refused to give credence to this rumored practice since the very beginning of this Glossary. However, it has resurfaced after being all but forgotten about in the 1990's. So....] finally added to the Glossary, and updated, by multiple Reader Suggestions over a period of years.
      A person (Male or Female) who is not infected with the HIV virus who knowingly and intentionally engages in high risk behaviors with those who are carrying the virus with the goal of becoming infected. The terms are varied for both those who do not have it as well as those who do, and for the activities they engage in, including Unprotected (Unsafe) Sex, especially Homosexual (Anal) Intercourse, as well as IV drug use, all of which are specifically designed to give them AIDS, which will eventually result in their death. The reasons for doing so are as varied as the people themselves; some wish to gain the extra attention and treatments available to the patients and so feel 'special', others feel like they are missing out on some great enlightening bestowed by the disease, others have a death wish or do not believe it will kill them, or their partner has the disease and they want to 'share' the coming agony with them, and so on. See related terms.
      The practice first came to wide attention in various magazine articles ranging back into the early '90's to some great controversy in the various communities. The hubbub died down and everybody went on their way. Now, at least in a few select circles, it is back with a new generation. According to one source familiar with the entire scene, it could be called: "'Slow suicide by Queer' instead of quick 'suicide by cop' for those without the balls to do themselves off."
      The 'party' part of the equation comes into play at a gathering where those with the disease engage in unprotected sex, or drug use, with those who do not have it and wish to get it, as a 'gift' or their 'conversion'.

Buggery
      Obsolete term referring to either Fellatio or Anal Intercourse, especially of the Homosexual variety. The term also had a legal standing but has since been replaced, in most jurisdictions, with slightly more technical language. Was also used to cover sex with animals, and, according to one floating news article, Sex With Furniture. See: extensive legal discussion at Sodomy. Also see: Crime- or Act- Against Nature, Unnatural Act, Sodomy.

Bukkake, Cum Shot, Money Shot
      Most usually seen in Adult Movies, the practice involves a Submissive partner who is Ejaculated on by one or more men who may or may not be engaged in direct sex with the subject, as in, they are Masturbating themselves with the goal of cumming on the waiting Passive Partner.
     The infamous 'cum shot' of the adult movie world is also called the 'money shot' and at one time was thought to the be highlight of the movie. Fascination with the event has resulted in the niche world of 'Bukkake'. See: Cum, Ejaculation, Facial, Fletching.

Bullshit, Bullshitter
      A lie. A big lie. Anything passed by Congress (which see) with the word "Omnibus" in the title. One whom tells big lies a lot, a Congressman. See: Dick Stories, Girl Talk, Locker Room Talk, False Humility, Crap, and related.
      An example of the 'boss grade' element follows:

"Top level exploratory knowledge-based digital hardware usage research points to interactive policy inclusive of functional relative mobility facilitating transitional strategic time-phases in outside the box quality monitored paradigm shifts of deconstructed incremental flexibility with value added logistical innovation."

Bum
      Multiple meanings, some are as follows.
      The classic American definition is a slight disparagement of hobos, rail-riders, and others of the 'traveling fraternity'. However there is a difference a hobo and a 'bum'. A hobo of the 'Tourist Union 63' variety will work odd jobs during their travels, which even today, is mostly by freight train. A 'bum' is a freeloader on society that has their hand out for assistance, but will not work for it (like politicians and some pastors), and usually will not travel (which separates them from Congressmen, which see), and synonymous with 'begger', see: Beg.
      In sports, or politics. A 'bum', is essentially a hapless loser. In that arena when one says 'those bums' or 'throw the bums out' they are referring to their team, or their elected officials, who need to find another job because they're not cutting it in this one.
      To 'bum' something is to ask for the item with no intention of making repayment, such as 'to bum a cigarette'.
      More to our point here, the term 'bum' is a British expression for one's posterior, and related rearmost orifice. So when somebody says "she has a nice bum" about a woman they're not talking about her vagabond friend, her football team, nor the way she mooches free drinks at clubs. See related topics such as: Butt, Ass, Anal Sex, and so on.

Bump Uglies, Bump Ugly
      Yet another of the endless array of phrases used instead of just saying Fucking.... or rather, Heterosexual Genital Intercourse (see both terms), often by somebody trying to be cute. Your Good Brutha has never used the term other than in this entry. Also see: Euphemism.

Bung, Bunghole
      A couple of somewhat related meanings. The first is related to the small opening in a barrel or cask of liquid such as wine or oil used to access the contents for sampling or the addition of flavoring or other material.
      The Anus.

Burlesque
      Usually thought of as a Vaudeville type of Adult Entertainment featuring really bad comics and lots of pretty women who seem to have forgotten at least part of their costume performing in Naughty skits and short plays, musical numbers, as well as Stripping. See: Terpsichorean Ecdysiast, Cabaret, Teasing, Showgirl, Exotic Dancer, Stripper, Belly Dancer, Little Egypt, Ribald, and related.
      Said common knowledge isn't wholly accurate. For example, Red Skelton (1913 - 1997) got his start working the shows, and his comedic talent is legendary. See: quote below. One expression that has survived from those times is the phrase 'top banana' to mean the highest ranking person in a touring group, making the next person in the pecking order the (comedic pause) 'second banana'.
"I'm nuts and I know it. But so long as I make 'em laugh, they ain't going to lock me up." - Red Skelton
      Historically burlesque had its beginnings in the 1840's and 50's in Britain, some time before Vaudeville began in the US. The actual word is a verb, 'to burlesque something' means 'to satirize or make fun of' whatever it is. In this case, the upper classes and that peculiar animal- the British way of life. The genre leaped the pond and took roots in the US in 1868 when London star Lydia Thompson and her group brought it, and her "British Blondes", to America to great acclaim. The primary attraction was comic plays and musical reviews by the girls. Strippers, according to most histories, did not become a regular feature until somewhat later, although pretty women in risqué costumes showing a lot of skin, particularly their legs, seem to have always been part of the show. And oh, yeah, most of the "British Blondes".... were neither.
      It was the Vaudeville troupes that moved into existing burlesque theaters to make their living, and not the other way around. However, it is true that burlesque had, and has, a slightly more 'Adult Entertainment' edge to it than the 'cleaner' (a relative term most certainly) Vaudeville.

Bush
      Multiple meanings including a plant, a President or two, and so on. For our part, we'll call it "Pussy Hair" (which see), and move on.

Bust
      Multiple meanings, some are as follows. A statue depicting the head, neck, and some of the shoulders and chest of a person. To go broke financially. To fail in some undertaking such as a sport, but in doing so, one has exhausted all of one's strength and talent, such as a banner that says "championship or bust". To be arrested by the authorities. To go over 21 in a game of Blackjack. And so on.
      More to our point here: a woman's chest and more specifically, her Breasts, which see (pun intended).

Butch
      Woman with Masculine personality or traits whom may or may not be Gay. Often used as a derogatory or pejorative term, sometimes combined with Dyke which has similar meaning. See: Lesbian, Lipstick Lesbian, Feminine, Bitch. Also see: Bear, Twink, and related.
      This is a different phenomenon than Autoandrophilia (which see) in which the woman is Sexually Aroused by the Fetish play of dressing and behaving as if she were a man, although, in reality, it may all work out the same in the end.

Butt, Buttocks
      The exterior of the Gluteus Maximus and the associated fatty tissue and skin covering. In short... on what thou sittest to readest this Glossary. AKA the Ass Cheeks, on a good looking woman: her Booty, or Caboose. See: Butt Cleavage, Moon, Tush. Also see: Heart.
      The rear of anything, the last to get something or one who is used as the straight man in a comedy routine as the 'butt' of the joke. See Derriere for related term.
      The shorter term can also be used to refer to the Anus and related subjects, as in "getting fucked in the butt". See: related 'Butt' entries.

Butt Boy, Butt Buddies
      Related terms used to describe a willing Submissive who allows another to 'use' them as the Receiver for Anal Intercourse. The Bitch to a Butch in a Homosexual relationship such as in a prison. Is also used as a derogatory term in the same manner as one would call somebody a 'Punk', which see. The terms almost always refer to Males. Also see: "Bend Over And...", Wazoo (Up The...), Bottom, and so on.
      The difference is that the 'boy' never expects or demands a return of the favor whereas the 'buddies' expect to take turns being the Receiver.

Butt Cleavage, Butt Crack
      The fold between the Buttocks. Used as an object of ridicule when it involves a plumber, see Cleavage for example. Compare: Camel Toe.
      See: reference at "Where the Sun Don't Shine" to other usage.

Butt Floss
      Panty or other such garment which is nothing more than a thread in the back between the Buttocks and then across the hips of the wearer. See: Thong, G-String, Panty.

Butt Fucking, Butt Fucker
      Anal Intercourse, see major reference there. There is no inference of the Sex of the Receiver in the term, or for that matter, of the Sex of the Penetrator as it may be a woman wearing a Strap On doing the Fucking! See said terms.

Butt Kisser
      Another word for Ass Kisser (which see), or 'brown noser'. Also, insult as in: "kiss my butt" when the speaker has no intention of letting you do it.

Butt Plug
      Anal dilator with no other functionality such as Vibrating or being able to be attached to a belt as a Strap On. Most usually tapered for easy Penetration enlarging to sometimes several inches around at the base with a 'T' handle or other device which serves as both a handle to control the plug and to prevent it from slipping past the sphincter which might require medical intervention to remove. Such devices are often used in Anal Training of a Sub. See: Dildo, Figging, Vibrator, Sex Toy.

Butt Ugly
      The question isn't whether or not one considers the 'lower posterior' unattractive or not, as many of said body parts of the female of the species are quite the opposite. The idea seems to stem from the idea that said structure is not usually found attractive under normal circumstances.
      The term is applied to 'less than beautiful' objects ranging from fish bait to a charity in Canada, as well as individual people. In some cases whatever is being discussed may be so ugly that it is considered cute, such as some dog breeds or various antique cars. The same cannot be said for modern art or a truly ugly woman. Compare: Eye Candy, Trophy Wife, Sex Object.

Butterfly Kiss(es)
      Multiple meanings, all somewhat related as below, including an agonizingly sweet song (and album title) released in 1997 by Bob Carlisle. The song deals with the memories of the idealistic love between a father and daughter as the girl gets married. It has since been covered by every singer who deals in that sort of thing there is and is a staple at Weddings. Any further discussion of said song is a known cause of the Fantods (which see).
      Another known cause of said malady is the 1995 British film by the same name which gift wraps a Lesbian love story with a tale of murder, betrayal, and suicide and ties it up with a ribbon of surprising violence by a Sapphic woman who is a literal Femme Fatale.
      But more in line with our efforts here is two different styles of physical contact, one of which does not involve the Mouth at all. However, both are described by the term as a very light, almost feathery touch, almost as if a butterfly has landed on you. The first is the one probably referenced in the song. Being close enough to the other person that when you blink your eyelashes tickle their skin without any other part of your body touching that area, such as a cheek or forehead.
      The second definition is the one probably referenced in the movie. This is the sensation delivered by lightly brushing your Lover's skin, particularly a woman's Clitoris, her Mound of Venus, Nipples, or other such Erogenous Zone, while using a very slight breath of air to excite the nerves just under the skin in a very unexpected, and very Sensually pleasurable, way related to the Ultimate Kiss.
      Your Good Brutha has it from a reliable source that many women find the latter more enjoyable than the former when delivered by a Paramour. added to the Glossary by suggestion of a friend

Butthole
      The Anus or Asshole. The word is considered more polite than the latter and less than the former. In some cases, it has been used without Bleeping on TV.
      As the word is less offensive than "Asshole" it is seldom used in reference to a Congressman, except perhaps as the first listed definition when combined with the word "surfing", which see.

Butthole Surfer / Surfing, Bum/Ass Surfing, etc.
      Your Good Brutha had not added this one to the Glossary when it was first suggested a couple of years ago because, quite simply, there was no real definition of the term in wide use. Well, that appears to have changed. Now, there are several.
      The best definition we heard was: "Congressman engaged in ocean wave sport", so we'll list it first.
      Other possible definitions include: Somewhat gymnastic position for Anal Intercourse where the Active partner enters the Receiver in the Doggy Position, and then balances themselves spread eagle on their pelvis with both feet off the ground. Also, serial anal intercourse, most usually of the Male Homosexual variety where one or more men (or women wearing a Strap On) Anally Penetrates a line of Passive partners in turn, something that is far from a Safe Sex practice. One other discussed definition involved what amounted to a Pageant where various contestants were ranked on the overall appearance of their Bum, the inspection by the judges was evidently referred to as 'surfing' the contestants and, from reports from the event, did include some 'hands on' appraisals. As to whether that last definition should be included as a serious entry, we'll list it and let the reader decide. See highlighted references for more.
      added to the Glossary by multiple reader suggestions, yes it was

"C - word"
      A Politically Correct Euphemism for the word "Cunt" when used to refer negatively to a Woman, meant to not offend anyone in spite of its use. See highlighted terms.

Cabaret
      Various uses, all related to a style of nightclub entertainment involving a variety of live acts including singers and dancers interspersed with light comedy and comedic sketches or one act plays all being staged in dinner club type of atmosphere with the audience seated at tables around, or in front of, the performance area. In most cases, as the evening progressed the acts increased in their adult their adult content factor until by the end of the show the flavor had gone from a little Risqué (which see) to, in some cases, borderline Obscene with full nudity (although those who were Naked were almost always Female) and highly Suggestive but Simulated Sex Acts, and Ribald humor, especially in the forms golden era prior to WW2 in parts of Europe, compare Burlesque. Today's edition, by all accounts, lack a great deal in comparison. See somewhat related topic at Vaudeville. Also see: Adult Entertainment, Showgirl, Exotic Dancer, Drag Show and other highlighted and related topics.
      Also. The multiple Academy Award winning movie directed by Bob Fosse (1927 - 1987) based on a Berlin showplace set before the rise of the Nazi party. The movie was based somewhat loosely on the Tony Award winning Broadway play by the same name, which was based on another play which was itself somewhat loosely based on a novel. All were centered on a club in pre-Nazi Germany.
      According to rumor, there type of cold salad that includes meat and eggs set in a gelatin that is called a 'cabaret', but why such things are is best left to the imagination.
- "She not only kept her lovely figure, she's added so much to it."
Bob Fosse (1927 - 1987)

Caboose, "Take it in the Caboose", etc.
      Multiple meanings, all more or less related to the traditional definition of the last car on a railroad train where the switchmen and other crew rode to observe and service the train. Said cars were seen on nearly every freight train run from the early days of railroading throughout its golden era and into the 1980s when automated monitoring and signaling devices came into widespread use. As such, the back end of anything moving, such as the last individual in the peloton of a bicycle race or anything else that 'brings up the rear'.
      Now we shall apply that concept to our present purpose: The Buttocks of an animal or person, hopefully a good-looking Woman. The term is usually used when the Butt being described is large or otherwise predominate in some way. The phrase involving "take it in the..." refers to Anal Intercourse. See various related terms, including: Booty.

Cad
      An unapologetic Promiscuous man who seeks pleasure with women without any sort of larger relationship or commitment. Synonym with archaic use of Rake (which see) in Formula Romance Novels. See: Libertine, Don Juan, Playboy, Casanova, and related.

Caligula
      Roman Emperor Gaius Julius Caesar Augustus Germanicus (12 AD - 41, ruled 37 to 41). The name 'Caligula' is a Diminutive (which see) literally meaning "Little Boots" referring to a soldier's shoes and is how he is most commonly known to differentiate him from his father Germanicus Julius Caesar, and others of the royal family who used variations of those names.
      Ancient sources from the period are sorely lacking, but those that survive and others from later in history regard the first couple of years of Caligula's reign as progressive and good for the empire. He began building projects for the good of the city and annexed overseas provinces. Those same sources note that after he suffered a serious illness he went slowly, but completely, mad. It is those final two years or so of his reign that have relegated him to infamy. The period is characterized by Sexual Excess and depravity on a scale seldom rivaled since, including at least occasional Incest with at least two of his three sisters, Rape of both male and female Courtiers and others, absolute disregard for the matters of state, and spending sprees that bankrupted the empire. After Caligula's assassination, the Senate made some efforts to ensure that there would be checks on the power later emperors would wield.
      Most often used as the title of the 1979 movie based on a Gore Vidal (born 1925) screenplay based on the emperor and his excesses. Produced by Bob Guccione (1930 - 2010) it starred Malcolm McDowell in the lead role (who manages to portray him in somewhat of a sympathetic light). The movie is infamous for graphic and sometimes brutal, although fairly accurate sex scenes, including Orgies... and violence. Things that are accurately depicted when judged from the historical record is the Emperor's insanity, and his untimely end at the hands of his own guards.
      The term is also used to described one who is in power who has become totally corrupt with that power, whether in business or Politics. See Congressman, Quid Pro Quo, in flagrante delicto. Also see: Pleasure Palace, Bacchanalia, Roman Orgy, and related.
"Let them hate me, so long as they fear me."
- Caligula

Call Girl
      A Prostitute. Term is often considered less insulting that many of the others used for the Oldest Profession. However, 'call girls' are usually considered more exclusive and of a higher class, and therefore more expensive to hire than a typical Streetwalker. Most call girls have a list of select clients who have been referred by other clients and do not usually see those they are not familiar with or introduced to through their circle of 'friends'. See: Escort Service, Xaviera Hollander, D.C. Madam, and related terms.

Camel Toe
      The Vulva area of a woman covered and highlighted by a tight fitting garment such as a swimsuit or gymnastic leotard, especially photographs of same. In most cased only the Labia are able to be recognized, however, in some cases, especially with thinner material, the Clitoris and other structures may be discernable, although not directly seen. The term is from the supposed resemblance of the Vulva so covered to a camel's foot. See: Quim, Gap and related terms. Compare: Chastity Belt.

Camp Follower
      The traditional term is descriptive of a group of refugees displaced by war who 'follow the camp' of the victorious army seeking food and other goods as well as protection. Such individuals were a considerable problem during the US War Between The States when entire local populations would follow the Union Army seeking relief and, in the case of former slaves who had been freed or assumed freedom had come to them: a new life. In many cases said groups would become infiltrated by spies, saboteurs, and snipers which would then become a security problem for the army they were tailing. However, the followers also provided services and information to the advancing army which helped their cause in the War. More to our point here those services would include women and girls (and to be fair, men as well) who worked as Prostitutes for the Soldiers.
      More to our point here, the term is usually used to describe an individual, or group who shadow a famous person or group in an effort to become famous by association, such as a Publicity Whore. May also imply a sexual relationship such as with a Groupie (which see). Also see: Prostitute, Celebrity, Comfort Women, Hooker.

Candaulist, Candaulism
      One whom enjoys and possibly becomes Sexually Aroused through the act of exposing their Lover to others for their Voyeuristic pleasure. This is often seen by those who enjoy showing off a Trophy Wife in a Bikini or similar situations and various Fetish practices. The term implies it is the man who is showing off a woman, however, it can also apply to other variations, as with Cuckolding, and perhaps even Scopophilia, through posting images online of them. See highlighted terms.
      The popular term often confused with Troilism (which see). However, there is a significant difference. The 'Candaulist' does not allow the viewing party to engage in Sexual Activity with their partner, whereas the troilist does. Compare: Swingers, Open Marriage, and related.
      This name for the phenomenon originates in Classical Greece where, and the story varies among the various histories but the gist of it is this: King Candaules of Sardes/Lydia (735 - 718 BC) boasted how beautiful his wife was to his guard, Gyges. Then the two conspired to prove the point, possibly to settle a bet (the first coins in history were made here!), and the king arranged for his bodyguard to see the Queen undressing. Of course he gets caught and as with most Greek stories it ends badly with the bodyguard betraying the king and killing him and taking the throne.
      Also see: Peeping Tom, Public Nudity, Exhibitionism, Nudism, and related.

Candy and Flowers
      Traditional gift from a man to a woman he is Dating or Courting. Considered extremely Romantic by most women and traditionalists as both gifts are more or less harmless and non-threatening in a Sexual way, such as a gift of lingerie would be (unless the woman is allergic to them!) If the flowers were red roses the gift was thought to represent love, other flowers were symbolic of friendship or slightly less intense emotions. See Romantic Atmosphere, Date Night, and so on. Also see: "Roses Are Red..." for another example.

"Candy
is dandy
but liquor
is quicker."
- Ogden Nash (1902 - 1971)
The original line was a poem in the above formatting.

Carnal, Carnal Knowledge, & etc.
      Mostly obsolete term used to describe sexual interest as well as other matters under the general heading of Adult. Is used with various modifiers to indicate which specific area of Human Sexuality is being discussed, usually in a negative light. Such as 'carnal instincts', 'carnal knowledge', 'carnal desires', and etc ad infinitum. Also see "Forcible Rape" for use in a legal definition. For a Biblical use, see: Lie With.

Carnival / Mardi Gras
      Quasi religious festival before the onset of Lent, the forty days of prayer, fasting, religious service and observance before Easter. Shrove (Fat) Tuesday is the day immediately before Ash Wednesday and usually features a feast of foods and beverages prohibited to the orthodox during the Lenten season, however, a general sense of celebration and partying is generally seen through the weekend before.
      Mardi Gras is observed in some fashion in most of the major cities along the US Gulf Coast to some degree. The most famous celebration being the Krewe parades and parties in New Orleans now engaged in as a more or less "family friendly" tourist event.
      Now. Having said that, we'll talk about "Carnival".
      There is no comparison between the tourist friendly enforced modesty and restrained public partying in New Orleans and the public Orgy of samba dancing, drinking, feasting, and of wanton nudity and the occasional bout of public sex during Carnival in Rio de Janeiro, as well as in Southern and Eastern Europe, the Caribbean and in other less inhibited locations than the US. If you want to really party, go to one of them. Also see Masquerade, and related topics.

Carousing
      Socializing with the intent, or the presumption of, Sexual Activity as the logical continuation of public interaction and possible Drunkenness. The general atmosphere and style of behavior embodied in the phrase "Wine, Women, and Song" when engaged in by Libertine men and Loose Women in an Adult Establishment such as a club or bar.
      The term is usually used in Morals Charges where Conduct Unbecoming An Officer is being brought up as something not to be done by one in a respectable office. Which means it is to be expected from a member of Congress.

"Carpet Matches the Drapes", also rendered as "upholstery matches..."
      Somewhat humorous descriptive phrase used of a woman to indicate that her hair color is (presumably) natural in that the color of the hair around her Vulva (the carpet) matches the hair on her head (drapes). As to whether or not her Pussy Hair has been colored, that is unusual, but is not unheard of. The phrase is usually seen 'in the wild' in information about various Adult Models supposedly indicating that her hair color is natural, however, as was said, such may not be the case. See: Bleach Blonde, Mound Of Venus, and related.
      added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Carpet Munching
      Another word for Muff Diving (which see), usually indicating that the woman receiving the Oral Sex has not Shaved. See: Cunnilingus, Fur Burger, "Eating...".
      Has also been used by some Erotica writers to indicate a Position where the person on the Receiving end of various Sex Acts is in the Doggie position on their hands and knees with their face literally on the carpet and they get a mouthful of the deep pile weave when they "munch" on it in Ecstasy. However, such use is not typical. Your Good Brutha just avoids using the term altogether.

Casanova
      The man whose name became a synonym for the "love'm and leave'm Ladies Man" and master of Seduction- Giacomo Casanova (1725 - 1798) has been the template for 'men of the world' since the publication of his autobiography. While he has always been considered a womanizer of the first magnitude, his sexual exploits pale when compared with later notables, however, to mere mortal men, his tally of over 200 women is remarkable. But to be fair, Casanova seemed to not pursue sex for its own sake, most of the time he developed relationships with his conquests. See: Courtiers, Roue, Libertine, Philanderer- Womanizer, Promiscuity, Don Juan, Seduction, Sexual Prowess.
      The use of his surname in popular media to indicate either said behavior or the one so behaving includes a movie released in 2005 which starred Heath Ledger (1979 - 2008) as the legendary lover.
"I don't conquer, I submit." - Giacomo Casanova

Casting Couch, Casting Couch Video
      Peculiar piece of furniture rumored to exist in various Hollywood and Broadway type offices where, most usually, young female actresses, earned their way into a production by Having Sex with the hiring executive(s). The technique was also used with male stars, sometimes forcing said actors to effectively be "Gay For Pay" (which see).
      Now a word about the movies now being sold all over the net staring various Celebrities... Occasionally said encounters were filmed, but more often, said tapes were faked, sometimes many years ago now. For example, the one said to be Barbara Streisand (born 1942), was made with a minor porn star in the nineteen seventies and, even then, billed as starring the actress. The facial resemblance, for the most part, is remarkable, but inconclusive at best when the rest of the actress's body is considered, overall the tape certainly not worth the price requested for a full version of it. See: Celebrity Fake / Sex Tape, and related.
      The concept is somewhat related to the Porn industry standard of a Hard Casting (which see), however, in most cases, those who visit the mainstream 'casting couch' will most likely not Have Sex or appear nude on screen on a regular basis. See: "You can be a porn star", Adult Actress, Sex Performer, Blue Movie, and related.
"It is every woman's dream to be some man's dream woman."
- Barbra Streisand

Castration, Castrated, Castrati
      Surgical removal of the male's Testicles, including in some cases the entire Scrotum, and in a few cases, his Penis as well. Neutering. Sterilization. The procedure renders the man so cut as a Eunuch (which see).
      Equally applies to the chemical version which leaves the structures intact but renders them non-functional either permanently or temporarily. Usually done as a legal sentence and punishment for various Sex Crimes including Pedophilia.
      Has also been used to apply to the removal of the Penis as well as the Scrotum and its contents, which is total Emasculation as with the Hijra who are also Nirwaan (see Hijra).
      The reasons for the procedure vary greatly from historical period and region under discussion. Some were castrated as a sign of religious devotion, as a punishment for various crimes, to allow them to serve safely in the palace or royal court, and, famously to prevent their voices from changing at puberty so they may continue to sing in boy's choirs, the "castrati", or even to become part of a Third Sex (which see).
      The term "new castrati" has been bandied about in various circles to describe the men found at the upper levels of Senator Hillary Clinton's 2008 presidential campaign.
      Is used as the implication of a comic bit on TV shows and movies when a man is struck in the Testicles by something or somebody resulting in his speaking in a falsetto voice. Severe injury to the area can result in gangrene which is life threatening so as surgical castration may be required to save the man's life. However, this is seen as funny by Hollywood and TV producers. See: Crotch Shot, Penis Injuries.
      Surgical alteration of Senator Obama as proposed by Rev. Jesse Jackson during the 2008 primaries.

Casual Sex
      Sexual Activity without the benefit of a long term relationship or emotional bonding. See: One Night Stand, Friends With Benefits, Proposition, Hitting On, "Your Place Or Mine?", Promiscuity.

Catamite
      References the younger male in a Predatory Homosexual Pedophilic relationship. Based on the Latin term catamitus, which is part of the name of Catamitus Ganymede from Greek mythology. It is derived from Ganymede's Pederistic relationship with Zeus. Term is now seen to describe the victims in the Catholic Priest scandal where Homosexual priests would use their positions to seduce and rape young boys, as Zeus did with Ganymede, and others. See highlighted terms. Also see: "Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network", "North American Man Boy Love Association", Martijn.

Catcall, Wolf Whistle
      Any of several whistles, yells, remarks or other verbal exclamations, most usually used by Girl Watching men to acknowledge a good looking or otherwise Sexy woman. Quite often said woman is dressed to attract such attention. In some cases said attention is unwelcome, or out of line, but often it is done with pleasure on both sides as many women find such good natured public reaffirmation of their attractiveness enjoyable.
      Some Feminist activists have described all such attention as degrading, objectifying and disrespectful and have even used terms like 'verbal Rape', which is of course bullshit and trivializes the crime of rape itself. Quite often said activists are usually ugly and have such a disagreeable attitude that they were never on the receiving end of said whistles. See: Sexual Harassment.

Cathouse, House of Ill Repute
      Establishment offering Prostitution services either as the main object of the business or a sideline, such as Congress. See: Whore House, Red Light, Bordello, Sex Club, Bawdy House, Bagnio and related.

Catty, Catfight
      Term most usually used by women to describe an attitude expressed by other women. Usually includes remarks made solely to hurt the feelings of other women without cause, or through Jealousy, or other such emotion. Said remarks are also used to damage the image of the target woman solely to make the commenter look better. To sum it up, a 'catty' woman is a Bitch, which see.
      A physical confrontation between women, whether real or staged. Usually involves slapping and hair pulling instead of punches and the use of marshal arts or weapons. The most famous of which occurred on the ABC network prime time soap opera Dynasty between Linda Evans (born 1942) and Joan Collins (born 1933) in several Fetish type locations, such as a pond, a muddy stream bank, and a boutique complete with mannequins, as well as several other actresses on the show. All of whom were Babes, M.I.L.F. types or even Cougars, which see.

Cavalier
      Various meanings, all related. Originally it appears that it applied to a military officer, a loyalist to the crown, and possibly even a knight. The aspects of gallantry, chivalry, and even a bit of swashbuckling have been retained even though the term now also implies that one is something of a dandy. There is also the later overtones that the individual, historically almost exclusively a male, who was at least a Rake and was totally unconcerned with the consequences of his actions, sexual and otherwise, for others.
      One could think of the general regard the members of the original Hellfire Club had toward those whom they used for their own pleasure. It can also be described as the general view of the citizens, voters, and taxpayers of the country by those in Congress. It may also be seen in attitudes and the behaviors of Celebrities, and especially their offspring, with regards to the common people of the world. The word was also used for a time as the name of a Men's Magazine, which see.
      Also see: Rake, Roue, Courtier, Casanova, Playboy, Libertine, and related.
      We will not make any statements here regarding the University of Virginia sports mascot who is a mounted cavalry officer. That is except to say that they do have some mighty fine Cheerleaders. Yes, indeed.

Cave, Gape
      Bodily orifice open for, or as a result of, Penetration. Most usually a fully Dilated Anus or Vagina as when a Speculum is used. Often seen in Adult Movies as with a Cream Pie. See: Anal Training, Butt Plug, Goatse, and Etc.

Celebrity
      A 'public person'. An individual who had worked for, bought, stolen, co-opted, or has otherwise obtained, or even earned honestly, enough notoriety to be included in any of the endless stream of entertainment programs and publications that feed on each other. The position requires no particular talent or ability and sometimes consists solely of the 'lucky Sperm club' members (the spawn of other celebrities) who get in trouble in various ways. Those usually dubbed as a 'celebrity' are people from various TV shows, nightclub entertainers, professional sports figures, singers, movie actors, politicians, (ex-)mobsters, or those who think of themselves as such, even if they haven't done anything of value for many years, see: Publicity Whore, Prima Donna. Also see: Aphrodisiac, Playboy. The behavior of some resulted in a generation of Love Children. See: Gossip and "Kiss and Tell", Casting Couch, Working Name, for more. For the downside, see next few entries. Also see: Attention Whore with quote from one.

Celebrity Fake
      A photograph or video of a Celebrity or other famous person which has been altered or falsified to make it appear that the photo was taken when the person was nude or in an other compromising or unprofessional situation, such as taking drugs. Often well done images cannot be distinguished from real ones even by professionals. Can also be done with an impersonator, as was done with the supposed photos of Governor Palin which were really a Porn Star. Many of these are poorly done, but some need professional review before they are debunked as the frauds they are, which, in some cases, is done at the request of a court of law. See: Computer Generated Image, Airbrush, Gossip, Casting Couch Video, Internet Rule Thirty-Four
      For a very well done example, witness the scene in the movie Forrest Gump when the title character meets President Kennedy.

Celebrity Sex Tape
      Videotape of somebody who has been tagged with the "celebrity" label engaging in some sort of Sexual Activity. In many cases, the tape is fraudulent (see: Celebrity Fake), has been released in an effort to garner attention (see: Publicity Whore), and, very rarely and only occasionally, is an actual Hardcore video of reasonable quality where it is apparent that it is the individual it is claimed to be. See: Sex Tape, Casting Couch Video, and other terms.

Celebrity Stalker
      Individual who has become Obsessed with a public person to the point of becoming a danger to that celebrity. Some who have become so infatuated with their object of devotion that they have broken into their houses or have taken other dramatic action which can be tragic. For example see Obsession, Erotomania. Also see: Publicity Whore, Groupie, Stalker, Privacy.

Celibate, Celibacy
      One whom refrains from the pleasure of Sexual Activity for religious, philosophical, or other reasons. Is usually considered a voluntarily decision where there is a reasonable opportunity for sex. See: Vow of Celibacy, Marian Doctrine, Sexual Abstinence. Also see: Ascetic and related.

Censor, Censorship
      Essentially the editing of material by an authority to remove that content which the authority does not approve of. May be based on religious, political, or moral grounds, or on some arbitrary and capricious standard known only to the censor. Remember, in the 1950's TV network censors thought it was somehow immoral to show a pregnant Lucille Ball (1911 - 1989) on TV because it would imply that she, as a married woman, had been Fucking. See: Obscenity, Free Speech, First Amendment, Classifiers, and related topics. See: Lucy quote at Love.
      Also includes the editing of material in an effort to be 'family friendly'. A good example of this is the song Sometimes When We Touch where various radio outlets have removed the verse that includes the line "a brother or a sister, but then the passion flares again..." as being suggestive of Incest. See: "Our Song" for quote. Also see: Pixilation, Airbrush, and Black Bar for ways of editing images. Also see: Modesty Cloth.
      Censorship in the US has always been a sore subject, but it has made a rebound under Political Correctness which censors material before it is produced or the words spoken under the banner of intolerance by liberals and other protected classes. In the early days of TV, network "Standards and Practices" offices (which see) would pre-approve scripts or edit shows after production to enforce their own sometimes murky standards. See: Political Correctness, Socialism, Voluntary Self Censoring. Also see: Naughty for related Mae West quote.
      The Rating system used for various entertainment media is in fact a form of censorship which must be adhered to or the producer of various works risks not having their material marketed or sold by various outlets. See: Rating, M.P.A.A., E.S.R.B. R.I.A.A., Family Hour, "bleep", Black Bar, and related items.

Centerfold
      Featured pictorial in a magazine, usually given a '..... of the month' title with an extended article and photo spread as versus a gatefold set which is often the first photo set in the magazine. Does not have to be a naked woman, as even car magazines have 'centerfold' features. Said model is often also featured on the cover of the magazine, but not necessarily. See: Playmate of the Month, Nude Model, Bettie Page, Black Bar, and related.
      Since Playboy® (which see) made the term legendary, the word 'centerfold' itself has become generic enough that in some mass media outlets, especially entertainment TV shows and newspaper columns, it is used to mean Nude Model even if said model has never been the (whatever) of the Month and an actual featured centerfold pictorial. It is also from the centerfold that the joke of a model being "stapled in the navel" originated if she posed in the nude.

Certified Surrogate Partner Therapist
      A licensed mental health practitioner who offers specialized sessions and programs, which may include Sex Surrogacy (which see) to assist patients in overcoming difficulty with Romantic and Sexual Relationships with others, including couple's therapy to re-establish Physical Intimacy between them. Said problems may arise from medical conditions, emotional issues, prior abusive situations, or severe lack of personal confidence and experience in such matters. In some cases, the sessions may be covered by insurance, especially when the difficulties began due to a medical condition or injury, such as from an auto accident. Said therapy may be Heterosexual or Homosexual in nature, or as in the case of a couple, Bisexual on the part of the therapist. See highlighted topics. Also see a separate practice called: Somatica®

Cervical Cap and Sponge
      Barrier Birth Control method which involves placing a physical barrier between the Ejaculate and the Uterus in the Vagina. The 'cap' itself is usually a soft plastic or latex circle that is fitted over the Cervix prior to Intercourse. The 'sponge' side of the equation was a device of questionable effectiveness by itself, but the combination does have its place. It was usually recommended that they be used with a Spermicidal Cream giving a threefold protection. None of the above is effective at preventing Sexually Transmitted Diseases. Also, the cap and sponge may play a role in 'toxic shock syndrome' if worn during Menstruation, see discussion at Tampon. Also see: Prophylactic, Feminine Hygiene Products, and related topics.

Cervix
      Muscular opening to the Uterus at the internal end of the Vagina. Despite much (badly written) Erotica to the contrary, under normal circumstances, including Sexual Intercourse and Fisting, NOTHING larger than a Spermatozoa can Penetrate beyond the cervix and enter the Womb (Uterus) without the equivalent of labor pains without doing permanent and life threatening damage to the woman involved. Even the attempt to dilate the cervix without proper medical training and instrumentation will result in debilitating cramps which are likely to end the Sex Act rather abruptly.
      The cervix is usually examined during OB/GYN visits and tested for precancerous abnormalities with a PAP smear. See: Uterus, Vagina, Speculum, OB/GYN and related terms.
      Some sources use the French term "cul-de-sac" to refer to the area of the Vagina immediately surrounding the cervical opening. Said use is something of a misnomer and it will not be so used by Your Good Brutha.

CFNM
      The abbreviation stands for Clothed Female Nude Male. It is used to describe a niche in the Pornography world where fully, or partially, clothed Women entertain themselves in various ways with a nude Man, which is the polar opposite of most traditional Porn and other Adult Entertainment such as with Terpsichorean Ecdysiasts. This amusement may involve various Sex Acts, Humiliation, a Handjob, Bondage, Nyotaimori, and other Sexual and non-sexual acts and behaviors. See highlighted topics.

"Chai-yok"
      Korean term for a folk medicine treatment for a wide variety of Female Problems which involves the woman sitting naked on what is essentially a potty chair over a vaporizer. What it comes down to is a Douche using the vapors from hot, or even boiling, herbal tea. See: Vaginal Steam Bath

Chaperone, Chaperoning
      Most usually regarded as an escort for those who are Under Age or who need to be supervised for other reasons. The chaperone is usually one whom is an Adult or has legal guardianship of those they are escorting. The act of escorting one's charges. In some cases the escort may act as the Guardian (which see) in legal terms which may include the ability to authorize medical treatment of a minor, said permission is usually given prior to the escorted event in writing.
      In historic times the escort was present to ensure the Virtue of young women who were not supposed to engage in Premarital Sex with their suitors. The term is the French word for the hat or hood the escort wore to proclaim their status. For another application of the same idea see: "Billy Graham Rule, The"
"The chaperone's job is to make sure no one else has any fun. But nobody chaperones the chaperone. That's why I'm so right for this job."
- Jane Russell (1921 - 2011)

Charm, Charming
      For our purposes here- Personality trait which encompasses good manners, pleasant conversation, a high level of Personal Hygiene, some Savoir-Faire as well as a smattering of other habits which make a person almost irresistible to others, especially those they find Attractive in some way. See: Gentleman, Lady. Compare: Feminine Wiles / Feminine Charms.

Chaste, Chastity
      Implied Innocence, Purity, or Virginity. Behavior, such as extreme Modesty, which protects and emphasizes ones Virtue with Sexual Abstinence. See said terms.

Chastity Belt
      Traditionally, a belt worn by a female which provided a physical barrier or deterrent as well as concealment of her sexual parts to guarantee her Virginity or Faithfulness in the absence of her father, Husband, protector or other Chaperone. There were also male versions mentioned in various literary sources which appear to be an armored Jock Strap, although their actual existence is open to speculation. Truth be told, such devices were rarely used, and proved quite ineffective when they were with either sex. In the end, the belt was more a symbol than an actual prohibitive device. The belt was updated in the George Orwell novel 1984 with the sash worn by the "Junior Anti Sex League". Today the belt is involved in some Dom/ Sub relationships and a lot of Erotic Literature.

Chauvinism, Chauvinistic
      Derogatory term for an attitude described by Feminist activists as being covertly Misogynistic or having the view that women are second class citizens, incapable of surviving as equals with men, somehow inferior otherwise. Most usually used in a phrase like "male chauvinist pig".

Cheap
      Most usually a Promiscuous person who does not require extensive wining and dining before they take their date to bed. Is often used to describe a woman who dresses the part of a said woman, whether or not they really are like that. Usually regarded as synonymous with Easy, or Fast. Also see: Strumpet. Compare: Trollop.
"You'd be surprised how much it costs to look this cheap!" -Dolly Parton (born 1946)

Cheap Thrills
      The term means exactly what it says, basic entertainment and excitement for little or no out of pocket expense. Most often heard as a catch phrase for media promotions of asinine shows such as Sexploitation flicks on late night cable channels. Can also be had by watching someone else ride a bicycle over something like "dead man's cliff" in a state park. See: Voyeurism, Sexploitation.

Cheating
      For our current purpose: Sex outside of, and the breaking of trust in, a relationship, especially in a long term relationship such as a Marriage under the Marriage Vows. See: Adultery, Unfaithful, Emotional Infidelity, Monogamy, and Infidelity. Compare: Open Relationship, Serial Monogamy.

Cheerleader
      Traditional use is for Co-eds (which see) who make up a pep squad which appears at high school or college sporting events to lead the team's supporters in the stands in rooting for their players and raising school spirit. Often considered a separate unit from the pom pon squad which is usually more dedicated to choreographed Dance routines and is most often all female. In most cases, the equivalent group attached to a professional sports franchise will be considered a 'dance squad' instead of using the word 'cheerleader' which some Feminists consider demeaning.
      The term is sometimes used for a perky, overly cheerful, fairly attractive young woman, a Babe, even more so if she is blonde, in a gently demeaning, and even disrespectful way to indicate that the woman is an airhead who relies on her looks and personality, and implying that she trades in Sexual Favors as well, to earn her daily bread or place in society. Often used in a way not quite so derogatory or insulting as Bimbo, Easy or Slut (see said terms).
      Those in the 'professional cheerleader' squads, and even younger women and girls on college and even high school squads often practice provocative moves and wear quite skimpy costumes which hearken back to the days of Burlesque and flaunting their sexuality. Which in some cases is borderline Child Porn when the girls are under age. When the women on the squad are indeed Adults, it can be quite Sexy indeed, and often a better show than the game they are appearing at. See: Teasing for more.
      In terms of our Glossary we take the previous paragraphs and move it one more step to where they are showing everything they have to show and the moves they engage in are not just Sexy but Sexual. The term is often used in the keywords for adult websites that have a great deal of pornographic content of that type of young woman. Often, said women will be presented in actual cheerleader outfits, as to whether or not the woman in the costume had ever been one... who cares?

Cheesecake
      Also known as 'pin ups'. Images, paintings and photographs, primarily of women in suggestive poses or partially nude. Best example is World War 2 era posters of Actresses and US Army Air Force bomber nose art as well as certain postcard type artwork, especially those by Alberto Vargas (1896 - 1982). When a male is the subject the artwork is usually referred to as Beefcake. See: Bikini, T&A. Compare: Glamour Photography, Also see: Harrison Marks, Bettie Page.

Cherry
      Small, red, long stemmed fruit with a pit or stone in the middle, Rosaceae Prunus.
      Like new, especially when applied to things like restored classic automobiles.
      For use in our current context see Virgin, Hymen, De-flowering.

Chick
      Young poultry. Also, a religious tract publishing house.
      Also slang term for a Woman or Girl. Often accompanied by a modifier such as Goth, or Yuppie, to indicate a particular type of Female.

Chick Flick, Couples Movie, Date Movie
      In this context, motion picture of any Rating which plays on the emotions of the viewers for a reaction which will elicit a satisfying emotional release, most usually, from women viewers. Plots often focus on evoking strong sadness, fear, anger or other negative emotion during the main body of the work then move to close with a happy ending. Again, the focus of said emotional release is intentionally aimed at the women in the audience. The term usually used in reviews and advertisements is 'Romantic Comedy'. See: Emotion, Heart Wrenching.
      To most Heterosexual men, such movies may seem unfathomably complex, over-plotted, teary eyed sessions of utter boredom with characters that spend more time soul searching than they ever will earning a living. As with daytime TV Soap Operas. The best way to endure such things is to wonder what the various characters would do naked, or if attacked by zombies, or maybe drunk, or perhaps- if the movie is really lame- all of the above at once.
"I thought Rambo 3 was romantic, why would I want to go see The Princess Bride?" -Doktor Leftover.

"Chicks With Dicks" and various versions thereof
      Phrase used in Pornography and in various Adult Forms to describe individuals who, usually, are part way through male to female Sex Reassignment Surgery and have had Breast Enhancement Surgery, but still have a Penis and related structures, and various videos and photo sets dedicated to them and their adventures both with Men and Women. There are a much smaller number that are going from female to male which are employed in the industry. See highlighted terms as well as: Tranny-Surprise, Transsexual, She-Male, Hijra, Sex Change Surgery.
      In the majority of cases these individuals were not born a Hermaphrodite or other type of physical Third Sex but have chosen the conversion for reasons of their own. However, there are a very few that are born as such. See: Hermaphrodite, Androgynous and related.
      Now, all of that being said, the phrase is a Lie. The 'chick' with referenced intact plumbing is not a Chick at all in that that term refers to a biological 'XX chromosome' Female. The more accurate term for the majority of those who are so referred to would be "dude with fake tits". The idea that the 'normal man' having Sex with the 'chick with a dick' is somehow not engaging in Homosexual activity is apparently part of the attraction with this niche of Porn.

Child, Children
      One who has not attained the legal age required to give Informed Consent or enter into a legal contract. 'Children' is plural.
      Use is usually restricted to refer to those who are pre-Teen. See: Minor, Age of Majority, Teenager, Adolescence, Puberty, Coming Of Age, and so on.

Child Pornography
      Any material which depicts Children, those under the local Age of Majority, in sexually graphic ways. The material is usually thought to be image based, but may in fact be textual. The material may be presented electronically, such as web based, printed magazines or books, video tape or DVD, or even live performances which may then be filmed, see Child Prostitution.
      Borderline material, such as provocative underwear ads featuring young children in suggestive poses, seem to be used to inflame public opinion and garner free advertising for the retail establishment which produced the ad, but are not generally deemed to be Pornographic. However, they may meet the test of Indecency (which see) as they involve children.
      The material is by definition NOT subject to US First Amendment protection and is prohibited in all other reasonable countries. Some third world countries, including Afrika, Oceania, Central America, and some parts of Eastern Europe are havens for those who produce and export the material to the West, sometimes, to order, at premium prices.
      The possession, use, production, and sale of it is a Felony, not a mental illness, nor a disability.
      However, all of that having been said, there is also a reasonable argument against Zero Tolerance style enforcement which makes grandparents with 'bear rug' type photos of their grandchildren into Felons. Common sense must rule here. Unfortunately for all concerned, it doesn't.
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Child Prostitution
      The use of Children, boys as well as girls, to have Sex For Money with Adult customers, or as 'favors' for high rollers, gang members, politicians, or for other reasons. Such practice is unfortunately fairly common in Afrika and other regions, see Sex Tourism and highlighted terms.
      In some places, young children can be married off to Adults, in at least one case, with the government's blessing. See: Saudi reference at Pedophilia.
      In some cases the children are slaves in service to those who 'own' them either as indentured servants working off a family debt or as actual property bought from an underground market. See: Human Trafficking, White Slavery, Sex Trade.
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Chivalry, Chivalrous
      A trait in Gentlemen which compels him to see to the needs of others, especially Women and children, before taking care of himself. Whether that be simply holding a door open for a Lady or throwing himself on an explosive to save a group of school children. Such traits are despised by Feminists as relegating them to second class citizenship.
      The trait comes down to us from the Romantic era of Knights and Ladies of the Court and their peculiar relationship which often included Unrequited Love (which see).

Chocolate, Cocoa, Etc
      In this context, three meanings:
      May refer to an attractive black woman in much the same context as Brown Sugar, which see.
      When used in reference to Anal Sex may include use of the trademarked brand name as in: the "Hershey®" Highway as a Euphemism for Anal Intercourse. The word 'Hershey' is a registered mark of The Hershey Company, the above said use of the word is NOT approved by them.
      The cocoa based confection many women will indulge in instead of having sex. Especially dark chocolate.

Christian Nymphos, Christian Nudists
      Rather curious groups with websites by those names that have a similar mission to that of Your Good Brutha: To educate people on the topic of Sexuality. Except they are coming from the world of religion where for far too long all things Sexual have been painted as evil in and of themselves, the human body is something to be ashamed of, and Sex should only be engaged in to propagate the species. Do a web search for their sites. Also see: separate entries at Nymphomania, Nudists. See quote at Marian Doctrine.

Chubby Chaser
      Term thought to be cute by media types, especially morning radio show hosts, to describe men who enjoy relationships with Fluffy (fat) women. See: Euphemism, "Big Beautiful Woman", Fluffy, Plumper, and related.
      Added to the Glossary from the Suggestion of a Reader who is one!

Cicciolina, la
      Working name for Ilona Staller (born 1951 in Hungary), who was an female Italian porn star who was elected to their Parliament from 1987 to 1992. After which she was embroiled in a rather spectacular divorce. She is perhaps most famous for continuing to work while in the legislature and sending calendars to fellow members at Christmas... ... the calendars featured photos of herself from her 'other job'.

Cigar
      To the Doktor: cheap, mass produced, probably stale, roll of questionable ingredients which smells like an industrial accident when burned.
      Also: similar object, of hopefully somewhat better quality, self inserted into the Vagina of President Clinton's Mistress, which he then chewed on (the cigar, not the Pussy) and proclaimed it to be "good". The brand of the smoke is not known at this point. See: Monica, Sex Toy, Dildo and related.
      Object in a dream which may or may not represent a Penis. See: Freud for (disputed) quote.       The item's cousin, the cigarette, has for years represented the afterglow of Sexual Activity in movies and on TV, see "Need A Cigarette" for more.

Circle Jerk
      A useless effort. A futile, somewhat painful, possibly humiliating, all but worthless exercise where even the best possible outcome is of dubious value. See: Cluster Fuck, Fuck Up.
      Term is based on a Mutual Masturbation Daisy Chain of several individuals, usually thought of as all Gay men but there is anecdotal evidence, and some video footage, of Co-Ed and Lesbian groups as well. In practice, the group would sit in a room and watch each other Masturbate themselves, or, have a round of Mutual Masturbation where they 'help each other', to the same end, with no other contact between the players. See: Handjob, Mutual Masturbation, Daisy Chain, Reach Around, Dutch Rudder, and related. Also see: Zipless Fuck.
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Circumcision
      In males, the removal of the foreskin of the Penis which covers the Glans (which see), or tip of the organ. Throughout history the practice has been associated with various religious beliefs, then was thought to be in the best interest of public health to reduce various Venereal Diseases. The latter is now in dispute. For the practice in women see: Female Genital Mutilation. The two are NOT equivalent. Also see: Subincision, Body Modification.

City Jade Men, "Du Shi Yu Nan"
      The vain, somewhat flamboyant, material possession obsessed, young urban professional men of China's major cities who are all about skin care, the latest fashions, being seen in the 'right' clubs, and who are apparently the Far East's rendition of Metrosexuals or a Dandy of old, which see.

Clap, Dose of the Clap
      Euphemisms for the entire range of, usually, non-fatal Sexually Transmitted Diseases, which see. The exceptions to that 'non-fatal' clause include hepatitis c and AIDS. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Classifiers
      Australian government Censors who rate imported literature and other works for objectionable content under various categories. See: Censorship, Obscenity, Free Speech, and related.

Cleavage
      The valley, fold, furrow, or cut between two nearby objects, hills or mounds, whether natural or man made. Such as a pass between mountains, a slice out of a whole watermelon, or the bend in a metal bar as for a blacksmith weld.
      For our purposes here and now: The valley between a woman's Breasts. The term also equally applies to the groove between her butt cheeks. Also seen as the subject of endless TV jokes as the exposed butt of a plumber or other repairman whose trousers have slipped below his waist while working. Especially if the man white, older than the stars of the show, Heterosexual, and is overweight or obese.
      Women's cleavage is the item of boundless fascination for most TV producers as they will have the cameras focus on it even when the woman showing hers is not talking, and even when said woman is not all that attractive. For examples all you have to do is watch any of the network morning entertainment / "news" shows. See: Voluptuous, Stacked, Décolletage, Curves, and related.

Climax
      Sexual peak occurring before, and sometimes after Orgasm. In women, it is usually thought of as the end of the Arousal phase of Sexual Excitement from which she will build up toward Orgasm. With men, it can result in Ejaculation without Orgasm. See: Orgasm, Cum, Blush, and related.

Clitoral Network
      The array of nerves that extend from the Clitoris throughout the Vulva, well into the Vagina including the Urethra and the G-spot (and other 'lettered-spots'), the Anus, and perhaps up to the Mound of Venus. In some articles nearly two dozen individual sites have been located and identified. Some "Sex Writers" (which see) have labeled these structures the Orgasmic Crescent, which is a slightly Sexier name than the current entry which sounds like a "lesbian media group".
      The idea of Female Genital Mutilation is to remove and/or disable as much of these structures as possible, thereby rendering the girl unable to enjoy Sex.

Clitoris, Clit, Clitoral Hood
      External female Sexual Organ consisting of a high concentration of very sensitive nerves in an Erectable structure at the junction of the External female Sexual Organ consisting of a high concentration of very sensitive nerves, the Clitoral Network, in a small Erectable structure at the ventral junction of the Labia Majora. Primary focus of stimulation to Orgasm in most activity. In 'Female Genital Mutilation' or 'cutting' or 'female circumcision' the Clitoris is often surgically removed along with her labia. See: Female Genital Mutilation.
      The 'clitoral hood' is a shroud of skin that surrounds and protects the organ, is often pierced for the installation of jewelry, which can lead to massive infections, nerve damage, and sexual dysfunction if done incorrectly. See: Vaginoplasty, Body Piercing, Vulva, Vajazzling, and related.

Closet, Underground, Out
      In terms of this list, expressions related to the Gay lifestyle in relation to how openly, or not, a person is living as a Homosexual or other Sexual Preference, such as Bisexual. One is 'in the closet' or 'underground' if one is concealing their true Sexual Orientation, or as one recent Governor of New Jersey, is living a lie as a Married Straight while secretly pursuing homosexual gratification outside of his marriage. One is 'out' if one is living openly as a Gay (or whatever), may or may not involve the Flamboyance typically seen as a stereotype. One is 'outed' (as in: 'brought out of the closet') when a Celebrity or other 'public persons' Sexual Preference is plastered all over a tabloid newspaper or TV entertainment report against their will. See: Gay, Out, Closet Queen and etc.

Closet Queen
      Somewhat obsolete term for a Homosexual man who has not Come Out publicly as Gay or Bisexual. There are activists in the gay community who state that all men are secretly gay, and are therefore 'closet queens', which is, of course, crap. Those who do live the double life, such as being married while seeking secret sex with other men in clubs or in anonymous encounters in public restrooms risk being Outed as well as contracting AIDS. someone who is "down low" is living as such. See: Closet, Queen and other highlighted terms.

"Clothed Female Nude Male"
      See: CFNM, also see Fully Clothed Sex and related.

Clotheshorse
      Two primary and somewhat related meanings. The first is a portable rack made of wood or plastic dowels between adjustable legs used for the drying of wet towels or other clothing items.
      The use we are more concerned with in this Glossary is as it refers to a person who is overly Obsessed with clothes to the point of appearing no more than a mannequin for the latest offerings by high fashion designers. Often seen on televised Soap Operas and in the Celebrity culture of Hollywood and New York City. A related term is "Fashion Plate", which see, and neither should be considered complimentary. Also see: Overdressed, Obsessive Compulsive, Dandy.

Cluster Fuck
      See: Congress.

      Also, an event or incident which is characterized by disorganization, chaos, conflicting agendas, wrongheaded methods, or somebody intentionally Screwing with things. Term is also used when a project is half completed and a boss, or multiple bosses, suddenly changes every possible detail and requirement for the project, cuts your staff, and moves the deadline up by a week. (I speak from experience.) See and Compare: Circle Jerk.
      Term is NOT related to any known Sex Act although some of the more riotous Bacchanalia celebrations may give you the general idea as they involved Sex, but also much drinking, music, and unruly behavior which was all supposed to be in tribute to the god, but Bacchus himself was all but forgotten during the festivities.

Co-Ed, Co-Educational
      Related to federal Title Nine which forced equal access to non-sporting school related activities, in and out of the classroom, but which was taken by many institutions to mean that they had to maintain equal opportunity to engage in school sports such as track and basketball. The original bill was to prohibit exclusion on the basis of Sex, but as a US Federal law it had the exact opposite effect and forced inclusion, in some cases, where it was not wanted by anybody involved. See: Sex Discrimination, E.R.A., Sex-Specific, and related.
      The term refers specifically to the inclusion of girls and women in what were traditionally men's activities. Such as a 'co-ed' bowling league.
      When one speaks of 'co-eds' one is most usually talking about high school or college age girls and young women. The term is usually not applied to women beyond their mid-twenties.

Cock
      A male chicken, or peafowl. The females of both species are called hens.
      The "Thunderbolt of Flaming Wisdom" (which see). Or, more mundanely: One of many common slang term for the Penis (which see). Also see: Dick and various related terms.

Cock and Ball Torture, CBT
      A practice where a man allows another person to bind and otherwise abuse his Penis and Testicles. May involve the use of everything from clothespins and hot wax to needles and other tools. Long, thin items may be inserted in the urethra or the penis may be placed in a vacuum Pump tube for forced engorgement with blood. Involves some risk from restricting of blood flow and the chance for infection. Usually incorporated with other S&M or Bondage type play. It is strongly suggested that a Safe Word be agreed to before engaging in this type of behavior. See: Safe Word and related topics.

Cock Gagging
      Fellatio performed where the man takes the Active Role and controls the depth and speed of the Penis's Penetration of the Receiving partner's mouth and throat, literally Fucking their throat (see: Throat Fucking) until the Receiver physically gags on it or the Ejaculate so produced, which is often the point of the exercise as in part of their Submission or in a Humiliation Ritual. See: more at Fellatio, Emetophilia.

Cock Ring
      Circle of flexible of material, cloth, leather, rubber, etc, made to fit around the erect Penis for any of several different reasons. Said ring may have bumps or ridges on its outer surface to increase the stimulation of the person being Penetrated, it may be designed to constrict the Penis to prevent loss of erection, it may be made to serve as part of Cock and Ball Torture when worn by a Sub. See: French Tickler, Condom, Ball Strap, and related.

Cocksucker
      Vulgar term for Fellatio. Also used to describe an unpleasant person, most usually a man, or one who is a scoundrel, such as a Politician especially a Congressman (which see). One of the original Seven Dirty Words, which see. Also see: Irrumare.

Code of Conduct
      A written or unwritten code of prohibitions or general suggestions of behaviors and activities which are either banned outright or discouraged while acting in an official capacity, using certain facilities or holding a given office. It will usually specify activity such as drinking on duty, Sexual Misconduct, using the organization's facilities for personal purposes, and so on.
      Such codes are usually applied to individuals such as police officers and school teachers, those in an executive position in a company or some other organization, some elected officials, and those types of positions. Violation of said code may result in dismissal from the position or other disciplinary action. Worrying about violating said code can become a Phobia or lead to Performance Anxiety. See: Fraternize, Conduct Unbecoming an Officer, Public Display of Affection.
      There is no known code of this type which is enforced for the weasels in Congress.

Coin Slot
      Yet another Slang term for the Vulva. In this case, most usually, that of a young woman who has Shaved and whose Labia Major close tightly and look like part of a vending machine to those who can imagine said Young Woman's anatomy being made out of chrome. The term is primarily used on web sites and forum discussions where the users have run out of slang terms to use. See highlighted terms.

Coitus
      Latin medical and legal term nearly exclusively used to refer to Heterosexual Genital Intercourse (Fucking). See: Making Love and other references.
      Also related: Coitus- an experience in motion and emotion, a short subject semi-Softcore movie starring British actress Sue Bond, produced and directed by Harrison Marks (which see).

Coitus Interruptus
      Stopping Intercourse before Ejaculation to avoid risk of Pregnancy or for other reasons. Literally means 'fucking stops'. Method is not overly effective as some Sperm may escape before Ejaculation. See: Sin Of Onan, Birth Control, Withdrawal.

Cold
      In thermodynamics, the state of a given mass being low in energy, perhaps being at or near absolute zero, and thereby unable to transfer heat (energy) to another body. Has also been used to describe anybody who is uninterested in personal interactions of the 'casual chat and small talk' nature. A state of total disinterest, emotionally and otherwise, in whatever is going on.
      For our good work here.... the term is taken to mean a person, most often a woman, who has no interest in Sex. When the subject at hand is a Married Woman and the condition is extreme, she is often said to be Frigid, which see.

Collar, Collaring
      A band of leather or other strong material worn around the neck as a means of restraint and control. As used with dogs. Also, a more substantial work of wood or metal used as a yoke for draft animals.
      From Dom/Sub and related. A collar is symbolic of the Submissive partner in the relationship. In some circles 'Collaring' is a special occasion either celebrated with a party or a somber ritual of commitment. The collar may be an actual leather belt around the neck comparable to a dog collar, it may be a jeweled necklace or chain where the significance is only known to those involved, or anything in between. See: related entries.

Come Out
      One who has taken to openly living an Alternative Lifestyle. The term refers to 'coming out of the closet'. Most usually used with someone who has publically admitted being Gay, such as a recent governor of New Jersey. See: Out, Closet, Closet Queen, and related terms.
      Many Celebrities (which see) whose careers are otherwise over 'come out' on a national TV talk show to get back in the spotlight for awhile. See: Publicity Whore.
      Even though some Gays have a "Coming Out Party" in which they celebrate by openly engaging in Homosexual acts, this is a Bastardization of the term. See "Coming Out Party" for correct usage.

Comfort Women, Comfort Stations
      Politely: The use of conscripted women to provide Carnal services to soldiers. The military facilities so staffed.
      More Directly: The systematic enslavement of adult women and girls as young as their early teens, transportation from their home town to another location even outside their own country, subsequent dehumanization, repeated rape, use and abuse as sex slaves, and in many cases, summary execution at the end of their service of women in militarily occupied countries by the Imperial Japanese Army, and other military organizations throughout history. The 'stations' were simply Brothels (which see) run by and for the military.
      While the phenomenon was not unheard of prior to WW2, the most widespread and prevalent use of the practice with the overall most brutal manifestation of the general idea is as follows. Other known or suspected occurrences include certain locations within the Roman Empire, Eurasia under the reign of the Great Khans of the Mongol Empire, and various in vassal states of the USSR. However, we shall look at the most infamous and possibly the most egregious example. Note: we are NOT talking about voluntary Prostitution by Camp Followers or similar work, see said terms.
      Japan had occupied all of Korea since it won the war with Russia in 1905, however, there is no evidence of the practice occurring there at that time. Rather it is generally accepted that it began later in China with the first Sino-Japanese war and the occupation of Shanghai in 1932 by the Japanese army, when military brothels were opened using Korean and Chinese women held for that express purpose. During the lead in to WW2, and as Japan occupied more territory and began to fully exploit the Korean peninsula for the war effort, many women were taken from that country to occupied cities throughout the region.
      During the World War Two years, women and girls by the tens of thousands were both voluntarily recruited, supposedly for actual military service, as well as conscripted and forcibly kidnapped to work in the brothels from almost every country occupied by the forces of Imperial Japan. The majority of them came from Korea and China, however, others were added as the Empire expanded including Filipino, Malay, and even Dutch women from South East Asia regardless of the status of their home nation as Japan flaunted every treaty and international agreement including the use of chemical weapons against its enemies.
      The overall conditions in the brothels were deplorable, sanitation was usually non-existent, diseases (Sexually Transmitted and others such as cholera and typhoid fever) were rampant, and many of the women did not survive long in them. To be certain, they passed on the various commutable diseases to the soldiers that visited as well as others that serviced the houses such as food suppliers. Rumors still persist of a higher quality of brothel with slightly better treated hand picked women for officers, and representatives of the Emperor, however, hard information on those is lacking at best. The role of the women in 'entertaining' the troops is totally at odds with the professional Geisha (which see) of the Japanese Home Islands which was, and is, an honored and skilled position and not usually seen as a Prostitute. The 'comfort woman's' sole purpose was as a Sex Object.
      As the Allies retook occupied areas, many of the women were shot by the Japanese as they withdrew. But some did survive and for years after the war, their story was whispered and mentioned in passing in the histories, but shame kept many of the survivors from telling their story, and identifying children born from said activity. That is until the 1990's when an organization of former, and now elderly, 'comfort women' from Korea and other countries organized and began telling their stories and providing collaborating evidence such as letters, photographs, and other items.
      Only then, after fifty years of official denial, in reports issued in 1992 and 1993, the Japanese Government finally admitted to the existence of said women and the ways in which they were "recruited" and treated. Officially, the Japanese Diet (or legislature), as well as the rest of the Government, including the current Emperor, denies any responsibility and maintains that the program was not a sanctioned activity by the Military, and has, to date, refused any further admission or restitution to the "jugun ianfu" women.
      See: Sex Slave, Prostitution. Compare: White Slavery, Human Trafficking.
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Coming Of Age
      The point at which a Minor becomes an Adult and is able to legally give Consent or otherwise do various things. Also, related books and movies about the transition out of childhood and all the drama so related. See various related topics including: Adult, Child, Of Age, Age Of Majority, Emmanuelle, and so on.

Coming Out Party
      Occasion which marks a young person's transition from childhood to adolescence, or from adolescence to adulthood, depending on the culture. The ages as well as the rights and responsibilities associated with the event vary greatly as does the legal standing of the individuals so celebrated. In the Jewish Faith the Bar/Bat Mitzvah is for those who reach 13 years old, in Latin homes the Quinceañera celebrates a girl who is fifteen, Debutant balls usually happen for a girl's "sweet sixteen", and so on. See: Debutant, Quinceañera, Of Age, Teenager.
      Even though the phrase has been hijacked by Homosexuals for use to mark the occasion when one now lives as Openly Gay, such use is not considered correct. See: Come Out, Out.

Commando, Going Commando
      Fairly stupid term for one whom decides to 'be risky', 'bold', 'forward', or even 'Sexy' by wearing trousers, a dress, a toga, or other clothing without underwear. Most of the time such an action is simply uncomfortable as nobody else cares what you are or are not wearing. Term is usually reserved for men, however, it has been used on TV by women as well. Such behavior has little, if anything, to do with the special forces units of the various military branches. See: Titillation, Naughty.
      The sole exception to the above rule that usually 'nobody gives a damn' is when the subject is a beautiful woman and she is wearing a Miniskirt, Daisy Dukes, or even Hotpants with nothing under them. See: said listings and Compare: Exhibitionism, Up-Skirt, Voyeurism.

Common Law, Common Law Marriage
      Informal precedent set over time by practice and so accepted by the courts as the status quo. Said recognition may apply to a business relationship, right of way, usage, or, as mentioned, Domestic Partnership.
      Some jurisdictions recognize the status of said marriages after a given number of years, others do not. Where said recognition occurs, there may be financial and other repercussions that may be equal to the dissolution of an actual Marriage. See: Divorce, Live In, and related.

Community Standards
      Term used to encompass and mean whatever a court, city counsel, social do-gooder group, or other busybodies want it to mean as there is no such thing in reality. Is usually trotted out and paraded around whenever there is a zoning request for somebody to build an Adult Entertainment or other business of that type or a performance or display was slightly Erotic. Most of the time, those invoking said term are some of the biggest self righteous Hypocrites you'll ever see. See: Family Hour, Sexual Depravity, Content Warning, Social Evil, Taboo, Deviance, and related.
      Also part of the Three Prong Test (which see) for Obscenity and Indecency, which also see.

Compulsive Masturbation
      Engaging in self-pleasure to the point where it interferes with normal daily activity or is conducted in socially unacceptable situations, such as in restaurants or on the subway. Also, can be seen when doing so causes personal injury such as damaging the skin with excessive Rug Burn to the point of allowing an infection to take place.
      Behavior seen primarily in men but is not unheard of in women. At times has been treated as a mental illness such as Sexual Addiction or true Nymphomania (see said terms). Now seen as more of a symptom of other disorders than its own. Can be treated and the person normalized with behavior therapy and / or medication depending on the underlying cause. Also see: Hypersexuality, Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder (see PGAD), Self Control, Obsessive Compulsive. Compare: Porn Addiction.
      One of the known tendencies when the practice is a symptom of a mental disorder is the hording of Ejaculate. Often to the point where their room will be lined with cups and bowls full of semen so expressed.

Computer Generated Image, CGI
      Still and moving pictures and animations wholly or partially created by various computer programs. In our current context these would include falsified nude images of Celebrities, Hentai and Anime type cartoons, and various adult themed video games. Also includes special effects in movies. In some cases, the artificial image is indistinguishable from a real photograph. See: "Hot Coffee", Airbrush, Internet Rule Thirty-Four, and various topics as mentioned.

Conception, (to) Conceive, Fertilization
      The moment a Spermatozoa enters an Ovum to cause Pregnancy, also when said fertile egg implants in the Uterus. See: highlighted terms. Compare: "Original Sin", Birth Control.
      Said term is usually thrown around the Abortion debate without anyone ever defining exactly when "conception" is. It is worth noting here that depending on the source cited, between one quarter to nearly half of all fertilized eggs never implant in the Womb, or are rejected for various reasons if they do within the first week or so of the term, meaning those babies are being naturally aborted.

Concubine
      Traditionally, a female Servant with whom the Master could Have Sex without the benefits, or complications, of Marriage. Often seen in many royal courts and the upper classes of society in the Mid-East. Said arrangement was often more formal than is usually associated with the term Mistress (which see) and in fact, the concubine was often considered a member of the royal household with special privileges not enjoyed by other servants, but was something less than a Consort, which was often also a Spouse and therefore less fun to have around. See: Harem, Kept Woman, and related.

Condom
      Barrier Birth Control device most usually of impermeable plastic membrane fitted to the Male Organ or inside the Vagina of a woman designed to trap and kill Sperm. Is regarded as the safest and most effective on-demand method to prevent both Sexually Transmitted Diseases and/or pregnancy. Failure rate for both is between single digits to about 15% depending on study referenced, although the majority of these failures are often attributable to improper fit or use. Can become an object of Fetishism or Obsession. Slang terms include Rubber, Raincoat, the brand name "Trojan" and so on. See: Sexually Transmitted Disease, Internal Cumshot, Birth Control, Bare Back, and related terms.
      Natural membrane condoms are made of various parts of animals, including intestines, and while they do offer nearly equal Birth Control as the man made variety when used as prescribed, they offer little or no STD protection. Even given that fact, some purists demand and use the natural item which is available at some retailers and online.
      Historically speaking: condoms, and condom-like devices were known to the ancients. Evidence exists of condoms in use in pre-Roman Europe and the ancient Middle East about 1000 BC. Tomb artifacts from the time include linen sheaths and purpose designed animal membranes with bindings to fit around the Penis. Such devices were probably of limited effectiveness for both Birth Control and Sexually Transmitted Disease prevention, not to mention the comfort factor for both partners.

Conduct Unbecoming an Officer, Official Misconduct
      Legal or other disciplinary charge in various military and paramilitary organizations, such as police departments, also sometimes used to remove ranking members of other bodies such as labor union executive boards which have a Code of Conduct, which see. Also see: "Billy Graham Rule, The"
      Besides Felonies, which see, the charges usually center on behavior such as public intoxication, minor Sexual Misconduct, a weekend of "Wine, Women, and Song" so to speak, or other less serious misdeeds. But may also include favoritism, Quid Pro Quo, Lying on or about a duty related matter, Perjury, receiving bribes, treason, and other more serious offenses which may include Felony criminal charges or civil lawsuits.
      It is seldom used to remove members of Congress, as everybody has such low expectations of that bunch of losers that ... nevermind.

Confide, Confess, Confession
      To admit to an action, behavior, idea, etc. to another.
      To 'confide' is to tell another person something in confidence with the belief that they will not repeat said statement. The urge to 'confide' in another person is something most often seen in women, and has a part in Bonding. However, such is also the root of Gossip. See: highlighted terms.
      To 'confess' means to admit to something. In a legal light it means to acknowledge that one committed a crime. Said admission is usually allowed to be read or played at trial.
      The term 'confession' is the same as the above, but has religious overtones as it is most usually associated with the telling of ones Sins (which see) to clear ones Conscience to a priest who may or may not be a Pedarist (also see).

Congress, Congressman
      In the Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana (which see) the word 'congress' is synonymous with Fucking. It can also be applied to other Sexual Activity including Fellatio and Cunnilingus as mentioned in the classic Sex Manual.
      In today's usage when referring to America, the term means about the same, however, we must write it as "Fucking the taxpayers and other honest citizens". The term with "man" (or "woman/person") as a suffix means "professional liar who couldn't get another job". See: Asshole, Bullshit, Amoral, Social Engineer. Also see: Sleaze, Morals Charges, Conduct Unbecoming..., Quid Pro Quo, Felony, Perjury, Assclown, Fuckwad, Crap.

Conjugal Right
      Obsolete term and idea and legal ruling that the Husband of a Married Woman has the presumed right of access to her body for the purposes of Sex and that she has already given her Consent through being Married, and therefore, a man cannot Rape his Wife. This is, of course, crap and has been overturned in almost every Western country. However, that is not the case in most areas under Sharia where a woman has no right to refuse, and if she does, she can be taken in front of the religious police and be executed for it. (no, we're not kidding). See highlighted terms.
      See various related topics including: Marian Doctrine, Headache, "Lay Back And Think Of England", and so on.

Conjugal Visit
      The allowance of a Significant Other, usually a legal Spouse, to visit an incarcerated person, usually a prison or mental hospital inmate, for the purpose of engaging in Sex. The privilege is usually reserved for those doing long sentences for Felonies and may be revoked if the inmate violates their Code of Conduct. Not all jurisdictions allow such visits.

Conquest
      Military victory and the occupation of the defeated party's territory. Often used in reference to heated sports rivalries, especially between university and professional American football teams.
      In our present context: Having another willingly Consent to ones sexual advances, usually resulting in a Sex Act, either Heterosexual or Homosexual. Without express consent, the act is Rape. See: Consummate, Sexual Conquest.

Conscience
      The ability to distinguish between good and bad, right and wrong, Sin and righteousness, etc. As opposed to Conscious / Consciousness which is the state of cognitive awareness when one is awake. See: highlighted terms.
      Comes into play when one experiences the Emotions of Guilt or Regret (see said terms), remorse over events or actions, and when terms like Sin come into play, which makes one want to go to Confession.
      Also see: Seven Deadly Sins, Saving Oneself, Confess.

Conscious / Consciousness
      Intellectual self awareness, the state of being awake and knowing it rationally. As opposed to Conscience, which is an Emotional ability to be able to experience Guilt, see those terms.
      Said state of awareness and understanding is required in Informed Consent as opposed to Implied Consent when one is unable to function. See: highlighted terms.
      In the realm of the general topic of this Glossary, any Consent must be made consciously and with acknowledgement of the actions involved and the risk and repercussions of said behaviors, nothing else will suffice. So if one of the parties is Drunk as hell, they legally cannot give Consent, for an example, see: Somnophilia.

Consensual Sex
      Both parties, being sober Adults willingly engage in Sexual Activity including Heterosexual Intercourse, Oral Sex, or some form of Homosexual sex. By law a Minor cannot give said consent. Some jurisdictions have a graduated scale of who can consent to sex with whom based on age and even activity. There is no standardization and some of the regulations are archaic and arbitrary. See: Age of Majority, Informed Consent and related
      Even now a woman can change her mind after said act, including several days after said act, rendering the encounter Rape or Sexual Assault, and the charges will be pressed, often resulting in conviction and prison time for her partner, even if she recants and withdraws the complaint after it was made. See: Felony and related.

Consent
      Willing agreement for participation in a behavior or activity, such as being Photographed or engaging in Sex. Said agreement implies that the participant is of Legal Age and of sufficient mental capacity (not stoned, for instance) to give said permission, see Consciousness. The age at which one is regarded as able to give said consent for various activities varies by jurisdiction and other factors. See: Adult/Age of Majority, Guardian, Child, Statutory Rape, Conjugal Right, Coming Of Age.
      For this Glossary: The permission is specific to being a willing participant in sex up to and including Fucking and various Fetish activity. The withdrawing of said consent is what turns normal sex into Sexual Assault or Rape. Which is exactly why most producers in this industry require said permission in writing. See: Model Release, Informed Consent.

Consort, Consorting
      In most cases a person who is not of royal blood to whom a royal is married but whom will never rule as sovereign. Such persons are seen titled as "prince (or Princess) consort". See: Princess, Mistress, Concubine, Harem, and related.
      Also to our point here, to 'consort' or 'consorting' is, essentially, to Fuck, or to otherwise engage in Debauchery with someone as seen in a phrase sometimes brought up during trials on Morals Charges (which see) "consorting with persons of low character". See: Wenching.

Consummate, Consummation
      The signing of a binding agreement, contract, between two parties in a business relationship and the exchanging of payment.
      A top level expert or one whom is absolutely proficient at a given task. As in- your Brutha is a consummate Eroticist.
      For our purposes- Fucking, as follows:
      Refers specifically to Heterosexual Genital Intercourse between a man and a woman who have been Married as the binding act of the joining. After which an Annulment may not be possible. Most usually said sex occurs on the Wedding Night, which see. Compare: Unconsummated Marriage.

Content Warning
      Term used to describe material which may not be appropriate for all individuals. Also used to warn people who may be emotionally upset by certain Provocative topics or images. The use is not limited to Sexual topics as it applies equally to violent content, such as with news footage, images of drug abuse, and other extreme behavior. One way around this is to Censor the content with Pixilation or a Black Bar over the offending bits, see said terms.
      Can also be seen on some documentary productions to notify individuals that the following material, while realistic, may upset some individuals. As with images of wild animals like lions hunting, killing, and eating antelopes.
      One of the most famous / infamous is the "Parental Advisory..." warning issued by the R.I.A.A on recordings that they deem inappropriate for children. See said terms.
      Such a warning is used on the Desk site in relation to this Glossary to let people know that if they can't take it, to move on.
      See: Lurid, Indecent, Obscene, Prurient Interests, Provocative, Rating, Sophisticated, "For Adults Only", Sexual Innuendo, and related.

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Convent, Nunnery
      The term applies to any segregated religious community, but in common usage has come to me such a community made up exclusively of women who have taken religious vows and are Nuns (which see). And although it does apply to said groups of other faiths, the most common use is regarding sisters under the Roman Catholic Church in a closed communal living setting and the buildings and grounds where they live.
      The term has come up and been added to this Glossary as there has been some media discussion of Lesbianism and Homosexual (Lesbian) Rape inside the walls of these groups. For a possible explanation of this see: "Situational Homosexuality".

Cooties
      Spellings vary, including 'coutee', 'coutie', and even 'kootee', as well as other variations.
      Mythical contagious disease which early elementary age children believe those of the opposite sex may transmit at the slightest touch. In recent years the playground topic of 'cooties' and related ideas, such as 'shots' and 'catchers' have disappeared to large extent. They will be missed.
      In the majority of cases, 'cooties' are cured by ones First Love or Puppy Love. See: related topics such as Playing Doctor and Sex Play.

Coprophilia
      A Fetish and a mental illness. Essentially, sexual interest in feces and the act of Defecation in general, especially of the human variety. Including the substance itself as well as its production and elimination from the body. May or may not involve the flushing of the Rectum with Enemas and the fetish of Klismaphilia. Compare: Emetophilia. The exact opposite would be coprophobia.

Coquet, Coquette, Coquetry
      The ancient use of the term was borrowed from the French word for rooster coq and referred to a man who Flirted (which see) with women for enjoyment without intending to pursue the matter further. As time wore on, it came to be used more for women who did the same thing, the proper spelling of which would be with the ending 'te'. Today the word (with its 'ry' in place) is usually used to describe the behavior by someone, still more often than not a woman, acting with a playfully Flirtatious attitude. For a ready example, think of most of Mae West's stage and movie characters, with the heat level turned down perhaps a notch or two. added to the Glossary the Suggestion of a Female Reader who is very good at it!
      See: Sexy, Provocative, Flapper, and other related terms.

Cornholing, Cornhole, Corn Hole
      Word for Anal Intercourse where Penis or other object is inserted in the Anus of either a male or a female by either a male or a female, the 'corn hole'. The term, and the Suggestively named game involving a bean bag toss, is not as popular as it once was, which is really a good thing. Compare: Pie Hole, Manhole.

Corrective Rape
      Violent, brutal, sometimes fatal sexual attack on a perceived Homosexual with the blessing, and often at the order of tribal or regional authorities in Afrika and elsewhere. Most often committed against Lesbians by males of her own village or even her own family, but occasionally the act is against a Gay male by a woman hired by the elders to 'change' the man. In such cases, neither a Condom or other Birth Control is employed so the act is as likely as not to result in Pregnancy, Sexually Transmitted Disease spread, or both. The supposition is, of course, that Homosexuality is a personal choice and not an innate tendency and that the punishment will 'fix' the behavior, in contrast to the 'rehabilitation' sought in other cultures through somewhat less dramatic means. See: Rape, Sex Crime and the highlighted terms. For another example see: "Gay Conversion Therapy".
      It is worth noting here and now that such crimes against Homosexuals are not expressly prohibited under Sharia, which deems it as an affront to God. Under Muslim law, Gays are often without basic human rights and may even be executed without trial or appeal by either religious or civil police. Also see: Sharia, Punitive Rape, and related.
"If you find anyone doing as Lot's people did, kill the one who does it, and the one to whom it is done." (Hadith, Abu Dawud no. 4447).
      added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Corset
      The original figure shaping undergarment for women going back some five hundred years, and even further as some indications of similar items can be found on Egyptian tomb paintings. In the historic period corsets were made of heavy material reinforced with everything from whale bone to steel and pulled tight with strong cords laced down the back. The idea of the corset was to support the woman's breasts and shape her mid-section while also enhancing the curve of her hips. It also seriously limited her flexibility and mobility as any strenuous activity or even too much walking was usually out of the question. In most cases, ladies of fashion needed at least one or two helpers to get into the thing and have it fitted correctly (hence the 'dressing room' in homes). The Depression and then World War Two ended the reign of the corset as it was replaced by separate Bras and Girdles. Also see: Merry Widow.
      No other evidence need be presented that women have historically been slaves to fashion than the history of the corset and the extremes women went to to conform to the style of the day. Reports of broken ribs and other injuries due to the over-tightening of the corset are not exaggerated as some have been found in official records. There are even reports of deaths resulting from the rupture of internal organs due to the things.
      Today such garments are more often seen in Fetish wear and as part of a Victorian costumes during historical pageants.

Costumes
      Clothing, and perhaps facial mask, which conceal ones true appearance either wholly or in part. Can either be quite simple or fantastically complex, such as with Carnival / Mardis Gras participants, which see.
      For our present purpose the outfits may involve Rubber or Leather vests and pants, masks, chains, and even Collars and other restraints. In the case of Fem Dom (which see) she may well have a Strap On type of Dildo on a belt harness with which she can play the Male Sex Role to her Sub, whether that be a man or another woman. See: Autoandrophilia, Dominatrix.
      Other costumes include doctors and Nurses for Medical Fetish play, Schoolgirl Uniforms (especially parochial school outfits), diapers and other paraphernalia for Infantile Fetish, even Vampires and other Goth outfits. Those used by Strippers and Showgirls can be quite elaborate, and at the same time, quite revealing. See: highlighted entries.

Cougar
      Puma concolor or the early stage name of the performer of the song quoted at Algolagnia.
      Also, one of a growing array of terms for an older woman, usually late thirties well into her fifties and even sixties, who seeks out much younger men for Sexual Conquest. See: M.I.L.F., Lady, Hot Mom, Cradle Robber, and related.
      TV shows, movies, and Porn made with or for such women and the men, and other women as well, who love them. (pun intended)
      Most older women are exceedingly comfortable with their sexuality and will tell you what they enjoy and how to please them. Also, they are usually quite capable of showing you and guiding you the right way if their explanations aren't enough. (This is always a very good thing! -Jim)

Couple Porn
      Adult version of the Chick Flick, which see. Usually the difference revolves around these movies having an actual, perhaps even reasonable plot, in which the characters become more developed, with significant dialogue between them before the Fucking begins.

Courtiers, Courtesan
      Simply, those who attended to the royal while 'in court' or on other official duty.. However, as with many of the classic terms listed in this Glossary, the reality is somewhat more complicated, as we shall see... Oh, by the way, the 'ier' is male or used to indicate the group as a whole, the 'esan' version is exclusively applied to the women who were considered Ladies (see Lady). Further note: Some courtiers are more famous than the courts they moved through, see: Casanova.
      In many cases the members of the court were expected to indulge the whims of the royals in every way with a certain amount of Discretion, which, if violated, could result in, shall we say, a disagreeable penalty. Besides the obvious Sexual Excesses, they were also participate in rampant gluttony, heavy boozing, gambling, and whatever other diversions the royal found amusing, including the torturing and killing of those of the court that had fallen out of favor, for example see Caligula. Some members of the various courts of Europe developed into the various Hellfire Clubs and other noteworthy organizations. The term 'courtesan' is also improperly and inaccurately used to mean Prostitute. Also, the men could be (a) Cavalier, but the terms are not interchangeable. See: Rake, Libertine, Jet Set, and other related.

Courting, Courtship
      Part of the Dating ritual which leads to Marriage. Most usually it is the man that seeks the attention and Affection of the woman. Often involves attending Social events such as a Dance or various family occasions. See: Engagement, Candy and Flowers, Proposal, Love At First Sight, Falling In Love, Dowry, Necking, Going Steady, "Cuffing Season", Girlfriend, and so on.

Courtly Love
      Emotional attachment and devotion to one whom you cannot Consummate the relationship with due to the social class or status of one or both parties. Originally seen in the courts of royalty and paid great tribute in the book "Don Quixote...". See: Unrequited Love for more on that subject.

Cowgirl
      A female ranch hand who works with the cattle in the same manner as the 'cowboys' of old. A female rodeo athlete, such as one who does trick riding and roping.
      A member of the University of Wyoming women's sports teams.
      Position for Sexual Intercourse of any variety where the Receiver 'rides' their partner. Also includes variations such as Reverse, and side-saddle. See: Woman On Top. Term is used, although it doesn't really seem to apply, with Homosexual activity as well as Heterosexual.
      Position, and related Sex Act, is alluded to in the otherwise absolutely worthless, and mildly offensive, country song by the 'hat act' Big and Rich (who broke up in 2008):

"Cause I saddle up my horse, And I ride into the city,
I make a lot of noise, Cause the girls, They are so pretty
Riding up and down Broadway, On my old stud Leroy.
And the girls say 'Save a horse, ride a cowboy.'"
Save a Horse (Ride a Cowboy) Lyrics by: Kenny and Rich. Album: Horse of a Different Color. 2004. Warner Records.

Coy, Playing Coy
      Most usually a smartass Tease. Also somebody who is overly shy or Modest. Can be one who says "no" but acts like they mean "yes" and thinks said behavior is cute. Most usually, said person just ends up being annoying after a very short time.

Crack Whore
      Person, most usually a woman (but can be a man), who exchanges Sexual Favors for drugs, may or may not involve crack cocaine as the term is also used with other drugs such as heroine. See: Prostitute, Alcoholic.

Cradle Robber / Robbing
      The historic reference is usually thought of as coming from the legend of either evil spirits or Rom / Gypsies stealing the children of locals out of their cribs and taking them away.
      Today it is most commonly heard in reference to "May - September Romances", Trophy Wives, Cougars, and other Relationships where there is a major difference in ages between the partners, especially if one of them is near (or below) the Age of Majority. See highlighted terms. Also see: Lolita, Pedophilia, and related terms

Crap, Crapola
      Various meanings, all related, Including: feces, solid digestive waste, Shit (which see). Any useless or defective object. Also: campaign promises and other Lies (which also see).
      The term is used in various locations throughout this Glossary to mean all of the above (see examples at: "Golden Age...", and "Marian Doctrine"), plus the most obvious meaning not listed: Bullshit (also see), which would seem to be the meaning in the following quote:

"When I think back
On all the crap I learned in high school
It's a wonder
I can think at all.
And though my lack of education
Hasn't hurt me none
I can read the writing on the wall."

-Kodachrome by Paul Simon, Columbia Records, album: There Goes Rhymin' Simon, 1973 release

Crimes Against Nature
      Phrase is generally considered obsolete except under Sharia. Usually refers to Homosexuality and various related activities. See: Acts Against Nature, Sodomy, Unnatural Act, and related. See historical note at Stonewall Riots.

Cross Dresser / Dressing, Transvestite, Transgendered
      Person wearing the clothing and accessories of the opposite sex and the act thereof. As versus Transsexual which involves the belief that the person is truly a member of the opposite sex in the wrong body or Hermaphrodite where the person has at least some of the physical characteristics of both sexes. 'Transgendered' is the P.C. term for both conditions. Also the Fetish involving the wearing of the clothes and accessories of the opposite sex. See: Rae Rae, Tranny Surprise, Skirt, Transsexual, Female Impersonators, Drag Show, and related.

Crotch
      Generally, the area between the legs from the pubic bone to the tail bone. Includes the external Sex Organs and Anus. Depending on usage, may include the Pubic Hair area as well. See: Privates, Groin.
      Similarly shaped forked feature of a tree, mountain range or other object.

Crotch Shot
      Two uses relevant to this Glossary.
      Photographic images, moving or still, of the Vulva and related body parts of a woman's body, most usually where the Labia and even Clitoris and Anus are clearly visible. Said image may be taken from the front or back although images from the rear are usually referred to as a Moon shot. See: Privates. Such images of men are a known cause of the Fantods.
      Gag used by TV and movie producers to go for the cheap laugh as a man's expense as it is supposed to be funny when a man is hit in the Testicles by anything. The stunt is supposed to be even funnier when the man is a white Heterosexual and his reaction to the injury is in front of women and children. Why it is funny is a mystery known only to those that wrote the stunt into the script as the resultant injury can be quite serious and may result in prolonged internal bleeding and other complications. See: Castration for more information. Also see: Ball Buster.

Crude Remarks
      Unsophisticated Sexual or otherwise untoward comments. Usually unwelcome, often offensive, and sometimes physically impossible or otherwise unrealistic. Such words and phrases also often include unwarranted and irrelevant references to physiological functions and bodily waste as well as degrading statements about family, race, religion and other 'sensitive' topics. Those making such comments usually do so because they have neither the language skills nor the intelligence to raise a meaningful argument that suits the occasion. See: Innuendo, Seven Dirty Words, Cunt, Shit, and related.
"Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe."
Albert Einstein (1879 - 1955)

Crush
      Most usually, a one way, intense passion felt for a member of the opposite sex who is most likely unobtainable and unaware of the feelings of said person. Said emotions are usually transitory and there may be a different subject of the devotion in a short period of time, and in some cases, the object of said 'crush' may not even be a real person. In common mass media usage: the object of said affection is some sort of celebrity (see Heartthrob) and the person with the feelings is a teenage girl who will document every detail in her Diary (which see), for evidence, see magazines and websites aimed at said target demographic. For worst case scenario, see Celebrity Stalker. Compare: Unrequited Love.
      In the vast majority of cases this is an Unrequited Love, which see.
      The feeling may or may not involve Lust, as the individual with the crush may be below the age of Puberty. See: Puppy Love. While an Adult may feel the same emotions for most of the same reasons, it is usually considered an Infatuation, which see. Also see: Courtly Love.
      None of this is to be taken as trivializing or dismissing the emotional state of the one with the 'crush' as, to them, the feelings are real, deep, and profoundly intense to the point of rendering the person with them nearly incapacitated. See: Lovesick, Heartache.
      Also the subject line in a spam email which is often infected with spyware and other malware. If you get a 'crush' email- delete it!

Cuckold
      Archaic word, still in use. A man who is controlled by and subject to rule by his wife who happens to be a Nag (which see). Especially in her desire for sex outside of marriage. In the niche porn world, the husband will often be forced to watch his wife perform with other men, sometimes several men at once in a Gang Bang. In most cases, everybody involved is an Adult Actor and is being paid or otherwise compensated for their time and effort instead of a forlorn husband and demanding wife. Also see: Wife, M.I.L.F., Swinger, Etc. Compare: Troilism.

Cuddle, Snuggle
      To hold another person close to oneself, with or without other romantic intent or other Physical Intimacy occurring. A prolonged Hug (which see). A prolonged hug. Usually regarded by women as extremely Romantic and comforting. Compare: Spooning. Has become part of the media obsession with "Cuffing Season".

'Cuffing Season'
      Idiotic media term first seen in the wild in the fall of 2011 in a few blogs and 'campus oriented' media, but by the fall of 2014 it had spread to mainstream publications, usually in columns and sections run by aging hipsters who were trying desperately to appear 'in' (and most likely failing miserably). The term is said to apply to the trend on campus for young people to seek more serious Dating relationships during the winter months to be their escorts to the more formal on-campus events that begin, usually, after homecoming. Evidently, said aging hipsters just noticed this and somebody thought of a cute phrase for it that would apply to Homosexuals as well as Heterosexuals. See: Going Steady, Girlfriend, Courting, and related.
      The phenomenon is not new, nor does it require an approved term by bisexual twenty-something talking heads on liberal podcasts to occur. The smirking and chatting about "Cuddling" with it just highlights how pathetic they really are. See: Cuddling.
      It is unknown if said blithering idiots have any idea of the Bondage implications of the term.

Cul-de-sac
      French term for 'bottom of the sack', usually used in relation to a dead end residential street. See Cervix for a use related to our work here.

Cum
      Multiple meanings, some are interchangeable.

• The term most usually applies to either the act of, or the Semen produced by, the Ejaculation by the male during the sex act. See: Semen, Cum Shot, Spooge.
• Can be applied to the vaginal fluid and even the 'ejaculate' of an Aroused woman. See: Female Ejaculation, Squirting.
• Also applied to the physical Climax, and even the Orgasm of, both men and women, regardless of the production of bodily fluids.
• Is used in the Adult Entertainment industry as the title of various movies, magazines, books, etc. Often in conjunction with other terms such as "MILF gets CUM".
• Can be the subject of Fetishism where the sexual fluid of choice is used as a plaything and even food additive.

Cum Drunk
      The symptoms experienced by one who Swallows too much Semen in a short period of time. It is NOT an actual form of Intoxication, but a 'rush' from too much raw protein and related hormones and possibly oxygen depravation from performing the act itself. See: Swallow, Semen, Fellatio, and related.

Cum Dumpster
      Perhaps the ultimate derogatory term for a Floozy who is a Cheap Easy Slut whom is not overly choosy about who she allows to Ejaculate inside her in any of her available openings, perhaps making her a Baby Mama, or perhaps even all over her. The term is usually not applied to professional Prostitutes or Adult Actresses. See highlighted terms to get a better idea.

Cum Shot
      The moment and act of a male Ejaculating. Especially video or photographs of said act. See: Bukkake, Snowballing, Semen, and etc.

Cum Swapping
      Also called Felching (spellings vary, which see) and various other terms. Seen more in Adult Movies than in real life, as in this example: the person Receiving the male's Ejaculate in their mouth does not Swallow it, but instead kisses another person and shares it with them, often passing it back and forth several times or between several people, including the man who produced it. Also applies to the retrieving of the Semen with the mouth and tongue or fingers or other means from either the Vagina or Anus, or wherever, for swapping or other play. Can also apply to a woman kissing her male partner after he cums in her mouth and her sharing it with him. Can also be the dedicated subject or part of a larger fetish. See: Bukkake, Internal Cumshot, Snowballing, Mixed Drinks, Semen.

Cunnilingus
      Oral contact with the female Genitals for the express purpose of sexual pleasure and mutual enjoyment. Includes licking and kissing both external features such as the Clitoris as well as Penetration of the Vagina by the Tongue (see Tonguing). Also known as Muffdiving, Eating at the Y, Mustache Rides, the Ultimate Kiss, Face Sitting, etc. See: Oral Sex, Taste of Honey, Fur Burger, Vagitarian, and related.
      Many women find achieving Orgasm from Oral Sex easier and more enjoyable than other acts as they can relax more and focus on the event than they can during Intercourse.

Cunt, Cunny, Coney
      Words used to describe the external Female Sexual Organs. 'Cunt' is usually considered impolite, Crude, and even negative, however, that is diminishing in certain circles from overuse. 'Cunny' is relatively neutral in the US, although the related term 'coney' is less well known and is also an archaic term for a young rabbit. Compare: Pussy.
      'Cunt' is considered a Crude and derogatory term for an unpleasant woman when used in most situations, in some media outlets it is used a the 'C-word' which see. Also see: Ho, Pussy, Female Sexual Organs, Seven Dirty Words, Twat, Vulva.

Cunt Hair
      Human hair which grows in a woman's Pubic region or on the Mound of Venus. The removal of which is now subject of political debate and regulation in New Jersey. See: Pubic Hair, Waxing, Shaving. Also see: Short Hairs.
      Unit of measure in some situations to indicate that whatever is being talked about it really close to being exact. Scientifically speaking, a average human hair is one tenth of a millimeter thick (that's .003937 of an inch) no matter where it comes from on the body.

Cupid
      The god of the emotion of love, of falling in love, etc. As well as the act thereof, Sex.
      Mass media symbol of St Valentine's day as a winged baby with bow and arrow. However, it is doubtful the patron the holiday is named after would approve of the connection. See: Valentine, Angel.
      Romanized version of the Greek god Eros. He served essentially the same function as his Greek counterpart. Western literature and tradition has 'romanticized' the Roman deity while simultaneously disparaging his Grecian elder. See: Eros.
      Song by the Spinners which highlighted the god's function in mythology.
"Cupid, Draw back your bow, And let your arrow go
Straight to my lover's heart for me, Nobody but me..."
Original lyric by Sam Cooke (1931 - 1964). Spinner's release, 1980, Atlantic Records.

Curtsey
      A courteous type of bow most usually executed by women where the simplest, and the type most often seen, involves placing one foot behind the other and flexing the knees while nodding the head, and ever so slightly bowing from the waist. More elaborate moves involve a deep bend of the knees with a sweeping of their skirt to the sides, as is often seen in receiving lines with the Queen of England, on through the almost gymnastic routine undertaken by certain Debutantes, which they practice for months before their Coming Out Party. The move entails a flexing of the entire body until the girl's forehead touches the floor, then, after a suitably dramatic pause, she rises once again, gracefully, to a standing position usually without their Escort lending a hand for stability even though it is done while wearing high heels.

Curves, Curvy
      Classic use: an adult woman's natural and even full figure which is 'curvy' without being obese. See: Stacked, Hourglass, Mound of Venus, Statuesque, Sex Symbol, Bombshell, Voluptuous, Bettie Page.
"I didn't discover curves; I only uncovered them." - Mae West (1893-1980)

Cybering, Cybersex
      A type of a truly Safe Sex practice that involves another person in real time as the participants absolutely cannot touch each other. Also see: Hot Chat, Phone Sex.
      Sexually Explicit (which see) text, voice, or video chat, or even a combination of those. The text only version can be totally anonymous as the individuals use 'handles' and profiles that can be changed on a whim and are usually not verified by the service they are using. Part of the problem with doing so is that you may not be talking to the person you think you are, and, you may not be typing out your innermost fantasy to a person at all but a computer program with interactive text recognition software. Can be conducted on Internet chats (AOL, Yahoo, Twitter, etc), cellular phone texting (see: Sexting), and other methods.
      One step up is voice and /or video chat which can involve total Nudity in front of a web cam and those posing may control who sees them or open the session to anyone with access to the service in an internet age version of Exhibitionism or the Sexy Talk Phone Line, which see. However, once again, you may think you are in chat with somebody who is like minded and very sexy, only to find out that you're exposing yourself to a computer with an animated CGI image which is responding to you. Many of these services are 'pay as you go'. Photo sharing and explicit texting over cell phones is something of a 'teen' phenomenon, but it is essentially the same thing. See: Child Pornography.
      Part of the debate about the practice revolves around whether or not the act is the equivalent to actual physical sex between a married partner and anybody else, especially a member of the opposite sex, and thusly becomes Cheating. Most of those who say it is point to Emotional Infidelity as proof. Said aspect would only come into play if the two (or more) people in the Hot Chat became emotionally involved instead of it just being 'Just Sex' (also see: "One Night Stand", Casual Sex). Of course there is always the chance that the online relationship could become real world at some point and the individuals so involved could engage in actual Fucking, which of course, really is Cheating, which see.

Cycle, Woman's Monthly Cycle
      Euphemism for Menstruation, which see. A woman's Period.

"D.C. Madam"
      The working name of Deborah J. Palfrey (1956 - 2008) who ran a high profile Escort Service (which see) of Call Girls in the Washington D.C. area for over a dozen years. When the ring was busted in 2006, Palfrey threatened to release the names and numbers of her clients, which resulted in the resignations of several high ranking politicians and the quick scrambling (and the supposed payments of shut up money) by others. This was also not her first arrest and conviction for running a Prostitution outfit.
      After all the maneuvering, denials, and so forth, Palfrey was convicted on various counts, including a sizable number of Felonies. Instead of going to prison, she committed suicide.

D.H., DH
      A perfect example of how a simple abbreviation or "chat shorthand" can have multiple meanings depending on where and when used and by whom. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion
  "DH" is known to mean:

• In Pennsylvania, USA it means Doylestown Hospital as demonstrated by their web URL: dh.org
• Darwin Holdings, Inc., the owners of a Net based telephone directory search platform, see: dh.com
• D.H. Lawrence should be in this Glossary as the author of Lady Chatterley's Lover (which see) if for no other reason.
• Durham County postal code for the area around the city of Durham in north central England near Newcastle in the UK.
• Designated Hitter. Perhaps until recently the most well known meaning of the two letters, it signifies the player who bats for the pitcher in an Major League Baseball American League game and in various other leagues.... as well as ...
• .... the other meaning for "Designated Hitter" has to do with the male actor who will be filmed having Heterosexual Genital Intercourse with the female star (or any other sort of sex for that matter) whenever wide shots are made where the actor's face will be not seen and the focus is on their bodies, usually done to preserve the myth that the star is in great shape when the truth is somewhat less flattering. In other productions, a "stunt double" Penis is likely to be used for much the same reason. This technique is used in both Adult Movies as well as more mainstream releases. See: Body Double, Simulated Sex Act.
• Dead Head, as in a either a dedicated fan of the band The Grateful Dead (and various incarnations thereof), or, when used in reference to commercial trucking, a run made without a paying load.
• Most often today in text messages and chat rooms it is said to stand for something along the lines of "Dear Husband". We put the words in quotes because the use is quite often sarcastic.

Dating Scam
      Criminal activity by an individual who bilks money out of others by pretending to be interested in them on various websites. Usually the criminal will exchange several email messages and perhaps even phone calls feigning friendship and perhaps even Romantic interest then 'reluctantly' ask for money for any of several heartbreaking reasons. If the target sends any money, the scammer writes back or calls, overjoyed and looking forward to meeting them. Then, in short order, they need more money for another reason. In truth, the criminal is only interested in how much cash they can get out of their victim. As it involves wire fraud, and possibly the theft of thousands of dollars, the act can easily become a Felony, which see.
      Your Good Brutha debunked a similar scam in 2009.

Day (Morning) After Photographs
      Idiotic, staged, often "humorous", self serving images taken of a Bridal Couple, supposedly on the first day of their Honeymoon. The photos are supposed to be Risqué, and suggestive of the festivities of the Wedding Night (usually they are not), but are often hopelessly posed, with forced smiles, and all too often, tediously scripted, serving no other purpose than to document the vanity of the bride and the ego of the groom. See: Boudoir Photograph and other terms.

Daydream
      To let one's thoughts wander and the Imagination while one is awake, to the point of visualizing situations of total Fantasy. Some "waking dreams" may appear so realistic as to take the person several minutes to become aware of their physical world once the vision passes. Compare: Ecstasy as related to enlightenment. Said fantasy may involve activity such as Role Playing, which see, however, it is completely Imaginary. Also see: Psychosomatic Orgasm, Wet Dream, etc.

DD, Double D's (and variations)
      In our present context the term refers specifically to the Brassiere cup size of the female Breast which is an expression of the volume of the breast itself over and above the measurement of the circumference of the woman's rib cage. The sizes of the breasts are expressed in letters with 'A' being the smallest and the largest depending on the manufacturer with some ranging into the middle of the alphabet far beyond the fourth letter. The letter sizes are used for the surgically enhanced as well as the natural feature. See: Breast, Bra, Breast Enlargement, and related.
      The term has long been used by those with an Obsession with the Female Breast as the symbol of when a woman's tits were big enough for their viewing pleasure if for no other reason. However, it would seem that if ones intent is Tit Fucking, then anything above a 'B' cup may fill the bill. See: Infantile Fetish, "More Than A Mouthful..." , Fun Bags, and so on.

Death, Dying, Dead
      The final and irreversible cessation of life. The process and result thereof. The ultimate punishment wielded by society against those who violate its laws. Includes a morbid fascination with the subject and its various aspects up to and including a Fetish sex practice using coffins and other items usually associated with the dead. See: Necrophilia.
      In relation to our present work here: The ultimate consequence to practicing unsafe, risky, or just plain stupid Sex Acts. The significant risk of fatal injury is the best argument for the use of Safe Words and having an uninvolved onlooker (a referee if you will) during all but the mildest S&M and B&D acts. It is the only argument needed to convince a reasonable individual, male or female, to NOT practice Autoerotica when alone. It is the all you need to know about not using condoms and to use Safe Sex practices when with those you do not know well. To not use narcotics while partying with strangers. To designate a Safe Word during Breath Games or other Extreme play. And so on.
      See: Erotic Asphyxiation, AIDS, Gothic, Safe Words, Safe Sex, Sharia, Vampire, and related terms.
"Death, the final, triumphant lover." - Bela Lugosi (1882 - 1956)

Debauchery
      The word itself almost literally means to swim, or perhaps drown, in total moral corruption. Usually thought of as an excess of fun of which 'proper folk' would not approve. Such as spending a weekend boozing, gambling, whoring, watching smut (if not making it!), and listening to loud music. Which sounds like an excellent time to Your Good Brutha, but there are those who would disapprove (right Dok?). A good example is the Bacchanalia, or Roman Orgy. Any such time and activity involving excessive and possibly gratuitous sex, alcohol and junk food consumption, and other such unseemly recreation. Also see: Bender, Walk of Shame, Roue, Hellfire Club, Wenching.
      While illegal activity is not directly implied, minor crimes such as public Drunkenness, Moral Crimes, Conduct Unbecoming an Officer, and other activities not considered 'proper' may be involved. In other cases, Felonies may be committed, but then 'debauchery' is not usually used to describe the event. See said terms.

Debbie Does Dallas
      Another movie from the Golden Age Of Porn. Directed by Jim Clark and starring Bambi Woods, the 1978 movie didn't set out to become an icon in the industry, which it did, and remains so to this day. Contrary to the title, the entire movie was filmed in New York City, supposedly without the permission or knowledge of the locations used. The production was sued over the use of the "Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders" uniform and the advertising claiming Ms Woods was a former member of the squad, she had tried out but didn't make it, and for Obscenity by the Government, it was found not to be Obscene, but was still used as a good bad example in the Meese Report, which see.
      In spite of, or maybe because of, all the attention, the film was a hit upon it release and then one of the earliest success stories of the VHS era of Adult Entertainment selling 50,000 copies in the early nineties, and is still one of the most popular on adult TV channels. Over the years since its release there have been several sequels, at least one included Ms Woods in the title role, but none were as good as the original. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Debonair
      A the term describes the mannerisms and attitude of a gentleman who is outgoing and the "Life of the Party" while maintaining his dignity (no lampshade karaoke). Usually indicates a Sophisticated, classy man, who is something of a suave and cool Ladies Man with Savoir-Faire (which see). The term is usually not applied to women, but the equivalent would be a charming and elegant Lady. The exact opposite would be Kanye West, see Punk.
      See: Rat Pack, Sophisticated, Ladies Man, "Life of the Party" and related.
"...You're bound to lose control
When the Rubberband Man starts to jam ...
...How much of this stuff do he think we can stand
So much rhythm, grace and debonair from one man, Lord."
- The (Detroit) Spinners, The Rubberband Man, words and lyrics by Bell and Creed, Album: Happiness Is..., Atlantic Records, 1976

Debutante, Debutante Ball, Début, Debut
      A girl who is 'presented to society' at a Coming Out ball or party. Traditionally the event indicated that the girl was available for courting by eligible bachelors. The girls were generally sequestered just prior to their entrance as a symbol of their Virtue as a "Good Girl". Today the event is just another excuse for a fancy, and expensive, status symbol type formal event. See: Coming Out Party, Quinceañera, Of Age, and related. The use of these terms in association with a male of the same age is stupid and only done by those with more money than sense. See: Curtsey for a complex bow done by said girls at some events.
      Also used in other situations where one makes their initial appearance in something they have never done before. Such as a rookie quarterback making his first professional start or a new female Adult Actress making her Porn debut in her first hardcore film.

Décolletage
      French term for the portion of a woman's body between her neck and her Breasts. In particular, the area directly about her Cleavage as revealed by a low neckline on her blouse or dress. This area usually has powder or other makeup applied when she is to appear on TV to mask sweat and cut down on possible reflections or glare from the stage lighting. The term is sometimes applied to the neckline of the clothing that reveal said area. See highlighted terms. Also see: Down Blouse (pun intended), Show Some Skin, Eye Candy.

Deep Kissing
      Mutual open mouth to open mouth contact where one searches the other's mouth with their tongue and vice versa. See: French Kissing, Necking, Suck Face.

Deep Throat
      Multiple uses.
      Adult Film from 1972 starring Linda Lovelace (which see) in which her character finds sexual happiness performing the title skill. The film cost $25,000 to make, and has since grossed, by most estimates, over six hundred million dollars, possibly making it the highest grossing film in relation to initial investment of all time. Not bad for a movie that was banned in 23 states when it was released. See: Golden Age of Porn, Harry Reems, Meese Report, Obscenity, and related.
      Watergate scandal informant nick-named for the movie by the team of investigative reporters from the Washington Post. Although they have since revealed the true identity of the informant, some questions remain as to how their source came to possess some of the inside information he revealed.
      For the Oral Sex Practice, see Fellatio, Irrumatio, and related.
"Yet to ask what the Romans would have thought about 'Deep Throat' is akin to asking what the Romans would have thought about helicopters."
- The Meese Report (see entry), 1986

De-flowering, Defloration, 'Taking Her Cherry'
      The act of the first sexual penetration of a Virgin. In most cases it refers to the rupturing of the Hymen 'the Cherry' during first Sexual Intercourse, but may also involve the use of a Dildo or other device. Has been corrupted to apply to the Gay equivalent. See: Hymen, Virgin, Cherry, Becoming A Woman, Wedding Night.

Defecation, Defecating
      The act of expelling solid, and semi-solid, digestive waste from the body via the Rectum and the Anus. In short, Shitting. The term is used even if the resultant activity was produced via an Enema or other artificial means. See: Bodily Function, Coprophilia, Scat Play, Bodily Function, Urination, and related.

Demure
      Somewhat obsolete term most usually used to describe a woman who keeps to herself, is Humble, perhaps Shy, and retiring of her own accord and wishes. Often seen in orthodox religions and conservative circles. Usually one of the hallmarks of a Lady. The opposite would be something along the lines of Brazen or Sassy, which see.

Derriere
      French word for the Buttocks. From a Latin word for 'behind'. Is primarily used for the rearmost section of a person. And by extension, the opening into the body found there.

Desensitizing Cream
      Lotion or ointment used to partially anesthetize the skin and surrounding tissues with ingredients like benzocaine, thusly lowering the overall sensations being experienced, such as during Sexual Intercourse.
      The cream is most often used for men who experience Premature Ejaculation as it decreases the sensitivity of the Penis and thusly increases the duration of Intercourse. However, if a woman experiences painful intercourse, some Lubricating gels with similar properties can be used as well. See: Lubrication and related.

Desire, Desirability
      Powerful Emotion akin to hunger. Also described as a longing for something or somebody. Is occasionally used instead of the term Lust in modern Wedding Vows (which see). Also see: Emotion.
      For our purposes, it may be defined as a deep feeling that involves both Sexual Desirability and an emotional attachment to the object of that Lust such as Love.
      Also see: Lovesick, Heartbreak, Unrequited Love.
"You may find that having is not so nearly pleasing a thing as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true."
- Spock, Star Trek, the Original Series, by Gene Roddenberry, episode Amok Time, written by Theodore Sturgeon, Paramount Productions/ NBC TV, 1967

Desperate Housewife
      Titillation style TV series (and later motion picture), and its clones, about several upper middle class women who are unhappy with everything except their latest Paramour. See: Soap Opera.
      Portrayal of Married Women whose husbands are not 'tending to business' at home and the women are out looking for satisfaction, and Orgasms, outside of their Marital Bed. How much of this is realistic, and how much is wishful thinking is subject to wide debate. See: Wife, Hot Mom, MILF, and related. Compare: Post Partum Depression

Deviant, Deviance, Deviation
      Something not of the norm or that which strays outside the rules of the mainstream or Community Standards (which see). One who practices as such. Said 'deviation' from whatever is considered within the realm of 'normal' may be anything from political or religious views, dietary, personal grooming habits, or even (as to our discussion here) sexual. Such as a Congressman who is a communist vegan Gnostic with extreme body odor who has a homosexual foot fetish (no disrespect to anybody outside Congress who does those things is intended).
      The societal definition of exactly what and who is 'deviant' is a varied and moving target. What is considered a reasonable weekend diversion in say San Francisco or certain places in New Jersey, would be condemned as a Mortal Sin in less liberal environs. However, most small towns do have their secrets, such as with the famous Peyton Place (which see), which could be considered as having made the odd the norm.
      See, Compare: and contrast the following related terms: Sin, Perversion, Fetish, Principals, Virtue, Seven Deadly Sins, Hypocrisy.

Devil's Handshake
      Restraint and control move in Ju-Jitsu and other martial arts where one feigns friendship by extending their hand as in a handshake, then grasps the targets hand and draws it first in toward the body, at the same time turning and using the other hand to block the target's body while extending the gripped hand and arm to full extension, resulting in an arm bar hold. One problem with the move is that if the restrainer is alone, they are as effectively immobilized as their target who has several options to exercise for both escape and retaliation. Another problem with it is that if the target is somewhat stronger physically than the restrainer who applied the hold, the one who initiated the move is in real trouble.
      Also, a somewhat obsolete Euphemism for Masturbation once popular with religious pundits to emphasize the Sin aspect of the act. See said terms. added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Diary, Journal
      The personal, usually hand written, book of almost daily entries of events, thoughts, and feelings of a single individual. Some such books, such as the "Diary of Anne Frank" became international best sellers, even though the majority were written to be kept private or within the family and not for publication. Others, such as ones written as part of an autobiography, may be less honest and perhaps even embellished, such as by Casanova, which see.
      In the modern world, such books are usually kept by young women, often beginning in pre-teen years, and include romantic Crushes (which see), poetry, school events, often with said topics Emotional response. Most women lose interest in the pursuit, but others continue it into adulthood and even combine said musings with photos in a scrapbook. Compare: Little Black Book, Slumber Party, Girl Talk.
      In the even more modern world, such journals are often kept online in BLOGs (which see) or on social networking sites, which can become a Privacy issue or even put the writer at risk of Stalking or even identity theft, and is particulary risky for Minors. See: Privacy, Social Networking Sites, and other highlighted terms.

Dick, Cock
      Terms used to refer to the Penis. Also, the word 'Dick', besides being a first name, such as in former US President Richard Nixon (1913 - 1994), is used as a derogatory term for an unpleasant male, as in 'a dickhead politician', or as an equally negative term for a police detective. 'Cock' can also be used to describe a male birds. Such as the female pea-fowl is a pea-hen, the male is a pea-cock, get it? See: Penis, Pecker, and related topics.

Dick Spit, Dickspit
      Semen, Cum, the Ejaculate. Perhaps even the Fuckwad. See said terms.
      added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion - no, really, this term was suggested by a reader!

Dick Stories, Locker Room Talk
      Usually idle, and empty, boasting about Sexual Conquests, may occasionally be based on reality, but truth is not a requirement. See: Girl Talk, Bases, Bullshit, and related topics.

Dicker
      In spite of its similarity to a word which obviously does belong in this Glossary, this term does not. When all said and done, and the improper use by adolescents is dismissed, the term means "to barter", and has nothing at all to do with the Penis, unless that is involved with what you are discussing the price of.

Dickhead
      Slang term for a man whose brains appear to be in his Penis. Synonymous with Prick or Asshole (which see). Also see: Weiner.
      Is also occasionally used to describe the Glans of the Penis which is the actual 'head' of a man's 'dick'. See: Glans.

Diddle, Diddling
      "Beats the sheer blooming hell out of me how to define the damned thing"" Dok L
      After several drinks, and some amazingly unproductive searching on the net, we concluded that: the term can mean almost anything from: Heterosexual Genital Intercourse to wasting time in the DMV office; One can 'diddle' with a stuck oil filter on an old car, or one can be 'diddled' by a Dominatrix wearing a Strap-on; Congress has been 'diddling around' on the budget for the last seven years, and Your Good Brutha spent last weekend 'diddling around' with a former professional cheerleader which did involve some 'diddling' in a motel out on the Island! And it can also have several other meanings, almost at random.
      Believe it or not! added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Digital Rape
      Sexual Assault where the Victim is Groped and Finger Fucked. See Manual Rape.

Digital Vaginal (or Rectal) Exam
      Medical exam of the Vaginal or the Anus by a gloved and lubed finger or fingers which is then used to check the various internal organs. See: OB/GYN, Premarital Pelvic Exam, Rectal Exam, and related. Also the Medical Fetish use thereof, which see.

Dilated, Dilation
      An open bodily orifice which is usually closed. Such as the Cervix during the birthing process. Often done in a medical environment such as the Vagina during an OB/GYN exam using a Speculum.
      For our use here: Said bodily opening which has been opened through Sexual Excitement, Penetration or other means. Most usually used in reference to the Vagina or Anus, as the mouth isn't usually thought of as needing opened involuntarily. See: Cave.

Dildo, Strap-On
      Most Usually- a probe made to resemble a human penis without mechanical or electrical enhancements such as vibration, heating, or ejaculation used for penetrating the vagina or anus for sexual purposes while being held in the hand (or teeth, etc). Usually made of plastic although some are carved from ivory or wood, formed from metal or even stone- such as phallic symbols found in ancient temples. In some cases, phallic shaped vegetables and fruits, such as carrots, bananas, zucchini, and others have been used as such, and then even eaten... see Cigar! Also see: Vegetable Insertion
      Some women, including many Lesbians, have devices to be used as such which attach the probe to a belt so it can be worn to mimic the male role in Sex Play with other women without a male being present. Also what others use to Penetrate their male partner orally or anally as with a Fem Dom. For more intense practices such as B&D the dildo can be fitted to a harness that fits around the sub's head and face so the dildo appears to be projecting from the mouth or nose. Also see: Vibrator, Butt Plug, Insertion, Dong, and related topics.

Dime Novel
      The term goes back many years, even to the time of the US War Between the States. However, most people think of the mass produced low quality books produced during the 1920's and 30's with action oriented and slightly Naughty plots. These gave way to Pulp Fiction and Formula Romance Novels later on, which see.
      Most people will recognize the term, and the implications thereof, from the line in Meredith Willson's play and movie The Music Man when the shyster band leader asks if the people's sons have "dime novels hidden in the corn crib" to gasps and incriminating looks from the crowd.

Diminutive
      Informal, affectionate, and sometimes private nickname for an individual, Often used with Sweet Nothings and in the early period of Courtship. See: Pet Name, Euphemism, and related terms. For two historic examples see: Goose.
      Or, more to the point in our current context, a name that is used to refer to a personal body part. Best examples of which would be a man calling his Penis a variation of his own name.

Ding-Dong
      Multiple uses including: An onomatopoeic word for the sound made by the tolling of a bell or the striking of a clock indicating the hour. The trademarked name of a small, round, chocolate snack cake produced by the Hostess company which was engaged in long-running trademark litigation with a similarly named, similarly sized, similarly flavored / marketed / filled / iced, etc product which resembled another product that had been around since the 1930's. A placeholder phrase indicating a person, or thing, of which the speaker cannot instantly recall the proper name or title of.
      There is a use that has something to do with this Glossary, and we'll get to it in a minute.... The other uses also include: A somewhat outdated term of a mildly insulting nature indicating that the person to whom it is directed makes no more sense when engaged in conversation than if one were talking to a bell. It is also the opening phrase in one of the best known songs in the musical productions of The Wizard of OZ, since the song is a known cause of migraine headaches, we'll leave that well enough alone as it is and move on...
      Believe it or not, the term is also the name of a very small town near Waco, Texas, in Bell County as it were, yes it is, you can look it up if you want to. It was also the name of a educational television show which ran from the mid-1950's through 1965 which was set in a classroom-ish environment with an intended audience of pre-school age children, whom at one point it was estimated that the show, starring Miss Frances, AKA Dr. Frances Horwich (1907 - 2001), was reaching over ninety percent of nationwide.
      OK, we're there, the term is also a common somewhat humorous phrase for the "Thunderbolt of Flaming Wisdom" or the Penis (which see, no, we're not kidding, see the 'thunderbolt...' entry if you don't believe it!). Also see; Dong, Dildo, and related. -happy now?

Dingleberry
      Multiple uses, all within the same theme.
      The term seems to have been invented to describe a small amount of an animal's manure which had become entrapped in the fur around its anus and thus becomes a refuge for insects and other vermin, which could then endanger the animal's health. There was no way to remove the offending material other than to physically remove it, usually by manually trimming the surrounding hair. Which, needless to say, was a nasty and unwelcome but necessary job.
      The original meaning as it apples to humans covers a variety of similar objects with the same basic cause and end result. That being, any small object which adheres to the Anal area, either stuck to the skin or entrapped in the surrounding hair. May be fecal material, toilet paper, lint, or anything else, including dried Semen and other material. Removal may be as simple as taking a shower, but may become more involved, especially if an infection or infestation is involved.
      The term has come to mean anything, or anybody, who is essentially useless, annoying or obnoxious, unpleasant, and perhaps smelly. Such as a Congressman.
      Is also used on occasion, and somewhat incorrectly, to mean somebody who demonstrates or possesses profound ignorance and / or stupidity. Again, this is applicable to Congress.

Dipshit
      (The term is not exclusively used to refer to Congress. Although it should be.)
      Somewhat dated term for an idiot of unusual magnitude that stands out from the others of similar species. Akin to a fundummy who is stupid and really can't help it. A moron. Not usually considered a jerk or an Asshole, which see, who are intentionally that way. While the term is not Sex specific, it is usually used to refer to Males, the Female equivalent is airhead or Bimbo, which see. See: Dumbass, Numbnuts, Congress, and related.
      The term is NOT otherwise related to Sexuality and even though some Fluffy (which see) women consider Anal Intercourse or even the Darkfinger technique 'dipping shit' or other similar expressions, their use of the term merely shows their Ignorance of the subject.

Dirty
      In general usage the term implies that an item, or a person, is in need of washing because they are soiled and perhaps possessed of an unpleasant odor which renders said object unsightly, unusable, or even unhealthy.
      When the term is applied to our current overall topic, the same is essentially true if you asked certain Prudish individuals who regard anything to do with Human Sexuality and all depictions and discussions of it as untoward. This attitude is, of course, rancid horseshit, which, really is 'dirty'. See: Filthy, "Dirty ____".
      According to some people, this entire Glossary is 'dirty'. Of which, we are all very proud.

"Dirty Dancing"
      See discussion at Dancing, also see Tango as example.

Dirty Laundry
      Soiled clothing that is too soiled, too smelly, or otherwise unserviceable as far as wearing for normal daily activity.
      More to our purpose here, the idea implies essentially the same thing, just in the form of Emotional baggage, prior legal misdeeds including Felonies, wanton and repeated Debauchery, Conduct Inappropriate..., and so on, which may or may not be true. However, the veracity of such details is usually unimportant to those that relay the 'news'. See highlighted terms. Also see: Gossip, Kiss and Tell, Innuendo, Walk of Shame, and related.
      The terms seems to relate to the old practice of the new Bride hanging out her freshly laundered sheets to prove that the Marriage had been Consummated. Which really, was nobody else's business. Right? See: "Advice to the Young Bride".

Dirty Mind
      Personality trait, or perhaps just a case where somebody's internal wiring is just a bit offbeat, where they can take any situation, statement, or idea and Sexualize it, sometimes in jest, sometimes seriously. Having said trait can be a lot of fun, and some, like The Doktor have made a career out of it, others, like Your Good Brutha use it to enlighten others as to what they are missing by being dull. Also see: "Mind In The Gutter", Naughty, Pervert, Filthy, and related.

Dirty Old Man
      Derogatory term used for any man over the age of fifty, or so, who shows any sexual interest in women under the age of about forty. Also used if the said interest is merely presumed or assumed and not real. See: Lecher, and related quote at Harrison Marks. Compare: Rake. See reference at: Filthy.
      Doktor Leftover.

Discrete, Discretion
      Related meanings depending on the topic. However, since we are not dealing with mathematics or compartmentalization theory, we'll move on to something we do give a damn about...
      In most cases, being 'discrete' or having 'discretion' in a relationship means keeping a secret and not Gossiping or otherwise divulging the details of the relationship. Such ability to not talk about things was required in certain cases, such as with Courtiers and in various Gentleman's Clubs. See: Kiss and Tell, Dick Stories, Girl Talk, Hellfire Club, Titillation, and related.

Divorce
      Legal dissolution of Marriage, or a Domestic Partnership. In some US states, No Fault Divorce allows for the proceeding without casting blame for the failure of the union on either party such as with Irreconcilable Differences. In Hollywood the term 'serial marriages' can be used for people like Zsa Zsa Gabor (born 1917) who has been married (and divorced) eight times. See: Adultery, Marriage Counseling, and related.
"Conrad Hilton was very generous to me in the divorce settlement. He gave me 5,000 Gideon Bibles." - Zsa Zsa Gabor (born 1917)

Do It, Doing It, Did It, Done It, Etc.
      Euphemism (which see) for Fucking or Sexual Intercourse, or other Sexual Activity. Often used during shows on the Family Hour or in advertising to be Naughty, see said terms. Compare: "Sleep Together". See: "Unsimulated Sex Scene" (pun? what pun?)

Dog
      Multiple meanings and usage, although all are related to the first and most accurate definition.
      Canis lupus familiaris A.K.A. the domestic 'dog', such as, a basset hound, poodle, or even a junkyard mutt.
      To relentlessly and mercilessly hunt, pursue, or harass a target. To display an overwhelming amount of determination to accomplish a given goal. To display absolute exhaustion once said goal is reached. Or conversely, to be overcome by total exhaustion, supposedly in pursuit of the desired ends.
      One's feet. Especially when said body parts have been used excessively, such as when following a woman through a shopping mall on Black Friday. "My dogs are dead tired."
      Street expression roughly equivalent to the worn out and overused, and therefore meaningless, terms "homeboy", "dude" or even "bro", and used in much the same way as in "hey dog" for "hello".
      More to our point here: An ugly woman, the exact opposite of a Babe. Especially applies if she is Fluffy, which see. However, as much as Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, levels of attractiveness are extremely subjective and a woman, or a man for that matter, whom some would say 'is a real dog' others would remark that 'they're not that bad'. That being said, some women can be classified as 'dogs' as much for their personality as their looks, for which we will hold up Rosie O'Donnell (born 1962) as a very good bad example. See: Bitch.
      Also see: "Ridden Hard and Put Up Wet", Sexually Attractive, Sexually Desirable, and, of course: Doggy Style

Dogging
      Curious practice from the United Kingdom where people engage in Sex in Public knowingly and with the intent of being watched. Thusly combining Exhibitionism with Voyeurism when all parties are Consenting. See highlighted terms.

Doggy (Doggie) Style
      Position for sexual intercourse where the receiving partner is on hands and knees or other 'four footed', or similar Submissive posture (such as bending over a table) to accept insertion and is then Penetrated from behind either Vaginally or Anally. There are an almost endless list of variations of this position and names for them, especially in the "Kama Sutra". The Penetrating partner may be male's Penis, a female wearing a Strap-On, a Sex Toy, Fist, or almost anything else.

Doll, Doll Face
      Outdated expressions for an attractive woman or a Babe, which see. Most usually heard in period gangster movies and TV shows attempting to re-create the "Roaring Twenties" or to make a man appear to be an insensitive jerk. See: Angel, Dame and other related terms.
      The expressions would appear to originate with the delicate porcelain dolls from the late nineteenth century which had extremely fine and somewhat idealized features.

Dom, Domination, Dominatrix
      Involves one person behaving as the Master, ruler or owner (the Dominate) of one or more who willingly Submits themselves to the control of the other. The Dom and Sub may be either sexual gender with women doms wearing the title Dominatrix in the role of Fem Dom. May involve punishment or humiliation of the Submissive party including Bondage, the wearing of special gear such as masks and Collars. Sometimes the dom and their sub do not engage in sexual activity such as Intercourse. In more extreme cases of D&S mock or actual torture may be involved. As in other types of such activity, it is recommended a Safe Word be agreed upon before beginning. See: Sub, S&M Ass Worship, Breath Play, Yoni Worship.
      A dominatrix is a woman playing the role of a Dom, often in the stereotypical Costume (which see) of full black leathers, including high heeled boots that may extend to above her knee, complete with whip and other tools and toys. See: "Fuck me boots", Fetish, Mistress, Autoandrophilia, and related.

Dom-Sub, Dominate-Submissive
      A Relationship with a Dominate partner and a Submissive one. Said Sex Roles may be Reversed on occasion as well (see: Role Reversal). May be of any combination of Sexes. See said terms.

Domestic Partner, "DP"
      In most cases, one's Spouse. However, in the land of Political Correctness, the term can mean anything from a Shack Up 'honey' to long term Live In to a Common Law spouse. The Sexes, and Sexual Preferences, of those involved is in no way implied by the term. See: Significant Other, and various highlighted terms.
      The usage does imply something of a long term, even Monogamous relationship, but one without the 'complications' of Marriage but is slightly more committed than a Friend With Benefits, which, upon breakup, can be just as messy and expensive as the disolution of a Marriage. See: Divorce, Common Law Marriage, Marriage Counseling.

Don Juan, Don Giovanni
      The famous fictional swashbuckling Womanizer of Spain whose exploits are told by several authors including Lord Byron (1788 - 1824) and Miguel de Cervantes (1547 - 1616) up to and including modern renderings such as a recently published Lost Diary.
      The stories usually include a sweeping seduction, swordplay between the great lover and offended husbands or fathers, a great escape, and oftentimes some plot twist which redeems the charming Cad through some heroic act.
      The Don Juan legend may have some basis in both reality and a few Shakespearean characters taken to the logical extreme. Even so, it, and he, have become the archetype for that type of character. See: Casanova, Libertine, Philanderer - Womanizer, Promiscuity, Seduction, Rake

"Don't Ask, Don't Tell", "DADT"
      Official US Military Policy enacted under President Clinton in 1993 to allow, by non-disclosure if not through official recognition, homosexuals and others of varying tastes to serve in the US Armed Forces. The unofficial name of the policy is how it was enacted, commanding officers and other officials were not allowed to ask a members orientation, nor were the service members required to answer if they were asked, and they were not supposed to openly declare their preference as well. It has worked moderately well in maintaining the "esprit de corps". See: Gay Pride, Political Correctness, "That's So Gay", G.L.B.T., "Situational Homosexuals", and related.
      The old saying "do something, even if it is wrong" most certainly applied here. There was no good solution that would have made everybody happy, however, this one went a long way to pissing everybody off, and it most certainly increased debate on the matter. No matter what the mass media and various entertainment outlets maintain, Homosexuality (and so on) is still a minority of the population, so to ban them from service is an option, but it is an unfair and unrealistic option. To make separate units of "all gay" or "all bi" or whatever is unworkable. And to have one or two "flaming homos" in an otherwise straight platoon would be bad for the unit. The policy was far from perfect, but it seemed to be working except for a few isolated cases that may well be publicity seekers with their political nose out of joint. In any case, the entire matter was rendered academic when President Obama signed the repeal in the fall of 2011.

Dong
      In most usages, the term refers to a Dildo or similar object, such as a Strap-On. See said and related terms. Also see: Ding-Dong for a lighthearted discussion of the subject.

Double Entendre, Double Meaning
      Saying one thing while meaning something quite different. See: Mae West quote at Innuendo, Compare: Titillation. See: Flirting for good example of the use of said idea. Also see: Suggestive, Racy, "Need A Cigarette", Sexual Repartee, and "bleep", Rating, Voluntary Self Censoring. Also see a good use of this type of language at Song of Solomon.

Double Penetration, "DP"
      Usually means a woman taking one man's Penis (or reasonable facsimile) in her Vagina and another in her Anus at the same time (double pelvic penetration). Is sometimes applied to a woman having simultaneous Oral and either Vaginal or Anal Sex with two men. Also used for the gay equivalent- oral and anal. Also used to describe two penises sharing the same opening such as two men entering the same Vagina or Anus at once. DP, in all its variations, is an adult movie staple and, by definition is a group sex practice. For another version of the same idea see: "Two In The Pink...". Also see: Triple Penetration, Group Sex, DAPE, Woman on Top, Sandwich, and other related topics.

Douche, Douche Bag
      Devices similar to Enema applicators (perforated probe, flexible connecting hose, reservoir bag or bottle) which are used to cleanse the Vagina and related structures. Any of a variety of commercially available ready to use preparations or mixable liquids to use for said purpose, which can result in exposure to various chemicals and preservatives that she may not wish to introduce into her 'most sensitive parts'. The verb form is 'to douche'. See: Feminine Hygiene Products, Vaginal Steam Bath, Enema
      A Politician (please see both Asshole, and Politician). Or in some cases, a TV sports commentator with diarrhea of the mouth.

Down Blouse
      Voyeuristic practice which specializes in images of women's Décolletage, Breasts, Cleavage, and even Nipples when they are (supposedly) unaware of such photography taking place. Many jurisdictions have now passed Privacy laws specifically for this practice as well as Upskirting, which see. Also see: Privacy, Voyeurism.

Dowry, Bride Price, and related
      Cash transaction related to the 'giving' of a woman in marriage, which, depending on the culture, may be paid to the Groom, the parents of the bride, the village one or the other lives in, or some combination thereof. In some cases, the payment is in the form of goods or service, or, again, a combination of money and possessions. In various cultures the payment is made during Courtship, or before the Wedding, or after the ceremony but before Consummation, and all sorts of variations thereof.
      NOTE: There are significant cultural differences between the 'dowry' and the 'bride price', and the 'dower', and what have you, but to go into them would require an entire semester of a collage class devoted to "world marriage customs", which we are not doing here, thank you.

Dr. Ruth, Doctor Ruth Westheimer
      Internationally recognized Sex Educator and speaker. See: more on her under Sex Education and quotes under Orgasm and Aphrodisiac.

Drag
      Multiple definitions, some are as follows: Friction or other resistance to motion. Best visualized as the effect the slows a parachutist when the canopy opens during freefall. Also, the resistance placed on the spool of fishing line by mechanical means to slow the unreeling of the line while landing a fish.
      Somewhat more to our work here: A serious downer or mood destroyer, synonymous with 'bummer', something which is tedious or tiresome. For an example of something that is 'a drag' see Political Correctness.
      More to our current point- a term that has been in common usage since the 1930's to mean Cross Dresser' or Transvestite, and occasionally Homosexual. Mae West, which see, wrote and starred in a play entitled The Drag in 1929 about homosexual men, whom she seemed to find fascinating. See: next entry. Also see: Female Impersonators, Queen, Transsexual.

Drag Queen, Drag King
      Most usually male dressed 'often quite badly' as a woman. The 'queen' may or may not be gay although flamboyantly gay men are often referred to as 'queens'. Some clubs feature floorshows entirely made up of cross dressing performers. The 'king' variety often features masculine women playing a 'Butch' or 'Dyke' lesbian as well as a male. And some may really be a woman playing a woman under all the regalia as when she is a Lipstick Lesbian. See: Female Impersonators, Transsexual, Queen, Drag. Compare: Rae Rae
"It's a good thing I was born a girl, otherwise I'd be a drag queen." -Dolly Parton

Drag Show / Revue
      Most often, a live stage production of individuals who are Cross-Dressing for both fun and profit. The performers are Males who are Female Impersonators if not actual Drag Queens (see both listings), or appear as Celebrity impersonators. However, Females who are dresses as Males are not unheard of. Skits of such were even seen during the heyday of both Burlesque and Vaudeville, and can be seen today in Cabaret clubs which are otherwise Straight.
      The phenomenon has also been seen in Hollywood movies played both dramatically as a plot device and for laughs. Usually with men dressed as women, but, again, women playing male roles has been done. Sometimes with excellent results such as Shakespeare's play As You Like It first staged in the 1600's (with a man playing a woman playing a man, we might note), and in innumerable plays, movies, and TV shows ever since.
"We're all born naked, the rest is drag." - RuPaul (born: RuPaul Andre Charles, 1960)

"Drop Her Hanky" in various forms
      Back in the bad old Victorian days a proper Lady would never wish to seem so forward as to initiate a conversation with a Gentleman, even if she was extremely interested in doing so. (Or at least so the stories go.) So instead of walking up to him and doing so, she would appear to accidently drop her handkerchief in his full view, and then walk away appearing to not have noticed the loss. He, being a proper gentleman, would retrieve the lost accessory and present it to her with a slight bow and a tipped hat and say "madam, did you..." A proper introduction then having been made.... then they could go Fuck like animals.
      A variation on the theme is for the Lady to approach the Gentleman and inquire as to did he have the proper time. She would only do so in a crowd so there would be witnesses that indeed her inquiry was innocent and in no way a Flirtation.
      Whether or not any lady ever dropped any hankies is irrelevant. It became such a stereotype of that all important first meeting that it is still used today in plays and motion pictures. See: Flirt, Pick Up Line, Lady, Victorian, and related.

"Drop The F-Bomb"
      To say the word "Fuck" (which see) in a situation where it is inappropriate simply for its shock value. Is usually done by Celebrities who have no other way to feed their addiction as Attention Whores. The event is seldom as newsworthy as it is always made out to be by the TV magazine shows which feed the need of such individuals to be in the spotlight. Compare: "Fuckin' A", and similar ideas.

Drop the Soap
      Refers to Homosexual Rape in prisons and other sexually segregated situations. Akin to "Bend Over And Grab Your Ankles" which see. The implication is that by dropping your soap, you will have to bend over and get it, thereby exposing your Anus to Penetration by another man who would be so inclined to take advantage of said access, thus making the other a 'Butt Boy / Buddy' which see.

Drug Facilitated Sexual Assault
      Using a substance such as a Date Rape Drug or other intoxicant to render a person unable to resist and also, unable to give Consent to the advances of another, which makes it a serious crime. See: Somnophilia, Date Rape, Rape, Felony, and related.

Drunk, Drunken, Drunkard, Drunkenness.... various modifiers
      The state of alcoholic intoxication. Is sometimes also applied to drug abuse. Under said condition the person usually experiences lowered Inhibitions, poor judgment, and increased feelings of invulnerability. They are also more susceptible to Peer Pressure and suggestion. The '...ard' version implies someone who is more than a weekend boozer and is perhaps a 'semi-pro' at it (right dok?).
      For our Glossary we are going to discuss different behaviors and actions as performed by individuals who are so intoxicated, which includes Exhibitionism, Group Sex, Extreme Sex, and other behavior which they may not engage in normally but probably made them the "Life of the Party" in a bad way that they would not be proud of the next day. See: Conscience, Informed Consent, and related. We shall leave the other aspects and consequences, such as Vomiting (which see), alcohol poisoning, arrest of various charges, and the going price of good booze for another forum. See: Bender for more.
      There are numerous websites featuring movies and pictures of people who are supposedly intoxicated and doing all sorts of things. Not only do these sites feature the usual suspects of college students, Co-Eds, 'Teens', and others of that vein, but also Housewives and others not usually associated with excessive debauchery. See: "Party in my Mouth", Swinger Party, Sex Games, Implied Consent, Wine Enema, and related. Also see: Somnophilia, and other highlighted terms. The opposite could be taken as Temperance, which see.
      Part of the problem with this behavior is that drunks seldom practice Safe Sex, which see. Also see: Carousing, "Wine, Women, and Song", and related.
"You're not drunk if you can lie on the floor without holding on." - Dean Martin (1917-1995)

Dry Humping
      Simulating the Sex Act while fully clothed or otherwise not engaged directly in sex. The practice involves stimulation of the sex organs by rubbing them against another person, or an inanimate object or even an animal, for sexual gratification, but not necessarily with the intent to produce Climax or Orgasm. Oftentimes done in crowded locations such as concerts and subways, sometimes without the passive partner even being aware of what is going on. Historically was done by men, however, women are known to do the same thing, sometimes in public, and to Orgasm as well, for instance, while using exercise equipment or leaning on a post at a bus stop. One of the other many terms for the practice is Frottage. See: Dirty Dancing, Intercrural Sex.
      Also used as a derogatory comment as to when something is particularly unsatisfying, unproductive, or known to be futile from the beginning. Can also be used as an insult against another person when one would say (for example) you'd rather 'dry hump' a piece of furniture than work with them.

Dumbass
      Somewhat dated term for an idiot of unusual magnitude that stands out from others of similar species. Akin to a fundummy who is stupid and really can't help it. Not usually considered a jerk or an Asshole, which see, who are intentionally that way. This term is not Sex specific although it is usually used to refer to Males, the Female equivalent is airhead or Bimbo, which see. Also see: Dipshit and related.
      The derogatory term has no Sexual Connotations other than not being a compliment.

Dutch Rudder
      The usual meaning for the term is where a man holds his own Penis in his hand, and another person grasps of his arm and moves his hand up and down to Masturbate him. As to why anybody would wish to do so is beyond the ken of this Glossary.
      The naval flavor of the term implies Homosexual activity, however, that is not implicit in the definition. It could be a case of a Reach Around (which see) where a woman is wearing a Strap On and Fucking the man (see Pegging), and her arms aren't of sufficient length to accomplish the deed. added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Dyke
      Slang term for a woman with a dominate, masculine personality. Most usually a Lesbian. Usually a synonym to Butch in common usage. Compare: Lipstick Lesbian.
      This is a different phenomenon than Autoandrophilia (which see) in which the woman is Sexually Aroused by the Fetish play of dressing and behaving as if she were a man.

E.R.A.
      Multiple meanings including: Earned Run Average. A formula based statistic used to determine the effectiveness of a baseball pitcher. An "ERA" under 4 is very good but one over 5 will likely get a pitcher demoted or released from his contract. It is a mathematical projection of the number of earned runs a given pitcher would allow during a full nine inning game.
      The Electronic Retailing Association for those who sell stuff online.
      Electronic Realty Associates, Inc.. a subsidiary of Reology, which also owns Coldwell Banker and Century 21. (All said corporate names are registered marks of Reology and are used for informational purposes only.)
      More to our point here, the abbreviation stands for the Equal Rights Amendment, see following full quote of the text. The proposed amendment to the US Constitution would formalize that the rights stipulated in the document would apply to everybody in no uncertain terms. Nevermind the fact that they already do. Proposed in the 1970's the amendment never achieved the required ratifications by the various states, in spite of Congress changing the rules to make it easier for it to pass. It is worth noting here that if it had passed, that women would be required to register for, and be subject to, military conscription (the draft). The debate has largely evaporated as other Equal Opportunity laws have been enacted at the state and federal levels. See: Feminism, Gay Pride, Equal Opportunity, Sex Discrimination
"Equality of rights under the law shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any State on account of sex."
Section One of Proposed Amendment to US Constituion.

E.S.R.B., Entertainment Software Rating Board
      Industry supported non-profit advisory board which sets content standards for software and video games. The board began in 1994 as the industry's response to concern from parent groups and social watchdogs (do-gooders) who objected to some of the more extreme content in certain games, see "Hot Coffee" for example.
      Their six categories for material rated by the board range from Early Childhood, preschool age and above, through Mature and Adults Only (which see) for content recommended only for those above the ages of 17 or 18 respectively, which are the only Ratings they have which apply to this Glossary's topic. Note: said ratings are registered marks of the E.S.R.B. In this Glossary also see: Rating, M.P.A.A., R.I.A.A. Standards and Practices, Voluntary Self Censoring, Censor, and related.
      Below those six categories is an extensive list of modifiers and content descriptions covering many types of objectionable content. For more information see their website at http://www.E.S.R.B..org/

Easy
      Promiscuous person who engages in excessive Casual Sex, often used in a negative way to describe a woman who enjoys sex. Also see: Loose, Slut, Cheap, Fast, Cum Dumpster.

Eating (Eats) -Pussy, -Out, -at the 'Y', etc
      Euphemisms for Oral Sex. However, usually the one being 'eaten out' is female, save one interesting exception: see Cunnilingus, Oral Sex, Analingus, Fur Burger, Vagitarian, and even Sex Test.

Ecstasy
      Extremely rare detached Emotional state of heightened pleasure and awareness, even enlightenment. Experienced through Tantric Sex, supreme religious event, and/ or deep meditation. See: Psychosomatic Spontaneous Orgasm reference to St Teresa, as well as Tantra, Orgasm, Emotion, Passion, and other references.

Effeminate
      A man who has a feminine appearance or traits, regardless of his Sexual Orientation. A woman who exhibits the same characteristics is called Feminine.
      A Gay man who plays the Feminine role in his mannerisms, speech patterns, walk, and general style. See: Flame, Emasculate, Rae Rae.

Egg, Ovum
      A primary component of breakfast, supplied by a laying hen chicken. Best cooked over easy with just a pinch of salt and a LOT of pepper and served with slightly spicy sausages and fresh biscuits.
      For this Glossary, the female gamete (fertile cell). See: Pregnancy. Compare: Sperm.

Eight Millimeter Film, 8mm, Super-8
      Celluloid film based moving picture format made popular by inexpensive home projectors first available to the public in 1932. Used for both home movies shot with hand held cameras and low budget often poor quality special interest films such as travel pieces as well as the infamous Stag Films. The entire industry, Adult and otherwise, of film, cameras, projectors, and other equipment was made obsolete by the development of the VCR and then all but killed with the release of digital equipment and the DVD. Today, Super-8 film is used by some art film makers who value the overall quality of the video image. See: Harrison Marks, Linda Lovelace.

Ejaculation, Make a Nut, Shoot Off, Blow Load, etc.
      Discharge of Semen from the penis or a good amount of fluid from the Vagina. Folklore names the penile version 'the male orgasm' which is incorrect. The Ejaculation of Semen is a physical response which may or may not be related to an actual Orgasm and can also occur without an Erection, which see. The slang terms and Euphemisms for it are almost endless, and new ones appear all the time.
      Female Ejaculation, while documented in some medical literature as well as a significant number of adult movies, is still said not to exist by experts. See said topic for in depth discussion. Also see: Squirting.
      See: Cum, Cumshot, Wet Dream, Premature Ejaculation, for more. (pun intended)

Electra Complex
      Idea fostered by Dr. Karl Jung (1875 - 1961) somewhat in opposition to Freud's more widely known ideas on the Oedipus Complex in which young girls wish to eliminate their own mothers so as to possess their fathers.
      Like most ideas in psychology, the idea does have some merit, but is scarcely the widespread neurosis most practitioners and TV talking heads would have you believe. See: highlighted terms.

Emmanuelle
      Name of the title character in a series of French erotic movies first produced in 1974 and directed by 'Just Jaeckin' and starring a young and gorgeous Sylvia Kristel. Whereas the first movie was essentially a standard 'Coming Of Age' flick with sex, it really wasn't a very good movie, but, because it was one of the early wide release hardcore films shown in mainstream movie houses besides just the usual Arthouses, it was a massive hit and made a ton of money. For her part, Ms Kristel went on to be a star in regular movies and other girls, most of whom were not as pretty, continued in the role after the third film. Unfortunately the majority of the releases in the series were worse than the first (with one exception), until the series has become a caricature of itself and may finally be dying (after over a dozen movies, most of which stank on ice).

Emasculate, Emasculated
      A man, or even an organization, who has had, or is having, any Masculine traits or tendencies removed or suppressed. In some cases this involves physical Castration, such as the Hijra Nirwaan of Asia, or Forced Feminization, which see. Also see: Eunuch, Third Sex, and related.
      Is not the exact opposite of Masculine although it is often stated as Effeminate which emphasizes the expressed Feminine traits and not the lack of those deemed Masculine.
      The organizational side of this can be seen in the state (or 'public') schools which have removed the majority of physical competitions in physical education and have emphasized 'feelings' in the classrooms instead of logic and deductive reasoning.

Embrace
      A Hug, which see, hopefully with Affection, which see, possibly with Wandering Hands, also see.

Embarrassment, Embarrassed, Embarrassing
      Emotion related to Guilt, Humiliation, or Shame. Often associated with Sin or Sex or even a Felony, and occasionally seen in the "Walk of Shame". The most obvious outward sign is when the person involved Blushes, other signs may be downcast eyes, a slight frown or other non-typical facial expressions. The condition may result from being caught doing something improper, something that was said that made the individual uncomfortable, or even just a random thought that caught them off guard. See highlighted terms.

Emergency Contraception
      The true "Morning After Pill" which is a prescription only Birth Control Method that will prevent implantation of a Fertilized egg in the Womb. Said pills are most usually given to Rape victims in hospital emergency rooms or their doctor's offices. There are considerable side effects to the medication, such as cramps and excessive bleeding, as well as rumored long term side effects such as later infertility. See highlighted terms.

Emetophilia, Emetophile
      Sexual attraction to Vomit, also Vomit Fetish (which see).
      One who is sexually attracted to the expelled material itself or the act of producing it, or even the motions and sounds associated with the process. Some of those who are so inclined achieve Sexual Arousal or satisfaction by having others, usually young Oriental women, vomit on them. In some cases, practitioners have forced said young women to drink excess amounts of liquid, including alcohol, in order to induce vomiting, such practice can be dangerous. See: Drunk.
      The practice is often associated with more extreme S&M and B&D which may use forced vomiting, such as Cock Gagging (which see) to make the Submissive party vomit as part of a Humiliation ritual.
      Pornographic images and videos with said subject matter. Most of which appear to have been produced in the Far East. Where all manner of bathroom practices are trotted out for view by all and sundry. Also see: Klismaphilia (Enema Fetish).
      This is generally regarded as one of the absolute sickest (pun intended) of the Fetishes, ranking right up there with Necrophilia, however, being fascinated by puke is not usually a Felony (whereas Necrophilia usually is).

Emo
      Most usually, entertainment or artistic work which makes a straightforward attempt to evoke strong Emotions from the observer. Performer or artist who does so with that end in mind. See: Chick Flick, Gothic, Romance and related.

Emotion, Emotions
      Complex of thoughts, instincts, reactions, memories, physiological factors and even personality traits which feed the consciousness of most Humans. Can be survival based such as the processing of the 'fight or flight' reaction.
      In this context, the emotions are usually deeply involved in the sexual expressions between two people. Practices such as Sex Play are usually an attempt to remove at least some of those feelings from the sexual activity being pursued.
      Historically women have been thought of as placing more emotional value to the Sex Act than men, however, that is more of a stereotype than a verifiable truth. What does seem to be true is that most women do bring more emotional baggage to a relationship than men, and thusly to any sexual aspect of the relationship. When it comes to Casual Sex, both sexes seem to be equally capable of engaging in it with no emotional bonding whatsoever.
      Intense levels can lead to Ecstasy, invoke strong Passion, or bring one to Heartbreak. See said terms. Also see: Love, Desire, Post Partum Depression, Lust, Heart, and related.
"Sex is emotion in motion."
Mae West (1893 - 1980)

Emotional Infidelity
      A very etheric concept which regards emotional attachment to another person outside one's immediate family as Adultery on par with actual Sexual Intercourse outside of the marriage. In some jurisdictions such estrangement is grounds for divorce.
      A debate currently rages in some circles as to whether Cybering and other non-contact flirtations between a married individual and anyone else, especially between a married man and a single woman, is indeed equal to Fucking.
      The problem with the concept is exactly where do you draw the line? Can a married person be friends with a member of the opposite sex without running the risk? What if it is Homosexual? What if the couple are friends with another couple and the opposite sex partners hit it off and become friends? Are they "emotional swingers"? Ahhh... we shall end this right there.
      See: Cybering, Cheating, Infidelity, Adultery, Marriage, and related. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Endometriosis
      Condition in women where Uterine tissue begins to grow and behave as though it were in the Uterus elsewhere in the body, most often in the Pelvic region. The condition can lead to everything from minor discomfort to life threatening conditions such as internal bleeding or gangrene. Treatments range from medication to surgery to remove the tissue. Some projections estimate that one in five women of child bearing age will have the problem during their lives. See: Female Problems, Infertility, Vaginal Abnormalities, and related.

Endoscope
      Flexible fiber optic camera with lights and cable links for viewing inside small areas including inside the human body. As inside the Vagina or the Anus during a colonoscopy. See: OB/GYN, Speculum, Medical Fetish.

Endowment
      Huge, Massive, Over the Top Enormous, Bulging bank accounts of various Ivy League Universities provided by wealthy alumni who have mostly stolen their money from the public and government.
      To the point of this Glossary, the relative size of a man's Penis. See: Penis Size.
      Also equally applicable. The relative size of a woman's Breasts. Which see.
      The usage 'well endowed' applies to all three above examples when the item under discussion is exceptionally large. Compare; "Hung Like A Horse".

Enema, Enema Fetish
      Flushing the lower large intestine and rectum with water or other liquid discharged from a long, thin, hollow probe inserted into the Anus, the probe is usually connected to a portable reservoir by a long, flexible tube. Originally an ancient medical procedure much advocated by the infamous Dr. J. Harvey Kellogg (1852 - 1943), the brother of the corn flake company founder. The practice can be part of a cleansing ritual for further activity or the subject of the sexual act itself such as with medical fantasies and Fetishes such as Water Bondage. See: Wine Enema, Ass Smoothie, Mixed Drink, and related. Compare: Aquaphilia.
      The term often used for the associated range of behaviors is Klismaphilia, which is sometimes thought of as a form of Masturbation focused on the Anus as the source of pleasure or the Obsession with it. See: Anal Retentive, Anal Sex, Medical Fetish.

Engagement
      Serious commitment ultimately leading to Marriage, one step above Courting as the two people so involved are now a couple and have declared so publicly, often with a picture and article in the newspaper. Engagements usually last from several months to the 'socialite' ideal of a year. Engaged couples may or may not be Having Sex with each other, but should not be so involved with anybody else. See: Saving Oneself, Monogamy, "Pop The Question", Proposal.

Enzyte, and "Smiling Bob"
      Bob was the Spokesmodel for the fraudulent product Enzyte® which is (was?) advertised to provide Natural Male Enhancement. It does not, and indeed- can not, work. (See more at "Smiling Bob", including the probable fate of the actor.)
      The active ingredients in the product are a range of commonly available vitamins and herbal products including several that may interact with other medications such as Ginkgo biloba and ginseng. Nothing in the product has ever been shown to do anything to increase the size of an adult man's Penis, or any other body part. These same ingredients are fairly common in all of the currently marketed Penis Enlargement Treatments. See: Dok's article at "Get a Larger...."
      The company's founder, Steve Warshak, and others associated with the product have been found guilty on a host (93 counts!) of state and federal charges including bank fraud, conspiracy to commit mail fraud, and money laundering, yet the product continues to be advertised and sold. Hopefully the product will be pulled from the market and "Bob" will have to find other work as he was not named in the charges as an accomplice. Warshak was sentenced to 25 years in prison. See: Felony.
      In 2009, now owned by a political operative, the company changed its name to Vianda LLC (also "Pristine Bay"), it continues to sell herbal concoctions with little or no medical or dietary value whatsoever. It is likely a future update to this entry will involve further legal proceedings.

Epicure, Epicurean
      One whom enjoys a life of ease, luxury, and pleasure, or "Wine, Women, and Song" to coin a phrase, without the labor or toil experienced by others to make a living. But not to the excess of a Hedonist who desires pleasure above all else. Most notably: the leisure classes of the aristocracy of Europe during the Middle Ages, also seen in the US today in the idle rich and Celebrity classes. Also known as being Sybaritic (which see).
"I am an Epicurean. I consider the genuine (not the imputed) doctrines of Epicurus as containing everything rational in moral philosophy which Greek and Roman leave to us."
- Thomas Jefferson (1743 - 1826, US President 1801 - 1809)

Epicene
      Essentially, one whose Sex cannot be definitively told at first glance, but is done as something of a fashion statement, not a medical condition such as an Hermaphrodite, which see. Also, one whom intentionally exhibits characteristics of the opposite, or perhaps, both sexes, as is often seen with the younger generation of Metrosexual Celebrities. Also see: Androgynous, Ambisexual, Intersex, Third Sex, and so on. This is also in contrast to males who have been made into Eunuchs, which see.

Equal Opportunity
      Now, by federal mandate, everybody; regardless of race, creed, color, sex, sexual orientation, religion, handicap, education, allergy, hair color, shoe size, or being a left handed vegetarian Eskimo..... has the same right as everybody else to be a wage slave. Or at least so we are told. See: Political Correctness, Sex Discrimination.

Erectile Dysfunction Treatments, 'E.D.T.'s
      The failure, for a variety of physical, medical, and mental/emotional reasons, for a man to fail to produce or maintain an Erection of the Penis, AKA Impotence, which see. The attempt to correct said condition. See: Staying Power for the Porno world application thereof.
      Found all over cable sports programs and various prime time shows the commercials for Erectile Dysfunction Medications would give one the impression that a sizable percentage of American men cannot 'get it up' to save their lives, see Impotence. This would be an incorrect assumption. However, given the amounts of money brought in by the companies from these drugs it is obvious that they have indeed created a market for themselves based on the fear of a natural part of the aging process from baby boomers worried about being less of a man than the next guy. These medications ARE, by definition, NOT Aphrodisiacs. See: more at the Aphrodisiac entry.
      These medicines work in a couple of different ways, however the overall effect is to increase the blood flow to the penis. This can result in some medical complications including a change in overall blood pressure and other serious problems. There are also reports of decreasing effectiveness with long term use.
      There is no evidence that Over the Counter E.D. treatments work and many contain herbal ingredients that may be dangerous when combined with other medications and/or alcohol. See: Penis Enlargement.
      While not a subject of TV commercials, there are invasive surgical procedures which can and will produce the equivalent of a fully functional erection. However, there is significant risks associated with the surgery as well as a prolonged recovery period and some loss of sensation.

Erection
      Most usually: the Aroused and blood-engorged male organ, the Penis. Other erectable structures on the human body include the Nipples and the Clitoris. See: Penis, Spontaneous Erection, Hard On, Male Orgasm, Ejaculation, Fluffer, Woodman, Priapism, and related.

Eroge
      Anime style Erotic video games originating in Japan. See: Bishojo, Hentai, Anime

Erogenous Zone
      Areas of the body whose sensitivity promotes contact for Sexual Satisfaction. The subject of much folklore, many popular books, and innumerable TV talk shows. It should be noted that a woman's Sexual Geography (which see) varies from person to person and even, in some cases, by time of the day or mood and other sometimes intangible factors. The more unusual female non-sex organ related zones include the backs of the knees, the nape of the neck, feet and wrists, and even her ears and scalp. The best advice is- test and explore, and remember, what doesn't elicit a response from her today, might tomorrow. This is especially seen in practices like the Butterfly Kiss, which see.

Eros
      Emotional feeling of Sexual Attraction and Lust. Named for the Greek god as below. One of the Four Stages of Love, which see. The emotion need not be acted upon to be considered Erotic Love. See: Unrequited Love.
      Greek god of love and Lust (sexual desire). Earlier beliefs expressed him as a god of fertility in animals as well as people. Often associated with Aphrodite but of a lesser stature than the goddess, the two are not depicted as themselves being lovers, although some legends portray her as his mother. Older legends make Eros as a brother of Chaos himself, making him older than even Zeus (Uranus).
      He was adopted into the Roman pantheon as Cupid.
      The depiction by the Romans, and today's greeting card people, of the god as a young boy with wings and a bow and arrow is consistent with the Grecian depiction of him.
      It is interesting to note that popular media and usage see Cupid as cute and something appropriate for children's greeting cards, yet Eros is frowned upon and made Taboo.

Erotic Art
      Art with a sexual theme or message. Does not have to be Pornographic or Obscene to be of said genre. May be sculpture, a performance art such as Dance, photography, literature (see Eroticism), or any other sort of presentation. The term is also used in a negative way to describe any work which shows more of the human body than some authority thinks is proper. With this, as with all art, it is truly in the eye, and mind, of the beholder. See: Picasso quote at Art.
      Also see: Art, Sex Museum, Erotica, Eroticism, and related.
"No nude, however abstract, should fail to arouse in the spectator some vestige of erotic feeling, even if it be only the faintest shadow - and if it does not do so it is bad art and false morals."
-Lord Kenneth Clark (1903 - 1983)

Erotic Asphyxiation
      One party, or parties, depriving another of free access to breathable air, or blood to the brain, during Sex to enhance the Orgasmic Experience. Such as during Breath Play, Water Bondage, mock strangulation, or other Fetish encounters. The practice is dangerous, but not as dangerous as Autoerotica where the practitioner is alone and risks being found dead sometime after the event due to suffocation. When two or more people are involved a Safe Word or Sign can be used to bring the festivities to a halt. See: Autoerotica, Asphyxiaphilia, Breath Play/Control, Extreme Sex, and related.

Erotic Love
      Affection and attraction based on Sexual Desire, or Lust. The term is usually associated with the Greek root of Eros which was both the emotion itself and the god thereof. See: Eros, Four Words For Love.

Erotic Massage
      The pseudo massage given by a Call Girl. May have little if any therapeutic value, but is reported to be highly enjoyable. Usually consists of the practitioner using her entire body to Massage the 'patient' focusing primarily on her rubbing her Breasts and Labia all over them before engaging in another Sex Act which may include Fellatio or Intercourse or other activity. See: Massage, Call Girl, and related.
      This is an entirely different practice than Sexual Massage done for therapeutic reasons by a licensed Sex Therapist although the terms are somewhat synonymous to the mass media.

Erotic Model
      Term for a male or female Model, which see, willing to be photographed or video taped while engaged in any level of Sexual Activity, either alone or with another person. See: Cheesecake, Figure Model, Nude Model, Modeling Agency, Adult Actor, Porn Star, Bettie Page, Sex Performer, Performing Model, Panty Stuffing.

Erotica, Eroticism, Erotic Literature
      Sexually suggestive or mildly explicit literature, usually written to an adult female audience. Includes some of the Formula Romance (heaving bosom) books as well as the somewhat courser stories in "men's magazines". Erotic literature can be traced as far back as writing in history. Several Roman erotic stories are known, as well as ancient Japanese and Indian works, some with erotic overtones carefully veiled in flowery language. The Biblical book of Esther is quite erotic in its images as well. See: Boudoir Book, Pillow Book, Romance Novel, Sexually Explicit, Heat Rating.
      See: popular works which are borderline Erotic at Peyton Place and Stepford Wives which have had influence far beyond their original audience.

Eroticist
      One who produces works of an Erotic nature, images or text based, for the pleasure of others. One who engages in personally pleasuring others, however, the term is usually not used in reference to a Prostitute or Adult Actor. An example would be- Brutha Jim Deep. See: Erotic Art.
      Clarification Added by Reader Suggestion This term is in sharp contrast to the similar sounding exorcist which is a person who frees individuals or items of demonic influence. However, if you ask certain Puritanical types, the two are equivalent in meaning.

Erotomania
      Multiple uses. Various definitions including becoming overwhelmed with Eroticism and said thoughts and concepts with the object of said obsession being a Celebrity or other public figure as versus being obsessed with pleasure itself. In this context see Celebrity Stalker, Obsession, Unrequited Love. Compare: Hedonism.
      Is also used incorrectly to refer to the seeming obsession in Hollywood with producing works which are at least moderately Erotic with Homosexual themes, which is actually Homoeroticism, which see.

Escort (non-paid)
      Most often, something along the lines of a Date or another Significant Other, whom attends an event of their own free will, or through some sort of social obligation to the attendee, without being compensated. For a woman, it might be her Paramour, but it could also be her brother.

Escort Service, Escorts (paid)
      In many cases a legitimate business offering companionship and 'escorts' for official functions so one would not have to attend a formal function or outing alone. In some cases said business is little but a front for Prostitution. See: Call Girl, D.C. Madam, and related.
      Employees of said service, usually female but may be male, who work as professional Dates. In the vast majority of cases, said employees are very classy, extremely attractive and refined, and have excellent taste. Many are also working Models for 'mainstream' Modeling Agencies (which see) who are, shall we say, between gigs or subsidizing their income this way. However, some services do have escorts who are more 'realistic' or specialized such as being excellent ballroom dancers. Individual escort's features and options can often be specified and ordered ahead, much like options in a rental car. Also, while the service itself may not endorse nor officially allow Sex For Money (which also see), 'other arrangements' between the employee and the client are ignored.
      Also see: entries such as Taxi Dancer, Kept Woman, Concubine, Date.

Estrogen
      Female sex hormone produced primarily in the ovaries in the female. Also produced in lesser amounts in other organs such as the adrenal glands and liver in both sexes. Also used in oral Birth Control tablets and in post Menopausal women to treat various conditions.

Eternity
      The hereafter. The endless tracts of the vacuum of space throughout the universe. Time immemorial from the creation of the world until its end. The ultimate fate of mankind when it faces Death as either an individual or as a race. God's home address. See: quote at Imagination.
      Proclamation as to how long those with romantic interests say they'll Love each other. See: "Star Crossed Lovers"

Eugenics
      Believe it or not, this topic does belong in this Glossary. And we shall explain why.
      According to the early "Progressive Movement" on both sides of the Atlantic in the early Twentieth Century, the human species was becoming weaker because the frail and weak were being allowed to pollute the gene pool. In many state institutions and even hospitals the mentally ill, physically handicapped, criminals, immoral, and even some who were just socially undesirable were sterilized to prevent them from breeding and passing on their inferior traits. Meanwhile, those with superior traits were encouraged to have kids to improve the species, a la the teachings of Charles Darwin.
      This belief was prevalent in the US (President Wilson was a big fan) and the UK, but reached its zenith in Germany between the wars where the National Socialists simply began euthanizing those who were judged imperfect. Included in their 'final solution' were the racially inferior, Homosexuals, and Jehovah's Witnesses.
      Of course this history is embarrassing to those who now call themselves 'progressives' and it has been wiped from public school textbooks. However, Population Control is still a feature of many proposals for socialized medicine in the US as well as being on the table in the UK and mainland Europe. Forced Birth Control, as well as both active and passive euthanasia, are some of those issues in that discussion that aren't given wide play in the press.
      See: Birth Control, Socialism, Public Health, Perversion, and other related topics.

Eunuch
      A Male who has been Emasculated, or neutered, by having his Testicles and possibly his Penis surgically removed. See: Castration for more in depth discussion.
      There were often religious, social, or other overtones to the act, see discussion in fourth paragraph under Castration, for the social side of things, see: Hijra, Two Spirit People, Third Sex, Epicene. Contrast: Metrosexual.

Euphemism, Euphemisms
      Terms used to mean something else so as not to offend anyone. Often used in media during the Family Hour or in advertising to be Naughty or to convey Double Entendre (see those terms). Many of the entries in this Glossary are such terms. See: quote at "Political Correctness".
      The difference between a euphemism and a Slang term is often only in the usage. For example the word "Pussy" and its various meanings, which see. Also see: examples in this Glossary such as "Doing It", "Sleeping Together", and even "Birds and the Bees (The)". Also see: Pet Names, and related topics.

Evolution (theory of)
      See: Sexual Evolution. This is a SEX GLOSSARY, right?

Ex- Wife, Girlfriend, Boyfriend, Lover, etc.
      One whom one no longer has an ongoing Emotional relationship. In the case of a former spouse, the break up may involve a Divorce or legal separation.
      Adult content involving images and stories for and about such individuals. Occasionally there will be counter-postings which are equally, or even more, embarrassing about the one who first violated the trust and uploaded something about the other one.

Exhibitionist, Exhibitionism
      Usually refers to sexual activity, prolonged Nudity, or just wearing very Revealing Clothing, where there is no reasonable expectation of Privacy (which see) as in a public area, or where a reasonable person would expect to be seen by others, such as in a public park or along a freeway. May be required by a 'sub' by a 'dom' as a test or punishment. The "-ist" is the person exposing themselves, the "-ism" is said behavior. see: Public Nudity, Voyeurism, Flasher. Compare: Troilism, Candaulism, Naturalism, Nudity, Privacy, Body Painting, "Girls Night Out".

Exotic Dancer
      Most usually: Nude dancer, Topless dancer, Stripper, Lap Dancer, and other performer who entertains in a blatantly suggestive or sexual way. The performer is most usually, but not necessarily, female. See: Lap Dancer. Pole Dance, Go Go Girl, Teasing, Terpsichorean Ecdysiast, Stripper Shoes, Strip Club, Sex Club, and related.

Expecting
      For this Glossary, a woman who is Pregnant. Also applies to a couple where the female is in said condition. Also see: Baby Mama.

"Experimenting With Sex"
      Media and Public Health term that is borderline Politically Correct, meaning Sexual Experimentation, especially among Adolescents. See those terms. Was last seen in a debate about school nurses handing out Condoms to elementary age children.

Expletive
      A word used as a curse, defamatory, pejorative, or other 'dirty word'. See: Seven Dirty Words and those words listed individually in this Glossary. Also see examples at God and Jesus Christ.
      NOTE: this term is often confused with the word "explicative" which means "a logical explanation." They are, as you can see, unrelated.

Explicit
      That which is clearly stated leaving nothing ambiguous or to the imagination. A truth that is unconcealed and readily apparent to even the most casual observer or which cannot be ignored. A related colloquialism would be the proverbial '800 pound gorilla in the room'.
      The term which in and of itself in not Sexual in nature, however, to the undereducated and otherwise intentionally ignorant, to say something 'explicitly' is to be Vulgar or Profane due to Sexual Connotations. Such is not the case and merely shows their ignorance of the language. See: Sexually Explicit, Obscene, Indecent, Graphic Images, Free Speech, Censorship, "Parental Advisory...", and related.

Extreme Sex
      Not a specific category as much as an overall concept of types of Sexual Activity. The practice includes things such massive Penetrations with objects like large vegetables and whole salamis, the insertion multiple Fists, and even bowling pins into the Vagina and Anus. Also includes 'heavy' bondage, Breath Play, electrocution, and some practices that are essentially impossible such as the 'triple double' where a woman attempts to take two men's penises into each opening, see Airtight. Some practices under this heading are inherently unsafe and require the use of a safe word. See: Ultimate Sex Act, Three In One, S&M, Goatse, Sexual Olympics, World Record..., and related.
      Also includes such practices as Body Modification when done for Sexual purposes such as Piercing and Subincision. Which see.

Eye Candy
      Most often, and in terms of this Glossary, a Pretty Woman. Often seen as the Escort for a wealthy or powerful, usually elderly, man. See: Beauty Pageant, Showgirl, Babe, Sex Symbol, Girl Watching. Also see: Show Some Skin, Décolletage.
      Can be an equivalently good looking young man, an actual Pretty Boy, used for the same purposes. Especially when dealing in the Homoerotic terms of advertising and Hollywood or in terms of an older woman with a younger man, see Cougar, May - September Relationship, and related.

"F Word", the F-word, F**k, F-Bomb, etc.
      Fuck.

Face
      Multiple meanings including the front of the head which consists of the eyes, nose, and mouth and surrounding structures.
      Personal honor and dignity, common in the traditional Oriental usage when one uses the expressions "to save face" or "to lose face".
      The front of a building, the public image of a company, a prepared surface area ready to be finished with paint or stain or other covering, etc.
      It does not mean Fellatio or any other form of Oral Sex. End Of Discussion.

Face Sitting
      Position for Oral Sex, usually Cunnilingus and Analingus where the person performing the act is laying on their back and the person receiving the treatment, most often a Woman, is kneeling over their head. In many cases this is the first step to engaging in Mutual Oral Sex, usually called the Sixty-Nine. However, in the world of FemDom, Submission, B&D and so on, it may be the sole object of the exercise. See said terms.
      The term is also used, often with various other terms and expressions such as the Wolf Whistle, when a Man offers Mustache Rides to an Attractive Woman.

Facelift
      Surgery performed to tighten the skin of the face to conceal the age of the patient. Usually performed on women, however, it is not unheard of in men. And especially those who are either Celebrities or excessively Vain, or both. See: Plastic Surgery, and highlighted terms.
      The medical term for the surgical procedure is rhytidectomy. There are also various non-intrusive procedures such as various creams and lotions, as well as those that are minimally intrusive such as those that use injectable drugs. A non-invasive cosmetic procedure toward the same end using various creams and salves and even electric current is a Facial, which see.
      The object of denial of various aging yet Vain Celebrities and Politicians who have obviously had work done to appear younger, more attractive, Sexier, and even more Virile than they actually are. At some point, their appearance and the claim become laughable. See said terms as well as Photoshop ®.

Facial
      Cosmetic procedure used most often on aging individuals who are trying to appear younger and Sexier which may involve a chemical peel to remove the top layer or two of skin, creams and lotions designed to hydrate the face, and even electric shock to tighten subcutaneous muscles on the head and neck. Said results are only temporary. Most often seen on female Celebrities and even Politicians, it was formerly only done on women but now Metrosexual men are having it done as well. See Vain.
      More to our work here: the term is used when the male partner in a sex act Ejaculates on the other person's face, hair and neck. Usually as a result of Fellatio to ejaculation but where the person giving the Oral Sex withdraws the Penis from their mouth, or has it withdrawn, for the express purpose of finishing the act with the Semen being expressed onto their face and or body. Can also be done from manual stimulation, Masturbation, of the penis, or even Intercourse where it is withdrawn and 'aimed' at the recipient's face, Coitus Interruptus. Sometimes done in a Dom/Sub relationship or to humiliate the receiver. Also see: Bukkake, Fellatio.

Faggot, Fag
      Both an archaic term for a stick of firewood and a cigarette. Neither usage is common now outside of works of period fiction set in Victorian times.
      Obsolete term for a male Homosexual, usually considered derogatory. See: Queer, Fairy, Flame.

Fairy
      Multiple uses, some are as follows.
      The classic magical being with wings, may or may not glow in the dark, and usually appeared to be only a few inches tall. Best example relevant to this work is the part played by Julia Roberts (born 1967) in the 1991 Steven Spielberg movie Hook in which Roberts played the part of 'Tinkerbell', wearing a miniskirt and wings.
      Fairies were also involved in a classic hoax where two young English girls claimed to be able to photograph the beings with a standard camera. The Cottingley Fairy Photographs taken between 1917 and 1920 even duped Sir Arthur Conan Doyle (1859 - 1930) into believing them to be real. The cousins admitted in 1979 that the photos were hoaxed with paper cutouts from a children's book. Which, showed pretty female fairies in short skirts, much as Ms. Roberts appeared in the movie previously mentioned.
      When used in the board game chess, a fairy piece has extra-normal ability, hence the name, and may move across the board in significantly different ways than the traditional pieces. When mentioned in chess notation, the symbol for a 'fairy' piece may include an upside down knight or Queen (see reference there). Meaning the piece is a 'fairy' and may jump pieces in any direction for more than the usual number of spaces a regular knight may move.
      Any of several animals with an appearance resembling the classic illustrations, however, neither the shrimp, moth, nor the fly so named have legs as shapely as Ms. Roberts'.
      Derogatory term for male Homosexual, regardless of whether he is wearing wings and a miniskirt or not.

Faithful, Faithfully
      One whom maintains a steadfast commitment to a cause or relationship often using a great deal of Self Control (which see). Especially one who is 'keeping the faith' when circumstance turns against them, for example, keeping true to one's religion through a time of persecution such as being a Christian in the old Soviet Union, or (somewhat more relevant to today) still being a fan of a sports team after several consecutive losing seasons.
      Now, more to our point here, the term is used to describe a person who only engages in Sexual Activity with their Spouse, which is- Monogamy. See related terms such as: Infidelity, Serial Monogamy, Swinger, Sexually Faithful, Cheating. Also see: "Billy Graham Rule, The"
"Marriage requires a special talent, like acting. Monogamy requires genius."
- Warren Beatty (born 1937)

Faking Orgasm, "Fake it until you make it"
      Most usually a woman who, in order to protect her lover's fragile ego, fakes an orgasm during an otherwise mediocre sex session. The best example would be in any number of Adult Movies where the woman seems to have a screaming toe-curling Orgasm while the man Cums on her Tits, or that scene in the otherwise mediocre Chick Flick movie When Harry met Sally which resulted in the line "I'll have what she's having". Unfortunately, that isn't the way it works. However, this can also be thought of as simply Lying (which see) to your lover. If their self esteem is that tenuous perhaps you shouldn't be bedding them down. More productive is some gentle coaching and directions as to what you need to go over the top. For a few hints, see Erogenous Zones, Foreplay, and related subjects. Perhaps the topic immediately below will help as well.
      The "I'll have what she's having" line was delivered in the movie by Estelle Reiner (1914 - 2008), script by Nora Ephron, Columbia Pictures 1989

Falling In Love
      Phenomena often associated with strong Emotions, irrational behavior, powerful Lust, and occasionally actual physical illness (Lovesickness, which see). This is different than Bonding (which see) which is an instinctive fixation in infants and animals and not a true emotion. The expression has been Bastardized to "falling in like/lust/hate" etc, such use is usually by those trying to be clever.... it ain't.
      See related entries at Love, Four Stages Of Love, and Four Words For Love, Love At First Sight, Desire, and other highlighted terms.

"When I fall in love it will be forever
Or Ill never fall in love
In a restless world like this is
Love is ended before its begun
And too many moonlight kisses
Seem to cool in the warmth of the sun

When I give my heart it will be completely
Or Ill never give my heart
And the moment I can feel that you feel that way too
Is when I fall in love with you."
When I Fall In Love written by Young and Heyman, released by various artists including Doris Day (1952), Nat King Cole (1956) and (the) Carpenters (1989)

Female Ejaculation
      Sudden production of a prodigious amount of Vaginal excretions often attributed to the onset of Orgasm, especially the intense Orgasm from G-Spot stimulation. It is most usually not the spewing of what appears to be liters of liquid as shown in many Adult Movies of the Squirting variety, that is indeed often Urine or even water that has been pre-loaded into her vagina as with a Douche to be expelled on cue.
      It is worth noting here and now that not all women experience the phenomenon, not all women who are capable of doing it have it happen every time, and when it does happen, it may not be the same every time. Which makes it very difficult to document.
      As it is unpredictable and varied the topic has become the subject of nearly endless debate and sometimes rather heated arguments despite the phenomenon's having been recording in scientific literature since at least 300 BC in certain Greek texts and a possible mentioning in the Kama Sutra (which see).
      While it is fairly certain that occasionally some of the liquid so produced may be attributed to bladder leakage, not all of it is. A statement supported by the testing of said excretions for urea.
      See: Ejaculation, Cum, Squirting, G Spot, Orgasm, Vaginal Lubrication, and related terms.

Female Genital Mutilation, "Female Circumcision"
      Incorrectly referred to as Female Circumcision the barbaric practice includes the removal of the exterior Female sex Organs of girls ranging in age from birth to their first Menstrual period. The conditions are often filthy, resulting in death from massive infections or uncontrolled bleeding, or horrible scarring if the girl lives. In either case, she will never fully enjoy sex for the rest of her life, which is the admitted purpose of the procedure in most of these cultures. What is worse, it is usually the women of the family, tribe, Mosque or village which insist the girl be cut. Infibulation (which see) is related practice.
      The practice is common in many Afrikan countries, 60% of the girls born on the continent are still being cut, as well as numerous other Islamic regions although it has spread with both populations to Western countries and is now being done in the US and the UK where it is illegal. In spite of its prevalence in Afrika, most Black Activists in the USA ignore the issue including the majority of our celebrity spokesmen (Jesse and Al included) who also ignore the ongoing slavery of black Christians by black Muslims in several Afrikan countries. The term "Pharaonic Circumcision" is sometimes applied to the most severe (and most lethal) form of the practice to give it some sort of historical validity, the term is a Lie, see more at: Pharaonic Circumcision.
      The practice HAS NOTHING to do with Islam, it is not mandated by either the Prophet or the Qua'ran, and is not required by anything other than a tradition which serves no purpose other than to harm women.
      The male equivalent would not be the traditional removal of the foreskin but would more accurately be represented by the amputation of approximately half of the length of the penis. Leaving enough to be technically functional but removing most of the enjoyment of the sex act for the man. See: Emasculate. Compare: Subincision.
      The clitoris can now be surgically rebuilt for most women who have been cut with some good success. See: www.clitoraid.org

Female Impersonators
      Male Transvestite who is working in a show pretending to be a woman. Sometimes the performer's sex cannot be easily told and may not be disclosed during the show, such as with traditional kabuki theater in which all actors are male. Now often done for comedic effect as a 'send up' of a female celebrity. Others create a character such as 'Dame Edna' or 'RuPaul' and perform as their own persona. The best known example may be Divine, AKA Harris Milstead (1945 - 1988), who starred in the John Waters film Hairspray as both a man and a woman. See: Cross Dresser, Queen, Drag Show, and other references.

"Female Problems", "Female Doctor"
      Terms used by those who either want to be polite or those who are ignorant of the correct terminology (or both), to include everything related to the Female Reproductive Organs including Menstruation and various complications related to it, urinary tract infections, Pregnancy, Infertility, and various diseases related to 'women's parts', and the physician, the Gynecologist, that treats those problems. See related topics including Endometriosis, Prolapsed Uterus, Vaginal Steaming, Gynecological Exam, Women's Issues, and highlighted terms.

Female Sexual Organs
      Includes the internal and external primary Reproductive organs. Technical/medical terms include the primary structures of the Vulva, the labia major and minor, the Clitoris, the Vagina, as well as others. See: OB/GYN and other terms for more.

Female Sexual Response
      The entire reason this Glossary exists.
      The normal psycho-sexual physical response of the Adult female to physical stimulation and Arousal leading to Heterosexual Genital Intercourse and all other variations of the Sex Act. See: Orgasmic Crescent, Sex Research, Frigid, Turn On.

Female Sex Role
      The one whom assumes the role of the Passive Partner or Submissive in a Sex Act regardless of their Sex. May be the Fem to a Butch or Dyke in a Lesbian relationship, a Bottom to a Top in a Gay relationship, or Sub to a Dom or other arrangement. See: Feminine, Receiver, and related terms.

Feminine
      Mannerisms, style, appearance, smell, traits, and other aspects of personality and role identification most usually associated with the female of the species, such being nurturing and comforting, gentle, demure, Emotional, and often Submissive. See: Feminine Wiles as example.
      Said traits are usually established by cultural factors and traditions and in some ways upheld by family role models, however, some are also natural to the female role as dictated by biology. In some cases, the traits are well defined and definite, especially when taken together. As is seen with the overall expression of Macho which is generally regarded as the polar opposite of feminine. See: Effeminate, Sex Role, Masculine.

Feminine Hygiene Products / ... Spray
      Polite terms for items such as Tampons, Sanitary Napkins, sprays, Douches, wipes and other items used by women to perform routine cleansing and maintenance of the Female Sexual Organs.
      It should be said here and now that there can be significant health risks to the using of some of these products, such as, fatal toxic shock syndrome from tampons, infections from pads or cervical caps and sponges, exposure to various chemicals and preservatives in commercially produced douches and sprays, and so on. And for all too many years women in general have been too embarrassed and trusting to take control of their own bodies and their health. Fortunately, that is now changing.
      The 'spray' mentioned in the topic listing is nothing more than a perfume, designed for the woman to use on her Vulva to mask any orders which the manufacturer has told her is unpleasant. All she is doing is dousing herself with more chemicals, many of which can lead to serious problems down the road.

Feminine Wiles / Feminine Charms
  this entry in memory of Ms Fawcett
      Traits possessed by women which can be used in the manipulation of men, and even other women, so the woman can get her way. Said skills include the hint of a promise of Sexual Favors, Charm, crying, the appearance of helplessness or Naïveté- even when the exact opposite is true, Sweet Talking, Beauty, and Sexual Attractiveness, and so on. For our purposes here, the only practical difference between the "wiles" and the "charms" is negligible except for the end result of the manipulation being good or bad for those involved. Compare: quote and overall idea thereof at Casanova. See: Fem Fatale, Vamp, and other highlighted terms.
"God made man stronger but not necessarily more intelligent. He gave women intuition and femininity. Used properly, the combination easily jumbles the brain of any man I've ever met."
Farrah Fawcett (1947 - 2009)

Feminism, Feminist
      Ideology and political agenda (and nearly cult religion) advancing the idea that women are superior to men in all ways that matter. Much of their language and tactics were based on faulty research and biased by their own beliefs and colored to their ends. See: Hite (Ms. Shere Hite). Also see: Misogyny, Chauvinism, E.R.A., Equal Opportunity
      Women, and some men, who embraced the extreme feminist point of view seemed to be not as happy as those who lived by more traditional standards as time went on.

Feminist Theory
      Block of academics, methodology, and general philosophy which considers major sociological and even biological ideas from the sex-specific point of view of the female of the species. The core idea of this approach has some validity as for the majority of history the various hard and soft sciences pursued their craft from a male point of view, even when the researcher in question, or their subject, was female. It is the differences between the sexes that can result in different test results whether doing psychological or physiological testing that can render some applications useless or even harmful when applied even handedly from one sex to the other.
      It is interesting to note, and we shall do so here, that the above is exactly the opposite from what many of the Feminist movement said during the heyday of their movement, to wit, that there was no inherent difference between men and women and that both should be treated the same. In some circles the term is synonymous with "female centric" or "female ascendant" theory, however, this use is incorrect.
      The 'theory' is divided into the various major schools of study as mentioned above and carried over into such topics as literature, politics, and even religion. The total field can be, and now is, further subdivided into 'Black Feminist Theory', 'Black Lesbian Feminist Theory', 'Southern Black Lesbian Feminist Theory', 'Single Mother Baptist Southern Black(etc)', ad nauseam.
      Also see: Women's Studies, Feminism, Political Correctness, E.R.A., and related.

Femme Fatale
      French term means exactly what is says, a "deadly woman." An irresistible woman whose Feminine Charms ultimately lead to the bad end for any man whom she ensnares and Seduces, as she is quite literally, dangerous to know, as, after an evening of Passion, or perhaps even before, you may find yourself dead. Sometimes regarded as a Vamp in the classic sense, or even Vampira from various popular media, she may also be seen as the embodiment of a Succubus. In many ways (except for possibly actually killing anybody), Mae West is the best example for our current work. Most usually her unfortunate Paramour is a Man, however, Lesbian editions have been reported. See said terms. Also see: Cougar.
      The version with two "M"s and the "E" at the end is the correct spelling, other appearances all over the web notwithstanding.
      Note: such a character is the heroine of Your Good Brutha's Leatherwings trilogy, available elsewhere on this website.

Fertility, Fertility Cult / Goddess / Symbol, etc
      Anything related to the production of offspring of man, beast, or plants. Includes worship of various pagan gods, rituals associated with them, the history thereof, and their totems. Also associated with the scientific or medial equivalent thereof including Artificial Insemination , fertilizer for plants, prenatal treatment, and even 'grow lights'.
      See: Ishtar, Artificial Insemination, Pregnancy, Phallic Symbol, Fecund, Sexual Reproduction, and so on.

Fertilization
      The moment a Spermatozoa enters an Ovum to cause Pregnancy, also when said fertile egg implants in the Uterus. See: Conception, Birth Control.

Fetish, Fetishism
      General meaning involves everything from magical practices and religious totems or charms (such as a Voodoo Wanga), and icons to the fascination with the latest electronic gadget. As in 'Jody has a fetish for the newest cell-phone'.
      In our current context, namely Paraphilias (which see), the strict definition could read "anything that is not Heterosexual Genital Intercourse", possibly in the Missionary Position, in the Marital bed, with the lights out and door locked for the sole purpose of Procreation, is Kinky, maybe a fetish, and possibly a Sin. However, most reasonable people don't see things that way.
      Fetishism is more usually thought of as sex involving body parts (see: Partialism) and accouterments not designed for the sole purpose of sexual use, such as a Foot Fetish, smoking, or using plastic food wrap, or a long and involved ritual or process before, or instead of, the sex act itself, such as with a Dominatrix, a Medical exam, or an Enema session. And images and videos of said proceedings, which, if one is not involved in but just enjoys watching is the fetish of Scopophilia. Other things have become the objects of fetishes such as women in garters or Sexy Shoes where such Costumes were once secondary to sexual behavior. Can even involve a Sexual Obsession or preoccupation with things such as uniforms (see Schoolgirl Uniform) or furniture which aren't considered Sexy by the majority of people, or even something to be avoided such as Pain (see: Algolagnia) and Odaxelagnia (see: Biting).
      For examples see reference at Pregnancy and other subjects including the fetishes of: Coprophilia, Klismaphilia, Necrophilia, Urolagnia, and Emetophilia. Other fetishes can involve dangerous or even unhealthy behaviors such as extreme Pain Fetish play, Algolagnia, which may involve torture, electrocution, Water Bondage and Asphyxiaphilia, and so on, see Pain Fetish. Also to be considered is the Wet And Messy one, which is exactly that, see WAM, and Aquaphilia which isn't 'messy'. And Somnophilia which, in reality, may be a Felony.
      One part of the general theme that is gaining in popularity is the idea of Role Playing where various fetishes are acted out and 'explored' without the participants being seriously committed to it for the a long term, for example, having an S&M weekend. See: Costumes (including Autoandrophilia), Role Playing Game, Vampirism (Hematolagnia), and related.
      Fetishism can also involve obsessive-compulsive behavior which becomes primary to the encounter and the sex act becomes almost incidental, and perhaps, not part of the act at all. Such individuals can become non-functional in 'normal' relationships and need professional intervention, which is considered the medical/psychiatric condition of Paraphilia (which see). While thought of as an exclusively male phenomenon, recent research had included women who require an extensive ritualistic romantic prelude and setting for sex as a manifestation of the behavior. See: Sexual Fetish, and various other related

Fetish Wear, Fetishwear
      The Costumes and accessories worn to engage in said pastime and related activities. In many cases, the outfits and accouterments of the playtime are more important to those involved than what is actually done Sex wise during the session. Such as with an Infantile Fetish or Fem Dom, which see. NOTE: Both the single word and the two word combination have been seen 'in the wild', in one case, in the same advertisement for 'leather goods'.

Fetish Model / Actor
      One who works primarily in Fetish related scenes and movies. Some models and actors (actresses) specialize in Bondage, Leather or rubberized costumes, Medical or Nurse roles and so on. Others cross over between genres or work in the field part time. A few working models are in high demand including the gorgeous redheaded model Sabrina Fox who specializes in being the Submissive in Bondage and Pain fetish roles, it evidently works quite well as she has been all over the world for shoots and appears to be well on her way to becoming the Bettie Page (which see) of our time.

Fetishist, Fetishistic
      Believe it or not, one whom is into one or more "Fetishes" for fun, and perhaps, for profit as well. The second term is those matters of interest to said person. The '-stic' version is often used with the name of a particular practice to indicate that said practice is more than just a passing fad with the person(s) involved.

Fidelity
      The act of honorably keeping a trust. Behaving with honesty and integrity. Something that is not seen with those Assholes in Congress in anything whatsoever.
      In our primary context here the above mentioned honorable action would be: Monogamy. The exact opposite is Infidelity and Adultery, which are Marital Infidelity (see said terms).

Fig Leaf (Leaves), the "Fig Leaf Campaign"
      The photosynthetic device of the ficus carica tree, symbolically used as a Modesty Cloth (which see). It is through the below that it became something of a running gag for over five hundred years.
      The 'popular name' of a Censorship movement made under the auspices of the Catholic Church's Sixteenth Century Council of Trent, and other similarly minded Pious groups and individuals, to 'decrease the display of nudity' in religious, and by extension, all public art work. The movement lasted for several hundred years, and resulted in the defacing and, and in some cases the total destruction of works of art such as Michelangelo's frescos in the Vatican and elsewhere. In their zeal to protect the rest of us from an image of the Genitalia of a painting or statue, male and female with everything from flowers and actual 'fig leaves' (as with Adam and Eve) or a Modesty Cloth on other figures such as the Crucified Christ, or a statue of Justice (which see for example). See: Censorship, False Modesty, and related.
      It is worth noting that much of the damage done has since been at least partially repaired during modern restorations and conservation of the classic works.
      The idea of the 'fig leaf' in context of our Glossary is perhaps best depicted by the Suggestive and Titillation-evoking title of the flop of a play written by Allan Sherman (1924 - 1973) called The Fig Leaves Are Falling which closed after four performances in spite of having an impressive cast and featured the Broadway debut of David Cassidy. Even given its abbreviated run (or maybe because of it), this show earned the pretty and impressively talented Dorothy Loudon her first Tony award, whom one reviewer said was "wasted in the role". But, despite the title, nobody really got naked on stage (see: Oh, Calcutta!, pun intended), and the storyline about marital infidelity was insufferably dull.
"In the scripts I get to do the things I enjoy most - playing comedy and singing. I love my work so much that sometimes I feel guilty being paid for it."
- Dorothy Loudon (1925 - 2003)

Figging, Gingering
      The insertion of a partially (or wholly) peeled 'finger' from a 'hand' of ginger into the Anus or Vagina during Foreplay, on a Dare, as a form of punishment, or as a deterrent for other behavior. Ginger in its whole form is an irritant which produces anything from a mild to severe burning sensation where it comes into contact with the lining of the body cavity it is placed in. A Sub with a piece of ginger inside them will be very hesitant to constrict their lower bowel or tighten their Buttocks during a disciplining procedure such as Spanking. The extra pressure on the ginger will dramatically increase the burning sensation.
      The practice is said to be ancient, possibly originating in the Orient, where the ginger rhizome was introduced to the anus of show horses to force them to keep their tales up. It has the same effect on any humans it is introduced to. Fresh ginger 'root' is available in the produce section of most grocery stores, and as it loses potency rapidly, the 'ginger butt plug' should be prepared as close to the time of use as possible. Very detailed 'how to' instructions are available online. See: Dom, Sub, Bondage, Butt Plug and related.

Figure
      Most usually, a woman's torso with all of its natural curves and mounds. Also representations thereof such as, according to legend, the original Coke® bottle. See: Hourglass, Stacked. Compare: Supermodel. See quote at: Cabaret.

Figure Model
      Outdated term for a model, usually a woman, who was willing to pose for a photographer or even a painter or sculptor wearing either nothing or revealing lingerie. She would literally be modeling her 'figure', as in some stage shows featuring partially nude women. See: Cheesecake, Nude Model, Showgirl, Exotic Dancer, Burlesque, Fitness Model.

Filth, Filthy
      When used in our current context the term is in reference to the idea that the Sexual Organs and related terms and activities were in some way unclean, or, more to the point, Dirty. Thusly said references, such as "Dirty Old Man" and "Dirty Mind" came into use, see highlighted terms. Also see: Ribald and related terms.

Finger Fucking
      Penetrating the Vagina with the Fingers in a type of Intercourse. Through this technique one can directly stimulate the G-spot, which see, and lead the woman to multiple Orgasms while remaining otherwise relaxed and in control. Also applicable using the fingers to penetrate and stimulate the Anus. See: Darkfinger Technique, Heavy Petting, Fisting, Self Fisting. "Two In The Pink...". Compare: Yoni Massage.
      If the event is done without Consent, the term is Digital Rape or Offensive Touching, which see.

Fingering
      Using the hands and fingers in what used to be called Heavy Petting (which see). Includes inserting one or more fingers inside the Vagina or Anus, or both, for sexual purposes as well as the stroking the exterior lips of the vulva or the shaft and head of the penis. If Consent is not given it would be called Digital Rape or Offensive Touching. See: Hand, Masturbation, Sex Play, Darkfinger Technique.

First Amendment
      The addition to the main body of the US Constitution which guarantees US Citizens certain rights. In this context, it prohibits government regulation of personal expression, except for those things that have been legally declared Obscene. See: Censorship, Obscenity, Free Speech, Three Prong Test, and related topics. Also see: God. (pun intended)
      The entire text of the amendment is:

"Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances."

First Love
      There are actually several occurrences of the phenomenon known as a 'first love'. The difference is usually in how far the love progresses and the ages, both their emotional and chronological age, of those involved. As follows.
      The true 'first love' is usually regarded as the love of an infant for its primary caregiver, usually its mother. There are some aspects of Freud's theories that suggest that a person never actually gets over that love.
      The phenomenon known as Puppy Love (which see) is often regarded as a 'first love' even though in most cases the elementary school age children involved have no real comprehension of the emotion they're talking about. This is when boys find out that girls don't have Cooties, which see.
      Teenage first love, the 'Puppy Love' as referenced in the Paul Anka song by the same name, would be better called 'young love', which is also the title to a song. However, most people have enough understanding of themselves and their emotions to actually be in love by their mid-teens. In the majority of cases this 'first love' is emotional only and the relationship is usually not Consummated. If it is, the outcome is usually disastrous for the relationship. See: Crush.
      For most people their first Adult love relationship occurs sometime during their late teens into their early twenties and includes all the aspects of a Romance including some level of Physical Intimacy.
      See: also: Four Stages of Love, Love, Erotic Love, Romance, and other related topics.

Fishnet, Fishnet Hose, etc.
      An open weave, named for the actual fishing appliance, used for leggings and other applications which show more skin through the pattern than they conceal. Often used for Fetish costumes, as with the French Maid outfit, as well as Stripper costumes and other applications. Black fishnet is the most common, but other colors are used depending on the costume needed.
      As day to day clothing, the style is impractical due to the fact that the weave can catch on almost any surface and unravel.

Fisting
      Putting the full hand in the Vagina or Anus for sexual gratification of either or both parties involved. Variations include 'footing'. It is recommended that a great deal of Lubrication be used, especially when done Anally, for the well being of everybody, also a Safe Word should be used to bring the event to a stop should such a need arise. Fisting can be seen as the logical extension of Finger Fucking or as a separate Fetish especially when done as S&M or B&D . See: Finger Fucking, Lubrication, Self Fisting, "Two in the Pink...".

Fitness, Fitness Model
      Athletic, muscular or otherwise well toned person who is generally regarded in very good physical shape. One who poses for magazines and other media dedicated to said topic. May or may not require Nude work. Women in such shape also often work as Swimsuit and Lingerie models.
      See: Hard Body, Supermodel, Nude Model, Figure Model, Cheesecake and other such topics. Compare: Body Building.

Flame, Flamboyant, Flaming
      A posting in an online forum or a thread in said forum which is intentionally inflammatory, provocative, strongly emotional, or which uses vulgar language. Such posts are usually made by those who are of limited intellect who have reached the end of their ability to argue a point and need to resort to name calling to continue. The best current example is those who support the cause of man-made global warming, when confronted by the evidence that the warming stopped ten years ago and over the last three or four years, the world has actually cooled immediately resort to using terms like 'fascist' and saying you support big oil because they have nothing behind their argument.
      As concerns this Glossary; Someone, usually a Homosexual, and most usually a Homosexual man (Gay) who has an 'over the top' personality that calls extra attention to the fact that they are Gay with exaggerated mannerisms, speech patterns, dress and appearance, and even overt actions and comments to underscore the point that they are Gay. In such cases the term is usually coupled with a word such as "Queer" or "Fag", which see. The term was used to describe the personalities and appearances of such notable Gays as Quentin Crisp (see quote at Political Correctness ), and Sir Robert Helpmann (see quote at Oh, Calcutta). Also see: Fashion Plate, Effeminate, Punk, Poofters. Compare: the feminine version at Brassy.
      The above is sometimes done with the intent of causing a confrontation with Straights, Christians, or the authorities over the Flame's Sexual Preference, which brings the first definition into play with the second. An example of this, perhaps with the suffix 'Asshole' attached would be: Dan Savage (born- 1964, self destructed career wise- 2012).

Flaming Liberal
      One whom is so infallibly and self-righteously dedicated to their 'left-leaning' ideology that they are absolutely oblivious to all contrary shades of the surrounding reality, they deny the repercussions of their actions, and will not accept the full and direct personal responsibility for any of the above, yet they espouse their views without shame and unbidden to any and all regardless of setting or occasion, as well as abdicating any blame directed their way for same. Which is why they request that you to judge them by their intentions instead of their results. Applies to classic American 'liberals' as well as their 'progressive' fraternal twins. Most often seen in major US media news outlets. Examples include Ms Rebecca Meade from the New Yorker and CBS, and Mike Malloy on 'internet radio'. (look them up in a search engine)

Flappers
      The first glimpse of Liberated Women in America and to some degree in Europe in the post WWI years. Most notably, the 'Roaring Twenties'. Flapper women usually had Saucy attitudes, danced, smoked and drank in public, and wore makeup and accessories when the majority of women went plain and behaved themselves, as well wearing skirts that were remarkably short when anything at knee level was a very high hem at the time. The idea was freedom and glamour and no small amount of Sex Appeal and daring. Today, their outfits and appearance is considered very tame (and dated), but then it was scandalous and many ministers publically condemned the women as being she-devils. For the most part, the flappers had a great time living it up, usually at the expense of men. Today's approximation would be a 'Babe', a young, cute, outgoing and agreeable, Sexually Desirable, woman. The Male version would be something of a Libertine. Also see: "Jouisseuse", Sexually Liberated, Coquette, and so on. Note: They were not "Good Girls", which also see.

Flashing, Flasher
      Usually refers to the brief exposure of ones private parts to another person, usually with their prior consent and encouragement in a public place where the person doing the flashing may be seen by others. This may also be accomplished either intentionally or somewhat unintentionally through the wearing of Revealing Clothes such as a short skirt or loose blouse. Sometimes done on a Dare or just as a bit of spontaneous fun as with a "Girl's Night Out". See: Streaking, Exhibitionism, Mooning, Wardrobe Malfunction.

Fleshlight®
      Trademarked name for an Artificial Pussy masturbation device produced and marketed by Interactive Life Forms (ILF). It, and remarkably similar devices under various other names, are widely available on the net and through various magazines and Adult Novelty stores with a wide range of prices on them. As to their effectiveness and whether or not it "feels just like a real Pussy" we will leave to the reader to investigate. See: Artificial Pussy, Adult Novelty, Sex Toy. Also see: Masturbation, Devil's Handshake, and related.

Flirt, Flirting, Flirtation
      To "almost" do something, but not quite complete the act. Such as a sports team "flirting" with a championship by having a winning season, but then choking in the playoffs. Also, to make a serious attempt at something, but then not succeeding for whatever reason not of your own fault.
      More to our point here- Playful exchange of suggestive remarks, gestures, and looks that encompass everything from Sexual Innuendo to outright invitations to engage in Sex, see: Proposition. Often exchanged in public between people who may or may not follow through in the more direct and serious form known as Sexual Repartee, which see. The 'flirt' is the person doing the 'flirting', the entire exchange can be called 'flirtation'. See: Coquet, Romance, Love, Naughty, Hitting On, "Drop Her Hanky", and related.
      Can be all in fun, or may result in Sexual Harassment (which see) charges, and it is at the whim of the woman involved as to which it is, and said standing may change without warning.

Floozy
      Promiscuous woman. Dated but somewhat playful term for a woman who is "indiscrete with her affections to the extreme." Is usually not used in relation to men which is usually considered Libertine or a Rake.
      Synonymous with Slut or Easy, see both, but usually without the absolutely negative connotations. The term has been in common use since before World War One. The expression is sometimes used to describe a woman who is a Flirt or Tease but who doesn't actually Put Out. Also see: Bimbo, Loose, Promiscuity, Fast, Cum Dumpster, Tramp, and related. The opposite is "Good Girl" (which see).
      Is sometimes applied to Politicians who change their allegiances and loyalties at the drop of a hat, or the drop of a dollar into their campaign fund. See: Asshole.

Fluffer, Fluffing
      Multiple meanings, including a bulky material without a lot of mass or substance, such as lint, down, or political campaign promises. Also the actions required to increase the volume of air in an accessory such as a feather pillow, quilted bedroll, stuffed animal, or other soft article. The resultant product produced when you microwave marshmallows, also a commercially available version of the same thing is available with a similar name.
      For our purposes here the term and similar words, are used to designate the function performed for male and female Adult Actors to prepare them to act out their roles on camera. Most usually the 'fluffer' will perform Oral Sex on the actor until they are sufficiently Aroused to engage in the Sex Act on camera. This can include a male actor producing an Erection in his Penis, a Female actress having erect Nipples or an engorged and naturally Lubricated Vulva and Vagina, and so on. The service is needed because of the immense distractions and pressure to perform repeated takes, in often decidedly un-sexy settings on the typical Hardcore set. The term is not specific as to whether the 'fluffer' is male or female, nor as to whether the activity performed is Heterosexual or Homosexual, nor as to who is the Receiver of the action. In some productions, said person is listed as part of the crew under something innocuous such as 'cast prep' and many female stars in the industry did get their start doing just that. See more at Adult Actor, Oral Sex, Erection, "You can be a Porn Star" and other highlighted references.

Fluffy
      Euphemism used primarily by seriously overweight women to describe themselves in some way other than saying that they are morbidly obese or otherwise fat. They seem to think by using a 'cute' or 'playful' term it somehow makes them more attractive. (Note: it doesn't.) See quote at Cabaret. Also see: BMI, BBW, Plumper, Chubby Chaser, and related.

Fondle, Fondling
      Playfully handling something. Infers some enjoyment from the action of the one touching the object. Such as those in the classic toilet paper commercial who were doing so to the packages in the store. More to our good work here, it implies pleasure to both the one doing it and the one it is being done to. As when one plays with a woman's butt cheeks when you Grope or Goose her. Sometimes done during Sex Play such as Truth or Dare and so on.
      The term can also be used negatively as well when describing an action taken during a Sex Crime.

Food Porn
      Term used by various individuals associated with culinary television to describe an extravagant display of vittles. Has nothing to do with the Fetish use of food items- see quote at Sensual and discussion at Object Insertion. Also see: Nyotaimori for food served in an Adult situation.
"Vegetarians, and their Hezbollah-like splinter faction, the vegans, are a persistent irritant to any chef worth a damn. To me, life without veal stock, pork fat, sausage, organ meat, or even stinky cheese is a life not worth living." Anthony Bourdain (born 1956)

Foot Fetish
      The unusual and sometimes extreme or even Obsessive sexual attraction to feet. Most usually involves a man who 'worships' a woman's feet and occasionally include her entire Leg (which see). Often includes specific toenail polish, shoes and jewelry. Can result in some humorous 'true crime' type coverage in the mass media when taken too far with unsuspecting women. See: Sexy Shoes, "Fuck Me Boots", Fetish, Partialism.

Footing, Foot Fucking
      Most usually inserting said extremity into the Vagina, Anus, or sometimes even the Mouth of the Receiver. Often done as a way of further humiliating the Submissive party in the relationship. It must be said now that said action can be dangerous and it is mandatory that all the lube in the world be used to perform said act. See: Fisting.
      Also- Using the feet to Masturbate another person to sexual Climax or Orgasm. May or may not be involved with a Foot Fetish.

"For Adults Only", "For Mature Audiences Only"
      Subject matter deemed of interest to, or is specifically targeted toward a mature audience over the Age of Majority, which see. Most of the time, this is due to Sexual Content, but may also be due to violence, drugs, political extremism or other such content not appropriate for children. See: Adult Content, Ratings, Content Warning, and related.
      By definition (like the pun?), this Glossary, and indeed the entire site is labeled as such.

Forbidden Love
      A relationship where social classes or Taboos, politics, economics, religious ideals, or even simple logistics prevent romance from growing, or which results in an unfortunate outcome for the lovers. See: Unrequited Love, Star Crossed Lovers.

Forced Feminization
      Several common uses. The more pleasant ones first.
      May include the 'getting in touch with ones feminine side' as some sort of behavioral or socialization therapy in which the therapist attempts to bring certain emotions more to the forefront of an individual's personality. The term is also sometimes associated with the Emasculation of such social entities as the state school systems. However, it usually does not involve Castration, which see.
      The 'forced' Submission of a willing person, adult male or female, to assume the usual role of a Submissive female to a Dominate partner. This may include the wearing of traditionally Feminine attire (such as a French Maid costume -which see) or otherwise behaving as a servant, or acting in said Sex Role. Usually seen as part of Fem Dom, or a Master - Slave relationship in B&D or S&M, and may even involve a Forced Orgasm (which see). The individual who is submitting to the role may be either 'required' to Accept Penetration willingly, whether Oral, Anal, or Vaginal, perhaps even being made to beg for it, or to 'do' themselves with a Sex Toy, all of their own free will or with instructions or under 'threat' of reprisal from the Master, such as a Spanking. Or they may be bound and restrained and then violated. If said act was not Consented to beforehand, the matter may fall under the general category of Rape, which is indeed a Sex Crime.
      May also be the Forcible Rape of one whom has not willingly agreed to such activity before the festivities began. It may include the Oral and/or Anal Rape of an otherwise Straight man by either other men Homosexual Rape as in a prison Sissification, or by a woman wearing a Strap On (see Pegging), or the general rape of a non-consenting woman or a Lesbian (such as with Corrective Rape under Sharia- see both), either by men or women. Said instances may involve Gang Rapes, Fisting, and other behavior to which the victim has not Consented. See: Felony, Oral Rape, and related.
      Also see: highlighted terms for more.

Forced Orgasm
      Most usually, but not exclusively, refers to a woman's capacity to be forced through direct stimulation to experience an involuntary, although quite real and usually very intense, Orgasm. And often through Multiple Orgasms as well. Often used in bondage situations including the stimulation of the Clitoris and other Sex Organs with electricity, and Vibrators and other toys both internally and externally. Forced orgasm videos have found a niche in the porn world where one has to wonder if the performances are real.
      Men can also be forced to Ejaculate through stimulation of the Penis, although this most likely will not result in a true Orgasm, as in when the man produces a Sperm sample for a medical procedure.
      See: Involuntary Orgasm, Ravishment, Orgasm, Multiple Orgasm, Climax, Ejaculation, Ultimate Submission, Etc. Compare: to Psychosomatic Orgasm.

Forcible Rape
      A crime where a Sex Act is committed through an act or under threat of violence, either strong-arm or with the use of a weapon. By definition the act is almost always a Felony. In some jurisdictions the term Rapine is used to differentiate the crime from other forms of Rape (which see). Also see: Gang Rape, Oral Rape, Homosexual Rape, Digital Rape and other variations. Compare: Corrective Rape.
      Traditionally the act was a male assaulting a female, however, most jurisdictions have expanded their laws to include other variations.
"Carnal knowledge of a female forcibly and against her will." - Cited from 1929 FBI regulations

Foreplay
      Part of the Seduction sequence before the sexual act itself. Includes everything from Kissing to Oral Sex, and everything else usually considered a prelude to Intercourse. Some 'romantics' consider a fine dinner and wine by candlelight as part of foreplay. There are women who prefer extended sessions of foreplay to the sex act itself. See: Making Out, Arousal, Turn On.

Formula Romance Novel
      Type of mass produced literary work which answers to a prescribed plot progression. In many cases the progressions are so predictable readers know that the main characters will make love in a given chapter without ever reading the rest of the book. See: Erotica, Boudoir Book, Romance Novel, Pulp Fiction, Dime Novel, and related.

Fornication, Fornicate
      Engaging in Sexual Activity (Fucking) when neither of the parties are Married to anybody else (or each other), in which case the Sin in question is Adultery. The noun version thereof. Most usually: Premarital sex. Term is used irrespective of the nature of the sex, whether it is Heterosexual or Homosexual. Although obsolete, the term is still used in some legal and religious circles. See: Lesbian for more on the subject and a quote. See: Sin, Conscience, Hanky Panky, Saving Oneself for Marriage, Sex Outside Of Marriage. Compare: Adultery. Also see: Ten Commandments.

Four Letter Words
      Most usually refers to the "Seven Dirty Words" George Carlin skit, although two of them had more than four letters. Often refers to cursing in a generic and 'safe for the Family Hour' way instead of calling somebody a Motherfucker. See: Seven Dirty Words, "bleep".

Foursome, Four-Way, Five- etc.
      Simultaneous Sexual Activity involving the specified number of people which makes the activity Group Sex by definition and an Orgy by implication. When the number is even (four, six, etc) it is possible for it to be a set of Swinging couples. It is also a given that in most cases some Bisexuality is to be expected, especially among the women involved. The group may also be made up of, say, a single woman and three men, and she performs a Triple Penetration (Airtight), and so on in various combinations. However, the event may be entirely Homosexual in nature as the term is not specific to Heterosexuals. See related terms, especially: Ménage à Trois / Quatre

Four Words for Love, Four Stages of Love
      The English versions of the Greek terms describing four different types of love. See: below for more on each. Also see: Love At First Sight, Falling In Love, Courtship, etc.
      Classic illustration and related material of the ideal and rather poetic description of the progression of human love using the terms. In reality, it is neither so simple or poetic and more than one stage may be in play at any one point. And since we are making some attempt to be technically accurate, the Greek words were for different forms of the core emotion and not indicative of a progression from one to the other. But facts have nothing to do with poetry.
      Those who study relationships have divided the love relationship into as many as twelve stages, including in their analysis a commitment based on children born to the couple and other factors as well. Said academic work has not done away with the classic notion either.
      The words / stages are usually regarded as (Also see: separate entries for each):
          Storge: familial love, as among siblings.
          Phileo (sometimes rendered 'Filial'): Friendship or brotherly love.
          Eros: Erotic love although the term does not require Consummation to apply.
          Agape: Perfect love. Also see: God.

Fox, Foxy
      Small built dog-like mammals of the family Canidae and the genus Vulpini. One whom acts cunning or sneaky like said wild dogs. The female of said family of animals is a Vixen, which see.
      Back to the point here, the term, as applied to women, can be used in regards to several different aspects of her appearance, personality, behavior, overall demeanor, and so on. In most cases a woman so described will be Physically Attractive, Sexually Liberated, possessed of significant Feminine Wiles, and perhaps more aggressive than the average woman. (All of which are considered a very good thing around here! -Deep) See highlighted terms.

Fraternize, Fraternization, Fraternity
      The root of the word is Greek for "brotherhood", so one would think that it means to treat those to whom one is not kin as if they were blood relations. However, that's not usually what is meant. In most cases the word is used to indicate a very social level of interaction, up to and including Sex such as is seen being prohibited in "Codes of Conduct" (which see) which include 'no fraternization' language between those under the code, such as students or employees, and, which is just as often, ignored. The word ending with a 'y' has of late come to symbolize a bunch of boys whose behavior is often abhorrent to the rest of us, when they SHOULD BE attending college to better themselves and the rest of mankind.

Free Love
      Term used during the late 1960's through the early 1970's (and through today in certain circles) for uncommitted, non-relationship based, and sometimes anonymous Sex. Most of the time, those involved in the act were young (mid Teens through mid twenties or so), more or less rebellious, and often hopelessly idealistic. They were into the music/drugs/hysteria of the period, as well as the entire 'counter culture' phenomenon associated with the anti-Vietnam War 'thing', and Casual Sex, as well as the young women being Sexually Liberated, was a big part of that as it flew in the face of the everything their parents, and the assorted politicians of the day, stood for. However, these same young people who were fucking in the bushes at the Altamont concert were often totally clueless as to the consequences of their actions (while the love was free, Birth Control Pills were not!). A shining example is the rash of 'Woodstock babies' born in 1970 after the Summer of Love (whether or not their parents had been to the milestone music festival is irrelevant).
      See: Casual Sex, Love Child, Sexual Revolution, Hippy.

"free porn"
      The reason graphics (still and moving pictures) on the Internet exist, otherwise it would still be all text based. (No. I'm not kidding, go read the real history of the Web.)

Free Speech
      Most usually the expectation of the right to express ones own ideas and views without official censure from the government. The term applies equally to graphic and performance arts as well as written and actual spoken words. While some self expression is not permitted for various reasons, such as yelling "Hi Jack!" while on an aircraft or undressing on a public street, most reasonable discourse is allowed unless the criteria for Obscene or Indecent is met. See: Censorship, Obscenity, First Amendment, Political Correctness, Voluntary Self Censoring, and related. Also see: example at Autobiography of a Flea.

French Cut clothing
      Most usually refers to the outline of the part of a woman's wardrobe that covers her pelvic area and the way the hemline runs over her hips. The idea is to raise the seam of the garment above the hip bones to emphasize the length and shape of her leg. In some cases the garment in question is little more than a string, such as a Thong or a Bikini (see both, pun intended!). Of course there are men who wear such things, and other than Body Builders, they probably shouldn't. Also see: Panties and related.
      The logical extreme of this type of garment was Cher's costume in the video and tour for If I Could Turn Back Time in which there were effectively no 'sides' to her costume under the leather jacket, which most of the sailors on the USS Missouri appreciated but most television networks did not. (For an idiotic version of that swimsuit, see "Mankini".)

French Kissing, 'Frenching', Deep Kissing, etc.
      'Open mouth kissing'. Primarily the use of one's tongue to explore and entice the other person's mouth and tongue while kissing, often while the other person does the same to you, which may result in 'tongue wrestling'. Very erotic and romantic type of kissing especially when compared to the Hollywood 'air kiss' which means nothing to either party. Some slang terms include 'tonsil check' and 'counting fillings'. See: Suck Face (with quote), Soul Kiss. Also see: Lip Lock, Kiss, Romance, Foreplay.
      The 'little known fact' that has been floating around the Internet that the French refer to this style of kissing as an "English Kiss" is totally false. In French, the term is usually a version of baiser which is simply, 'to kiss'.

French Maid
      The term refers specifically to the costume worn by a certain group of women housekeepers which has most, if not all, of the following characteristics.
      The outfit was usually black with white lace trim, today they are usually presented as one piece, however, this is not the historic norm. The top consisted of a fitted bodice that was usually cut low enough at the neckline to show a significant amount of cleavage. A plaited skirt that flared out significantly from the hips which ended usually above the knee and was constructed so as that when the woman bent forward to do the housework, it exposed the back of her thighs, which became the hallmark of the costume and a cliché for the style. The woman usually wore plain hose and sensible shoes for working in, however, today the costume comes with Fishnet Hose and Sexy Shoes.
      The Costume is usually closely related to the "sexy nurse" outfit except in the Nurse's case, the main costume is white. See: Maid, Nurse, Medical Fetish, Costume.

French Tickler
      Most usually, a Condom or Cock Ring with fingerlike projections either at the tip, around the end, or sometimes along the shaft for the purpose of stimulating various spots inside the Vagina and the Cervix, as well as the Clitoris during Intercourse. Term also applies to Vibrators and Dildos so designed. See: related.

French Whore, "Smells Like a French Whore"
      Multiple uses, all related. Then a bit of analysis.
      Usually refers to the style of dress, amount of perfume, or how much makeup someone, especially a woman, is wearing. Most often invoked when they are trying to be Sophisticated but just look Cheap or Trashie, which see, whether or not the person is an actual Prostitute.
      A Prostitute, or politician for that matter as they are essentially the same thing, from France. Or one who appears to be cut from the same cloth as either of those. Also the overuse of perfume or cosmetics in a social situation where it is otherwise inappropriate, see below. For example see Red Light, note reference to song written about a French whore.
      Term equally applies to both French politicians and certain US Democrats who appear to be Francophiles.
      An alcoholic mixed drink made with vodka, possibly so named because of the reddish color of the finished drink.
      A fictional novel by Gene Wilder (born 1933) which was released in 2007, and was about a French whore.
      While it is not unreasonable to assume that the almost mystical belief that a Prostitute from France was something special to those who sought her services either during the various Nineteenth Century North American gold rushes when working women would use the persona of being of the aristocratic European classes, and especially from the recently deposed French court, to make it seem like they were classier than they actually were. Of course the majority of those women were neither classy nor usually French, although a lot of them may have been recent immigrants to both the US and Canada from other countries. But, of course, it didn't matter in the least.
      The next time we see the term in popular culture, it is usually in reference to women the WWI doughboys met on the Continent, not all of whom charged for providing 'comfort' to the GI's. And then even more so after WWII when the triumphant soldiers returned with tales of Paris and the delights of the city and a new awareness of the world at large.
      The term came to be associated with a certain type of appearance and especially the amount of perfume worn based on the fact that at the time, the French weren't overly fastidious about personal hygiene and used cologne to cover up the human body's various aromatic properties.
      Today the term is most usually associated with an almost Flamboyantly theatrical level of appearance as a Working Girl, which see, as well as the aforementioned overuse of perfume. Also see: Dolly Parton quote at Cheap.

Freud, Sigmund (1856 - 1939)
      Cocaine addict who was Having Sex with his Sister-In-Law in the bedroom down the hall from where his wife was sleeping. Founder of Psychoanalysis as a branch of behavioral science. Several of his ideas have been taken and run out to the logical extreme, rendering them little more than material for lousy jokes. See: Penis Envy, Anal Retentive, Oedipus Complex, Sex Research, Cigar, Sister-In-Law, and related topics.
"Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar." -Freud (attribution of the quote to Sigmund is now disputed).
But Dr. Freud DID say- "Sadism is all right in its place, but it should be directed to proper ends."

Freudian Slip, Parapraxis
      Saying or doing what one actually means, or might be thinking about, by accident. Sometimes said slips are intentional and passed off as a slip of the tongue. Said slips are said by psychologists to carry significant meaning, even though they may simply be an accident, a phenomenon first described in medical literature by Sigmund Freud (see above entry) in his work Psychopathology. The technical term most often used is 'parapraxis'.
      Often when a man mis-speaks something in the presence of his wife it is deemed to be grounds for divorce, if said slip is made by a woman, it is usually blamed on the man and he is told to be more understanding.

Friends With Benefits, Fuck Buddy, Etc.
      One step up from Casual Sex. In short, this is a relationship based on being partners for Sexual Activity with no other long term committment. According to most anecdotal evidence: It doesn't work, as sooner or later one or the other will either want to get serious with the other person emotionally, or they will break it off. See: Casual Sex, BF, etc.

Frigid, Frigidity
      Thermally speaking the word is usually regarded as describing outdoor temperatures that become a survival issue after all but short term exposure, most often in the minus 30 degrees Celsius (-20F) range.
      In this context, a woman who is sexually unresponsive, mentally or emotionally unable to enjoy Sexual Activity, or has such a disagreeable personality that no-one would consider it with her. Could be in general to all activity with all partners or just with one partner, such as her husband. The loss of her Sex Drive can be medical condition or the result of a medical treatment as the side effect of medication. Some treatments, including the use of vibrators and artificial lubricants as well as medication and counseling have been reported as effective in the long term. It is an urban legend that all wives become frigid shortly after the birth of their first child, not all do. No. Not all of them. See: Hot Mom for more. Also see: Cold, Unfuckable.
      There are several physical illnesses such as Endometriosis (see Vaginal Abnormalities) as well as psychological conditions which have the side effect of shutting down the Female Sexual Response and causing Orgasmic dysfunction. Medication, hormonal treatments, and talk therapy as well as physical treatments such as Yoni Massage and Kegel Exercises have proved effective in reawakening the woman's interest in physical intimacy. See: highlighted topics.

Frottage, Frotting, and variables
      There is no standardized spelling or usage of the term.
      Essentially Masturbation with ones clothes on using somebody, or something, else to satisfy their own urge. See: Dancing ("Dirty Dancing")
      Sex with a stranger when both are clothed. Usually the 'frotter' is a male, the 'frottee' can be anything or anybody, and is quite often unaware of what is going on. AKA Sexual Assault, Personal Space.
      The rubbing of two Penises together, most often seen in the male Homosexual videos. The equivalent on the Lesbian side would be Tribadism, which see.
      "Outercourse" or Intercrural Sex, see both terms.
      As practiced on Japanese subways- See: Dry Humping. Compare: Intercrural Sex, Outercourse.

Fuck, Fucking
      Noun meaning- Heterosexual Genital Intercourse, which see. Verb indicating- the act itself as in to "Have Sex", which also see. Adverb, adjective, conjunction, modifier, preposition, and even interjection meaning, the same thing.
      The word itself has ancient roots and meaning, including 'futuo' and its derivative as seen in the following quote:
"Arphocras hic cum Drauca bene futuit denario"
("Here Harpocras has had a good fuck with Drauca for a denarius")
  - Roman era graffiti from Pompeii
      Expletive which is one of the "Seven Dirty Words", which see. Usually referred to in media as "The F Word". Usually used as an exclamation by those of limited vocabulary. Also tossed around in movies and rap songs simply for the shock value. See: R.I.A.A. E.S.R.B., M.P.A.A., Standards and Practices, and so on. Also see: Expletive for clarification on that term.
      See: other variations under individual topics. For example 'Ass Fucking' under Anal Intercourse.
      Also see: Consummation, Performance Anxiety, Abstinence, Marital Relations, Lady Chatterley's Lover for quote, and Etc.

Fuck Around, Fucking Around
      Multiple meanings in several contexts, a few of which follow: To waste time. To mess with something until you break it or render the project at hand worthless. To argue pointlessly over minutia. Or- to be Congress, which see.
      More to our point here, when applied to a person, that they 'fuck around' it implies some degree of Promiscuity or other proclivity to Casual Sex such as a Libertine or a Slut who Sleeps Around. See said terms.

"Fuck Like A Porn Star", "Fucking Like A Porn Star"
      There is an ongoing myth and popular mystique that somehow Adult Performers 'do it' better, longer, different, or whatever, than the rest of us. Which is only marginally true. Many performers, male and female, do have above average Staying Power or endurance, slightly larger endowment, and many even have some acting ability so they are able to act like they are having the best sex of their lives, even while balancing on one foot in a moving city bus while wearing a wardrobe made out of tree branches.
      There is a significant difference in the way most people Fuck on Dates, or in bed with their significant other, Gay or Straight, and the way it is done in Porn. For one, in the movies and magazines, the Sex is done for the camera. The Positions are usually something less than Intimate, and there is usually minimal secondary contact between the parties involved, see Cuddling. Also, the average Sex Scene in a porn film is usually shot over a period of several hours, if not days, and is then edited together so it looks like the couple energetically fucked for over an hour. And the Foreplay, if there is any, probably consisted of one Deep Kiss and a quick Grope which led directly to Oral Sex.
      The other primary difference is in the various Orgasms as filmed. Namely, that women can have a toe curling orgasm with no other stimulation than watching the guy Jerk Off on her Tits. That, and that every guy's fantasy is to pull out of the woman's Anus, Vagina, or Mouth to jerk off on her tits. See: Money Shot. When in the Privacy of one's own bedroom, Coitus Interruptus followed by some sort of Bukkake is seldom the way it's done. Most of the time, the Sex Act results in some sort Internal Ejaculation unless it is being done by Lesbians.
      Another point is that when most people Make Love, they are the only ones around. Other than the occasional Swinger party, most people Have Sex with only one other person in the room at the time, namely, they are alone with their Lover. Adult Movies are often filmed with a dozen people or more around consisting of the camera and lighting crews, director, makeup, sound and set guys, and so on. Which may cause Performance Anxiety for the man and make the woman, shall we say, less receptive. See: Sex Scene, Sex Manual.
      Also see: You Can Be A Porn Star, Positions, Birth Control, Staying Power, Woodman, Penis Size, Zip-less Fuck, and related terms.

"Fuck me boots"
      Most usually thought of in terms of being part of the costume of a Dominatrix, boots of this sort are not practical for such duty as shoveling snow or riding a motorcycle. They are usually characterized by an extremely high top, knee high or above, unusually high heels, maybe even having platform soles several inches thick, and be closed by an amazing length of laces, a Zipper, or even be slip on. Such boots were the subject of a 1966 song by Nancy Sinatra (born 1940). See: Sexy Shoes, Foot Fetish, Toe Licking, Stripper Shoes, Fishnet, Legs, and related.

Fuck Stick, Fuckstick
      Disrespectful term for either the male Penis, or the man himself. Occasionally used to refer to a Dildo or similar. Most usually seen in badly written smut as featured in lower caste magazines. Your Brutha has never used the term in any of his stories. Also see: Phallus, Weiner.

Fuck Up, Fuck With, Fuck It Up, etc
      'Fuck Up / With': To disrupt intentionally or otherwise, or to inject unpleasantness or even chaos into another's activity or plans, or to make the result of said project worthless such as somebody having 'Fucked Around with it until they fucked it up.' See: Screw Up, Cluster Fuck.

"Fuck You", "Fuck Off"
      The essential message of the US Congress to the American voter and taxpayer.
      Insult flung at random at people one has no desire or intention of engaging in a Sex Act with. Usually considered one of the worst insults and terms used to exclaim total disrespect for the target. Except in certain gangsta songs where it is used as a term of endearment for one whom ones wishes to Fuck and then leave on the side of the road, possibly for dead.
      Among the various ways to say this non-verbally include the traditional North American 'one finger salute' (the middle finger) or the Land Down Under two finger variety (the sign language 'V') but in both cases the palm is facing inward and the person you are insulting sees the back of your hand. Both gestures are usually prohibited on Family Hour and other broadcasts as offensive.
      See other terms under "Fuck" especially "Go Fuck Yourself".

“Fuck You And The Horse You Rode In On”
      Somewhat dated curse which is essentially saying “fuck you and your mom” without actually saying it, as the object of the insult's mother is in fact the 'horse' mentioned in the phrase. See: Motherfucker, Fuck You, and related. added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

"Fuck You Very Much"
      Nonsensical insult usually spouted by somebody who has otherwise exhausted their repertoire of things to say. May also be said sarcastically as the acknowledgement of a backhanded or otherwise insincere compliment. The term has nothing to do with Sex other than the use of the infamous "F Word", which see.

Fuckable
      Term usually indicating a relative state of Hotness, which see. Or someone who is Sexually Attractive, which also see. Someone who appears to be especially agreeable to the Sex Act, which see as well. The term can be applied to anybody, but use other than in reference to a good looking Woman is a known cause of the Fantods. (All Puns Intended) The exact opposite is Unfuckable, which you can see if you want to!

Fucked
      Most usually associated with something unfortunate or unpleasant which has already happened as in the past tense of Fuck Up, which see. Such as in the use of the term 'SNAFU', Situation Normal: All Fucked Up.
      The past tense of Fucking, as in Heterosexual Genital Intercourse, also see: Have (Had) Sex.
      The general consensus of the state of your checking account once the Democrats have both the Congress (see Asshole) and the White House.

"Fucked to Death"
      Sometimes spouted as wishful thinking, or perhaps as something of a backhanded compliment or, most likely, exaggeration, when describing an extremely energetic Sexual Act or prolonged session with someone, hopefully an Attractive woman, who was Insatiable and perhaps something of a Nymphomaniac. Also See: Ultimate Sex Act

Fucker
      Multiple uses. Including the sexual one which would describe the Active Partner in a Sex Act, which would usually be the Top or Male role.
      When used in a derogatory fashion the term is best seen as a severe pejorative best likened to saying that the person so called has no value whatsoever as a human other than their potential as food for vermin. See: Motherfucker.
      May also be synonymous with Asshole, which see.

"Fuckin' A"
      Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion
      From what both Your Good Brutha and the Doktor could tell, the term is impossible to define as it is damned near meaningless, while at the same time, can mean anything its user wants it to, as follows.
      The words are usually used as an exclamation of disbelief or astonishment. Also as both an affirmation or denial in answer to a statement or question. Has been used as a declaration of intent or will to engage in or to complete a task. Can also be employed as an insult where the "A" is an abbreviation for Asshole. As a question or inquiry as to what is going on or to have something clarified. Or, indeed, to simply fill silence and to remind us that you are there. Often used in movies where the "F-word" rate per minute has dropped below some threshold and the director has it injected at random to boost it. Also see: "Drop The F-Bomb". Compare: "I've got yours..."

Fucking Machine
      Mechanical device either purpose built or adapted for sexual purposes. May use air pistons, electric motors with gears and cams, or other means to generate a thrusting motion which is used by the machine to Penetrate the Receiver. May incorporate other actions such as Vibration or rotation to increase the pleasure of the Receiver. Has developed into its own niche and even fetish. Said devices are most often with women, although some can also be used with men. When such devices are used with anybody, it is strongly recommended that a great deal of Lubricant be used on the person receiving the penetration or other stimulation and a 'kill switch' and/or Safe Word be developed beforehand. See: Vibrator, Sex Toy, Lubricant and etc.
      Term is also used to refer to an individual, sometimes with awe, sometimes derogatorily, who can 'fuck like a machine'. Usually used in reference to stamina, thrusting ability, perhaps even noises such as 'huffing like a freight train'. Can apply to either male or female participants.

Fucking the Crack
      Simulated Intercourse without actual Penetration, may be Homosexual or Heterosexual in nature, and may involve nearly any body parts, or even be a Group Sex practice with multiple partners. Those so inclined may also simulate the act of simulating the Sex with Dildos, Fingers, Tongues, and a virtually unlimited array of Toys and items such as bananas. Can be thought of as a form of Mutual Masturbation or even Dry Humping except the partners are usually Nude. See: Intercrural Sex, Outercourse.
      The technique is often used to preserve Virginity and to give some Sexual Gratification without the risk of Pregnancy and to reduce the threat of Sexually Transmitted Disease. See: highlighted terms. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Fuckwad
      The almost nonsensical term seems to indicate a ball of spent Cum, possibly the result of Withdrawal during Intercourse or perhaps Masturbation. In either case, the subject of the pejorative term is equally worthless. See reader suggested term: Dick Spit.
      Other possible definitions include: Congressman (which see), TV reporter, NBA contract negotiator.

Fuddy-Duddy
      Doktor Leftover. Also, a 'stick in the mud', but we are being redundant with that one.

Fugly
      Originally a comedic term which began life as a contraction of 'fucking ugly' meant to indicate someone who was so unattractive in every way possible that they were Unfuckable.

Full Figure
      Description of a woman's torso when she has a Figure which is naturally curvy and Voluptuous without her being obese. Often used in the fashion world to describe women with such a figure, but is then extended to those who are significantly overweight on through the morbidly obese. See: Hour Glass
      In historic times, and even occasionally today, women whose figures were a little more plump than full would wear a Girdle or a Corset to 'pull in' the extra around their middle, to approximate a more agreeable form as dictated by the fashion of the time.
      In the world of Adult and Personal Ads, the term means 'fat'. Period. Also see: Body, Mass Index, Substantial Figure, Big Beautiful Woman, and related.

Full Frontal Nudity
      Video or photograph which shows a person, hopefully a good looking woman, nude, from the front, from head to toe, or an approximation thereof. At one time said view was the test as to whether or not a motion picture would receive an 'R' rating. See: Nude Scene.

Fully Clothed Sex
      Somewhat misnamed Sex Act where the participants are not Nude but remain at least partially clothed and only remove or loosen that which is necessary to complete the act. The term does not imply in the type of Physical Intimacy is engaged in, as in whether it is Oral, or Heterosexual Genital Intercourse (Fucking) or as to the Sex of the participants. This implies an actual Sex Act and not something such as Dry Humping, Frotting, or Outercourse.
      Niche Porn related to said activity and those interested in same. Usually depicted as a Quickie of the "Wham Bam Thank You Ma'am" variety. See highlighted terms. Also see; CFNM (Clothed Female Nude Male).

Fun Bags
      Fairly stupid term most often used by Breast Obsessed men who write captions for Adult websites referring to and focusing (pun intended) on what are usually surgically enhanced breasts which have been inflated out of proportion to the woman's body size. Note: this is another idiotic term Your Good Brutha will never use. See: Breast Enlargement, Infantile Fetish, Tits, Tit Fucking, DD, Knockers, and other terms for said Secondary Sexual Organs.

Fur Burger, Furburger
      Cunnilingus (which see) Also see: "Eating Pussy", Oral Sex, Muffdiving.
      See the related idea of "Carpet Munching". One of the more imaginative of the "cute expressions" for a sex act, but still, Your Good Brutha has elected to not use it. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

G.F.E., GFE, Girlfriend Experience, Boyfriend Experience
      Term is used to describe a special service through various types of Escort Services (which see). The idea being that the escort will appear to actually be in a Romantic relationship with the client, such as a Trophy Wife (which also see), at an event such as a dinner or other function which the client did not wish to attend alone. The service may or may not include sex as part of the arrangement, although many such escorts make a point to state that they are Bi in their ads. The male version "Boyfriend Experience" is not in common use outside of a small niche on the Gay side of things. Also see: Lesbian Escorts.

G.I.L.F., GILF / GMILF
      Idiotic term coined to play off the general Mom I'd Like to Fuck - MILF (which see) hoopla by now specifying that a woman is a 'Grandmother I'd Like to Fuck' although one may occassionally see it meaning "Gay....". Both the 'G' and 'GM' versions have been used for this entry.
      Most recently seen in reference to Alaskan Governor Sarah Palin, see Stepford Wives for more on the reference.

G.L.B., G.L.B.T., GLB, GLBT, GLBTQA, etc
      Abbreviation seen in various media outlets, on political bumper stickers, and in Personal Ads (which see pun intended) and should be taken to mean Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered / Transsexual, Queer, Asexual, or whatever combination of those letters is employed. See: "Don't Ask, Don't Tell", Political Correctness, Lifestyle, Mattachine Society, and related.

G-Spot, Grafenberg Spot
      Term for a structure inside the vagina roughly comparable in some respects to the male prostate. While its actual function is not known it can be the source of very powerful Orgasms with the proper stimulation, sometimes resulting in Female Ejaculation (whish see). It can be located by inserting a finger into the vagina then curling the finger toward the woman's navel, the G Spot is a small area that feels slightly rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall where the urethra passes the closest to the vagina.
      The spot was named for Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg (1881 - 1957) who had done extensive research on both the female sexual organs and their role in sexuality. He also described Female Ejaculation which has been dismissed by other experts.
      Some research has indicated that there may be other 'spots' inside the vagina that serve other functions during arousal or the sex act itself. These include the 'A' and 'U' spots which are located above and below the G-spot. However, other experts claim these spots, if they exist at all, are simply continuations of the G-spot or the clitoris itself. See: Clitoris, Orgasm.
      Other researchers have denied that it exists at all, evidently, they've never tried Yoni Massage on a woman.

G-String
      Most usually a tiny undergarment worn as a Panty, costume, or swimsuit but serving no practical purpose and barely concealing the Vulva. See: Thong, Butt Floss, Panty, Lap Dancer.

Gametes
      The sex cells: Eggs (ova) and Sperm. See: Sexual Reproduction, Sperm, and related.

Gang Bang, Pull a- Chain, Train, Etc. gang banger
      One Receiving individual having sex, usually Intercourse, with multiple partners in series. Most usually one woman Fucking at least four or five men in succession. Some 'World Record Gangbangs' (which see) report a single woman Having Sex with several hundred men in one day, many of these reports are exaggerated.
      Is often seen at various functions such as fraternity parties or the initiation into various clubs or gangs. Compare: Gang Rape.
      Applies equally to the Recipient engaging in multiple sex acts, including Oral Sex, with different individuals whether said sex is Straight or Gay, Oral, Vaginal, Anal, DP, or any other combination and variation. See: Group Sex, Orgy, Polygamy, Ravished, Man Train, Sloppy Seconds, etc.
      The term with the "-er" suffix is usually not applied to the Sex Act but instead is used to reference violent acts perpetrated by thugs associated with groups of criminals, such as street shootings.

Gang Rape
      The criminally violent side of a Gang Bang, which see. The victim of the act is usually female but may be male as in the case of Forced Feminization. As with most Rapes, this is not just a Sex Crime but a crime of profound violence against an individual. See: Felony.
      It is often associated with actual gang activity such as with the Hell's Angels or various criminal gangs, fraternity parties, and regional terrorist activity such as in various tribal conflicts in Afrika and Asia.

Gap
      When not being used to name a retailer or a geographic feature in a mountain range: Term used to describe the crotch area of a woman who is wearing tight fitting slacks, shorts, swimsuit, or other garment. The word specifically refers to the area between the insides of her thighs, which should NOT be touching and the area of the garment, if she is indeed wearing one, which would be covering her Vulva. See: Camel Toe, Daisy Dukes.

Gape, Gaping
      Multiple Meanings.
      Staring at an object of Lust, in most cases, a good-looking woman, I.E., a Lecher looking at a Babe.
      On TV, the expression on an idiot man's face whose brain just locked up in the presence of a Babe.
      An open Vagina or Anus which has been dilated either for or from Sex Play. See: Cave, Anal Training.

Garter (Belt) and Hose (or Stockings)
      Women's undergarments consisting of a waist belt and the various straps and fasteners on it to hold stockings in place. Has been replaced by Pantyhose, which see.
      The object of endless fascination, Fantasy, Obsession, and Fetish for innumerable men and women and the subject of innumerable Soft and Hard Core pictorials and movies. Perhaps the most famous model of said Lingerie was Bettie Page, which see. added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Gash
      An open cut or wound as from a knife. Also, a similar rending of material such as the accidental cutting of a car seat or other upholstery. The scarring of land from clear cutting or strip mining. Similar physical evidence such as that left by the Union Army during Sherman's "March to the Sea" across Georgia during the US War Between the States.
      Outdated, offensive, and ignorant term used to describe the Vulva and Labia. Which see. Also see: explanation of slang terms at Pussy.

Gay
      Originally meant happy, carefree, almost obnoxiously cheerful. Most commonly used to describe the economic and socially booming decade of the 1890's, as in "the Gay Nineties."
      The Bastardization of the term as in current use usually refers to Homosexual men. However, the term equally applies to Lesbians. Those who are Bisexual usually identify themselves as bi, although single bi men (Metrosexual Democrats) are often thought of as gay by the world at large. Other related terms used by various outfits and individuals include 'Divas', 'Queens', 'Swishy' and so on almost ad infinitum. Also, a man can be a Democrat and NOT be gay or a Metrosexual. See: Straight, Bi, Pansexual, Mattachine Society, etc.

Gay Bar
      A tavern or other Alcohol serving establishment which caters primarily to Homosexuals and others of the GLBTQA (which see) spectrum which allows those of like mind to meet and interact in a friendly atmosphere. Many places specialize in a particular clientele such as Lesbian and Bisexual women or those that are Transgendered and so on, or cater to the various groups on different nights. The term is non-specific as to the Sex and / or the Sexual Preferences of those that frequent the place other than they are not Straight. The term is also used to describe such establishments that also allow Sex Acts between patrons on the premises. It is in such a locale where many Gay-Curious individuals experiment with Alternative Lifestyles. See highlighted terms as well as: Drunk, Sex Club, Bawdy House, and related terms. See historical reference at: Stonewall Riots. See related ideas at: Singles Bar, Hot Sheet Motel, Casual Sex.
      added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Gay Conversion Therapy, Corrective Treatment, "straightening", etc.
      (Definition, then discussion.) The terms are in reference to the clinical practice of attempting to change the Sexual Orientation of the 'patient' from Homosexual to Heterosexual by various means including 'talk therapy', medication, aversion therapy, and, no, we're not kidding, exorcism. Usually done to a Child by well meaning parents or another guardian and occasionally by "the state" to a citizen, see Corrective Rape for example.
      The matter of whether or not Homosexuality is a choice or not is at the core of the matter and cannot be avoided. If some individuals are 'born gay' then any attempt at changing that fact will be about as successful as the effort from a bygone era of schooling to change a left-handed person so they would write with the 'correct hand'. And it probably causes just as much psychological damage to the person. However, and this has to be said, if it is a choice, then perhaps, just 'perhaps' now, the person can 'unchoose', it is up to them, or at least it should be.
      Now, having opened that can of worms and stepped in it with one foot, we shall now insert the other. In an Adult, the matter is up to that person and none of anybody else's business. As to what effort Parents should make to 'change' a Child who they feel is expressing the wrong traits that way, that matter is up to the parents, and the medical professionals or others they seek out. However, in all cases, having the government step in and inflict some of these methods on its citizens is a crime against humanity.

"Gay For Pay"
      Phenomenon best described as one who is literally "acting gay" by performing full or somewhat limited Homosexual acts only for money as a job. When they are in their private life, they are Straight by choice. Such activity may be while working as a Prostitute, Adult Actor, or other Sex Performer. Less common is where the actor is Gay in private but engages in Heterosexual sex while on the payroll. See: Casting Couch, BFE, "Situational Homosexuals", as well as various highlighted terms.
      Such behavior may be considered a form of Bisexuality, but most individuals so behaving would not identify themselves as such. Counter to that is the nearly required bisexuality by women in the Adult Entertainment Industry.
      One of the most famous (infamous) male examples has to be John Holmes (which see). A more recent example would be Ron Jeremy (which also see).

"Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network" (GLSEN)
      Activist group whose purpose seems to be to promote an agenda of Homosexual acceptance, inclusion, and even preference in American schools, as well as a general goal of recruiting others into such a lifestyle. While the group claims to be equally representative of Lesbians and Straights by its own admission most of its material and activity is centered on Homosexual Men. They have also been known to promote Predatory Homosexual Pedophilia (which see), which they now deny. Also see, Gay Pride, Closet, "That's So Gay". Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Gay Pride, Gay Liberation, Gay Rights
      Political movement based on the presumption that one has the right to chose ones own Sexual Preference and to make said choice public knowledge regardless of whether the general public wants to know or not. The original groups formed in the 1950s then spread from there, see: Mattachine Society. Later, the national movements were loosely based on and associated with the Feminist, anti-war, and racial equality movements of the 1960's. Some radical and even violent activity was associated with the early days of the drive (see: Stonewall Riots), but it has since become mainstream to the point of being openly debated in US Presidential campaigns. See: Political Correctness, Equal Rights Amendment, Homocentric, "Don't Ask, Don't Tell", Stonewall Riots, Internalized Homophobic, Queer, GLBT, and related.

Gay-Curious
      An otherwise Heterosexual individual who is wondering about Homosexual activity. May be either Male or Female, and may or may not be Sexually Active. Such curiosity is a normal part of Adolescence and may occur later in life as well, whether or not such interest is ever acted upon is another matter all together. The term could be used with a dedicated Bisexual who is thinking about going 'all gay', but that wouldn't make a lot of sense, would it? Compare: "Situational Homosexuals".
      A closely related idea is Bi-Curiosity where a Gay or Straight individual, or even couple, wonder about engaging in Three Way Sex or even an Orgy, as with Swingers. See: Sexual Experimentation, Gay Bar, and other highlighted topics.

Gaydar, Babedar, MILFdar, etc.
      A play on the term RADAR (radio detection and ranging) to imply that somebody can "spot a homosexual a mile away". Usage is usually limited to bigots and other ignorant people when talking about each other.
      Other versions include said ability applying to whatever the subject of the moment is, including pretty women, beer, poker games, and so on.

Geisha
      Japanese female entertainer who traditionally appears in whiteface wearing an elaborate formal costume. The spelling and usage varies by region. The traditional makeup and costume is now usually seen only during special occasions or by customer request. They did NOT routinely Have Sex with those they entertained.
      To consider the traditional geisha a Prostitute is to disrespect the centuries old profession and demonstrates the users ignorance. However, to be fair, there are Japanese prostitutes who work as Geishas to gain access to wealthy patrons and then arrange after-hours contact with said patrons. The practice of the Geisha as Prostitute was most pronounced during the Korean and Vietnam wars.
      See: Nyotaimori. Also see: Escort, Adult Entertainment, Call Girl. Compare: Comfort Woman.

Gender
      Grammatical term dealing with the sex role identification of words and phrases. Most pronounced in Spanish and French and other languages. English is relatively gender neutral. Has been hijacked by social engineers because if they said 'sex' meaning 'male and female' somebody might blush. For the sexual identification of humans see 'Sex' and related terms.

Gender Bender, "Gender Variant"
      An individual, or group of individuals who are intentionally ambiguous about their Sex Role Identification or their Sex itself as to whether they are Male or Female. Usually done for shock value. The 'variant' version is used in some GLBT publications. Note, such individuals are not Cross Dressers such as a Female Impersonator, or Transvestites, they are appearing to be Androgynous or Asexual. Compare: Unisex.
      Many Celebrities have traded on the idea of being a "gender bender", both male and female, some with more success than others. One of the most famous was Boy George (born 1961 as George Alan O'Dowd), of the band Culture Club, who, while being openly Homosexual, maintained an appearance that he was neither a man nor a woman.

"Give me time, to realize my crime
Let me love and steal, I have danced inside your eyes
How can I be real,
Do you really want to hurt me,
Do you really want to make me cry,
Precious kisses words that burn me,
Lovers never ask you why..."
- Culture Club, Do you really want to hurt me, words and music by Culture Club, Album: Kissing to be Clever, Virgin and Epic Records, released 1982.